Iíve taken this personality test over the years and always come out the sameÖ INFJ: ďThe CounselorĒ/ĒAdvocateĒ. Itís fairly accurate and descriptive of how I am.
Iím very much an introvert and completely understand everything others have described here. Iíve been thought of as a snob and stuck-up, when I was just dying inside not wanting to speak or socialize and not knowing what to say.
Iím also intensely private and meek (although I have my moments and can be ferocious when needed or when fighting for something I believe in); people who have pursued me as a friend or more have all said Iím extremely difficult to get to know. I canít help it. Iíve always been this way.
My introversion is compounded by my social anxiety, which Iíve had since childhood when it was so severe I had selective mutism and wouldnít speak, even at home. So it's like introversion squared.
Oddly enough, even though I'm reserved and rather "removed", I'm very interested in people and genuinely curious about them. I love learning about others and getting to the marrow of everything. It's fascinating and illuminating hearing about the lives of others and sometimes delving into their deepest secrets.
Which is probably why people love talking to me. A lot. Everywhere. Even in the ladies room
Many reveal things to me that they havenít shared with others, almost like they canít help themselves; some are even taken aback by their admissions. Iím like some kind of human confessional. Itís so odd. Maybe because Iím caring and empathetic and they think I wonít judge them? I donít know. Truly some of the things Iíve heardÖ I couldíve gone without knowing.
Anyway! Great thread; it's wonderful reading everyone's contributions.
And this seems apropos for this thread.
P.s. I've been described as antisocial before too. I always correct them and say, "asocial, not antisocial".
P.s.s. I'm sure "chatty" here for an introvert.