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post #16 of 168 (permalink) Old 11-02-2016, 12:45 PM
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I would have never guessed that you were an introvert from your posts here on TAM!

Thanks for the personality test.

I got ENFJ-A "Protagonist"

I'm surprised as I wouldn't have considered myself an extrovert!

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I would have never guessed that you were an introvert from your posts here on TAM!

Thanks for the personality test.

I got ENFJ-A "Protagonist"

I'm surprised as I wouldn't have considered myself an extrovert!

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The beauty of the internet, especially for an introvert, you can socialize on your own terms. Don't want to chat, shut off the internet Although, I prefer to describe myself as an oversized goofball!

I think I had you pegged as an extrovert, someone fun to hang around
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INTP PERSONALITY (“THE LOGICIAN”)

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.
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The INTP personality type is fairly rare, making up only three percent of the population, which is definitely a good thing for them, as there's nothing they'd be more unhappy about than being "common". INTPs pride themselves on their inventiveness and creativity, their unique perspective and vigorous intellect. Usually known as the philosopher, the architect, or the dreamy professor, INTPs have been responsible for many scientific discoveries throughout history.

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I just took one of those personality tests and I came up ISFJ which I would say for the most part is accurate (there are a few components which are way off, but not many).
My husband is an ISFJ... it's on the rare side in males.. maybe like 8% compared to something like 30% in females.. I remember reading this somewhere.. I am a little surprised that is what you came out though.. I would gave guessed you more a T (thinker) over an F (Feeler)..

I did a temperament thread here that gives a few links for tests, definitions, etc...

Learning our Temperments & that of our Spouses to better understand them..

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1. Jung Typology Test (relatively short & thorough -gives you a breakdown at the end)

2. Gray Wheelwright Winer (GWW) Test - Winer Foundation (more serious test)

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3. OkCupid | Take The Brutally Honest Personality Test (test with some HUMOR at the end -you should enjoy this one. )




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My husband is an ISFJ... it's on the rare side in males.. maybe like 8% compared to something like 30% in females.. I remember reading this somewhere.. I am a little surprised that is what you came out though.. I would gave guessed you more a T (thinker) over an F (Feeler)..

I did a temperament thread here that gives a few links for tests, definitions, etc...
Your hubby sounds like a great man

Several other times I took this type of test I actually came up as INTJ (mastermind), so the I and J were consistent. I have been running on a pretty high halloween candy sugar high all day, so maybe that factored in to some of my answers today
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I am introverted if I don't feel comfortable around someone or a group of people....I'm sure I could come off snobbish.. though I generally smile.... so in this way.. I make myself approachable to most anyone... though if I get the feeling someone just doesn't like me, or thinks they are better than me...I'll do anything to just stay out of their way...

If I Do feel comfortable however, accepted...I may open up like a flower...and come off as an easy extrovert...this can be good or bad.. I am generally loved more so -when I am just being my unashamed self (instead of holding back)... but I think I knew early on.. to do this could get me in a world of trouble.. so yeah.. I have to tame that.. depending...

I will admit certain types of personalities can wear on my nerves...but then others I LOVE & could talk too ALL NIGHT LONG.. and have done so...

All in all.. I do like my alone time... to read a book, getting lost in a dramatic movie, or writing out a thought provoking post here... all an introverts Playground !

One plus...my husband rarely gets on my nerves... amazingly I don't get on his either, so he says...this is why we can spend like all day together & it still seems to fly... it's never too much..

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Your hubby sounds like a great man

Several other times I took this type of test I actually came up as INTJ (mastermind), so the I and J were consistent. I have been running on a pretty high halloween candy sugar high all day, so maybe that factored in to some of my answers today
See I had you pegged... Husband is high on the Feeling bar, why I always say he's more of a sensitive guy (though not overly where it's relationship destructive), I've never had to walk on egg shells or anything like this.. but he's very intuned to my feelings, which is surely a plus.

You are teetering in between the Thinking & Feeling.. this makes sense.. I personally am MORE of a Thinker over my husband even.. more the analyzer, inquisitive one.. he will say to me sometimes "I hate to think".. though he's far better at Math... ... Thinkers can be a little cold, oblivious to the emotions of others, or they just don't care.. LOGIC wins.. you can go die.... if they are too high on that bar... ha ha

You are probably very balanced in these 2.. beings you are teetering.. (I have come out both also)... The one letter I am always consistent is the J.. it's more of a planner.. you weigh out a situation..you don't fly by the seat of your pants type thing..

Here is a little breakdown on all these letters.... So what do all those cryptic MBTI code letters mean?

