Yet we all have no issues talking about penises and vaginas with a bunch of strangers on TAM, or sharing shaved balls MEMEs
I do that irl, too.
BTW I agree about Halloween (or most theme) parties. Especially for adults, who seem to need such an event to allow their alter egos to come out. Since I tend to be who I am all of the time, I don't have an alter ego that needs allowed out. I guess seeing others do it, makes me feel sad for them.
I haven't really been social for a while. DH and I are also ourselves all the time, so we don't really have alter ego's. Back when we were going to costume or themed parties, we'd consider it a creative challenge to come up with a costume that other people would "get" and that was also sort of obscure or very uncommon.
I appreciate the sentiment. I'm still a work in progress. There are times when I see someone in the hallway at work or somewhere in close proximity and I say hi. I get silence and then I think, "Man, what an azzhole!" But then I stop myself and think, wait a minute, it's a possibility that s/he's so overcome with social anxiety, to muster up a 'hi' is painful for them. I'm the reverse-it's painful and awkward for me to pass someone and not say hi.
My BF's 16 yo daughter has taught me a lot. She has extreme social anxiety. She can't even go alone in a grocery store and pick up a lemon for me. She gets that overcome with anxiety.
Your BF is a hoot. We might be related LOL.
If you don't mind me asking, where did you grow up and so you live in that region still? I'm from MI. Midwestern friendly. According to an article I read, the definition of polite and friendly really varies regionally. For example, in NYC smiling at people on the sidewalk would seem creepy or insane. In NC, not
nodding and/or smiling is seen as rude or interpreted as a bad mood/unfriendliness.
My mother's closest friend was from NC. My momma raised me with manners appropriate to our area. The summer I turned 16 I went to NC for a few weeks and learned a whole 'nother level of manners! A lot of behavior that would be interpreted as friendly and very polite here could easily be interpreted as a bit standoffish and treading the line between polite and impolite there.
My sister had anxiety as a teenager so bad that she couldn't interact with cashiers. When she had to shop she always brought someone with her to handle the transaction. It took years for her to overcome it. My Aunt L lives in a rural area off of on old two lane highway. She has such anxiety that she cannot cross the street to get her mail because she once had an anxiety attack that left her in a ball on the road. They're both very warm and friendly women, but only with those they know well.
I learned to not be offended when someone failed to return greetings because of them. Instead of a typical verbal greeting like "Hi!" or "Good morning!" I just smile and nod. People seem to find smiling in return easier.
According to the test, I am a Commander. ENTJ-A.
What's funny is that you wouldn't know it if you were a fly on my wall. I have an almost non-existent social life. I just don't like too many people anymore. I lost patience for drama and other foolishness a long time ago. I can count on one hand how many people I want to talk to on a regular basis that aren't directly related to me.