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E = Extraverted Characteristics

Act first, think/reflect later

Feel deprived when cutoff from interaction with the outside world

Usually open to and motivated by outside world of people and things

Enjoy wide variety and change in people relationships

I = Introverted Characteristics

Think/reflect first, then Act

Regularly require an amount of "private time" to recharge batteries

Motivated internally, mind is sometimes so active it is "closed" to outside world

Prefer one-to-one communication and relationships

Every person has two faces. One is directed towards the OUTER world of activities, excitements, people, and things. The other is directed inward to the INNER world of thoughts, interests, ideas, and imagination.

While these are two different but complementary sides of our nature, most people have an innate preference towards energy from either the OUTER or the INNER world. Thus one of their faces, either the Extraverted (E) or Introverted (I), takes the lead in their personality development and plays a more dominant role in their behavior
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S = Sensing Characteristics

Mentally live in the Now, attending to present opportunities

Using common sense and creating practical solutions is automatic-instinctual

Memory recall is rich in detail of facts and past events

Best improvise from past experience

Like clear and concrete information; dislike guessing when facts are "fuzzy"

The Sensing (S) side of our brain notices the sights, sounds, smells and all the sensory details of the PRESENT. It categorizes, organizes, records and stores the specifics from the here and now. It is REALITY based, dealing with "what is." It also provides the specific details of memory & recollections from PAST events.

N = Intuitive Characteristics

Mentally live in the Future, attending to future possibilities

Using imagination and creating/inventing new possibilities is automatic-instinctual

Memory recall emphasizes patterns, contexts, and connections

Best improvise from theoretical understanding

Comfortable with ambiguous, fuzzy data and with guessing its meaning.

The Intuitive (N) side of our brain seeks to understand, interpret and form OVERALL patterns of all the information that is collected and records these patterns and relationships. It speculates on POSSIBILITIES, including looking into and forecasting the FUTURE. It is imaginative and conceptual.

While both kinds of perceiving are necessary and used by all people, each of us instinctively tends to favor one over the other
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T = Thinking Characteristics

Instinctively search for facts and logic in a decision situation.

Naturally notices tasks and work to be accomplished.

Easily able to provide an objective and critical analysis.

Accept conflict as a natural, normal part of relationships with people.

The Thinking (T) side of our brain analyzes information in a DETACHED, objective fashion. It operates from factual principles, deduces and forms conclusions systematically. It is our logical nature.

F = Feeling Characteristics

Instinctively employ personal feelings and impact on people in decision situations

Naturally sensitive to people needs and reactions.

Naturally seek consensus and popular opinions.

Unsettled by conflict; have almost a toxic reaction to disharmony.

The Feeling (F) side of our brain forms conclusions in an ATTACHED and somewhat global manner, based on likes/dislikes, impact on others, and human and aesthetic values. It is our subjective nature.

While everyone uses both means of forming conclusions, each person has a natural bias towards one over the other so that when they give us conflicting directions - one side is the natural trump card or tiebreaker
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J = Judging Characteristics

Plan many of the details in advance before moving into action.

Focus on task-related action; complete meaningful segments before moving on.

Work best and avoid stress when able to keep ahead of deadlines.

Naturally use targets, dates and standard routines to manage life.

A Judging (J) style approaches the outside world WITH A PLAN and is oriented towards organizing one's surroundings, being prepared, making decisions and reaching closure and completion.


P = Perceiving Characteristics

Comfortable moving into action without a plan; plan on-the-go.

Like to multitask, have variety, mix work and play.

Naturally tolerant of time pressure; work best close to the deadlines.

Instinctively avoid commitments which interfere with flexibility, freedom and variety

A Perceiving (P) style takes the outside world AS IT COMES and is adopting and adapting, flexible, open-ended and receptive to new opportunities and changing game plans.
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I took the test. I am:

Consul (ESFJ-t)

Thanks for the link to the test, Ellis!

The majority of it was spot-on.
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INTJ here. I don't mind parties, as long as I know a few people well enough to hang with at first. They will usually introduce me to anyone they think I'd find interesting, so I eventually get to know more people and expand my comfort zone. I prefer small groups. I'll avoid crowds, though, whenever I can.

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It took me many years, misjudgements, and misunderstandings to FINALLY conclude that hey! Not everyone is an extrovert like myself. I used to think people who were introverted were snobs. Boy was I wrong. Taught me a very valuable lesson to not judge-I have zero idea what that person is thinking, angsting about, or what their life is like.
Lucy...thank you for saying this. And thank you for learning about introverts.

I am an introvert but in many circumstances I am extremely extroverted, so most people don't realize I am actually an introvert.

My ex-h and my current boyfriend are both extreme extroverts. Neither of them really get what introversion means (although my ex-h did eventually have me pretty figured out). My boyfriend keeps referring to me as "shy". But I am not shy in the least, I'm extroverted. When I say that to him he says "to an extrovert, they are the same thing". Sigh....

I am working on helping him understand me.

But lots of times, he does something that puts me in a state of extreme anxiety because he doesn't understand that I don't want to talk to strangers....and that if he "makes" me talk to them in some manner, I get angst beyond any reasonable amount. I hate this, absolutely hate it. I can't describe the feeling. I just want to crawl under a table.

He at first thought that I wished I could talk to people but couldn't because I'm "shy", so he would think he was assisting me somehow when he would start talking to people and then try to force me into the conversation with them, too. He still doesn't really get it, but he doesn't do that anymore and he is starting to understand that I'm just not like him....I don't WANT to talk to strangers!!! He talks to everyone and assumes everyone loves talking to him, too!! He honestly couldn't fathom why I didn't just LOVE it when he would randomly start talking to anyone, anywhere. I hate that!!!

I did finally get him to stop trying to include me on the conversations he has with strangers, thankfully. So now if he starts chatting up someone in a grocery store or a restaurant, I just keep walking and get out of the scene while he goes on talking.

I prefer to just stay in the car and wait for him if he needs groceries. I know he will talk to so many people and I will be annoyed, so it is much more peaceful to me to just stay in the car and play with my phone.

I appreciate you understanding the difference, Lucy...I wish more extroverts would.


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I appreciate you understanding the difference, Lucy...I wish more extroverts would.
I appreciate the sentiment. I'm still a work in progress. There are times when I see someone in the hallway at work or somewhere in close proximity and I say hi. I get silence and then I think, "Man, what an azzhole!" But then I stop myself and think, wait a minute, it's a possibility that s/he's so overcome with social anxiety, to muster up a 'hi' is painful for them. I'm the reverse-it's painful and awkward for me to pass someone and not say hi.

My BF's 16 yo daughter has taught me a lot. She has extreme social anxiety. She can't even go alone in a grocery store and pick up a lemon for me. She gets that overcome with anxiety.

Your BF is a hoot. We might be related LOL.
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I appreciate the sentiment. I'm still a work in progress. There are times when I see someone in the hallway at work or somewhere in close proximity and I say hi. I get silence and then I think, "Man, what an azzhole!" But then I stop myself and think, wait a minute, it's a possibility that s/he's so overcome with social anxiety, to muster up a 'hi' is painful for them. I'm the reverse-it's painful and awkward for me to pass someone and not say hi.

My BF's 16 yo daughter has taught me a lot. She has extreme social anxiety. She can't even go alone in a grocery store and pick up a lemon for me. She gets that overcome with anxiety.

Your BF is a hoot. We might be related LOL.
And I have had to work to understand the bolded. I would have never understood before that extroverts literally feel uncomfortable if they are not doing that thing they do. It has taken me years to understand this. I'm still a work in progress, too.

My bf is a hoot and I love him! I even love that he is extroverted. I just don't love it when he tries to make me be like him.

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See I had you pegged... Husband is high on the Feeling bar, why I always say he's more of a sensitive guy (though not overly where it's relationship destructive), I've never had to walk on egg shells or anything like this.. but he's very intuned to my feelings, which is surely a plus.

You are teetering in between the Thinking & Feeling.. this makes sense.. I personally am MORE of a Thinker over my husband even.. more the analyzer, inquisitive one.. he will say to me sometimes "I hate to think".. though he's far better at Math... ... Thinkers can be a little cold, oblivious to the emotions of others, or they just don't care.. LOGIC wins.. you can go die.... if they are too high on that bar... ha ha

You are probably very balanced in these 2.. beings you are teetering.. (I have come out both also)... The one letter I am always consistent is the J.. it's more of a planner.. you weigh out a situation..you don't fly by the seat of your pants type thing..
Lol, you did nail it

Also, thanks for the breakdown on the letters. I do agree, between T and F I can see myself in both, but definitely more skewed towards T. Same goes between S and N, although I would say with that I am probably a little more balanced between both of those.
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INTJ here as well.

I knew there was a reason I liked you Ellis. At least as much as you can like a guy in a non sexual way on an anonymous internet message board without ever really meeting or talking with him.

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INTJ here as well.

I knew there was a reason I liked you Ellis. At least as much as you can like a guy in a non sexual way on an anonymous internet message board without ever really meeting or talking with him.
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