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post #106 of 168 (permalink) Old 11-07-2016, 08:15 AM Thread Starter
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When I read the things You say @southbound and @EllisRedding ...it gives me pause.. because we don't know if someone is possibly SHY and wants to be around others .. or they just genuinely LIKE TO BE ALONE.. like "please leave me alone, I don't want to talk to you or anyone else, but sit here in my dark corner & observe".
I don't think I would classify myself as shy, although I know others would think I am just b/c I enjoy being alone or b/c I won't be the one to just strike up a conversation with a stranger. Here is an example where I think some people might interpret it as me being a loner or feeling bad for me. I have no issues going out to eat or going to the movies alone, so I am "that guy" people may see while they are out with friends/family. The funny thing about this, I am perfectly content being "that guy", I am not self conscious wondering what everyone else is thinking about me. So while others may be feeling bad for me or think I must have no one in my life, I am happy doing my own thing.

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I hate "spring forward" and "fall back". My American Bulldog has a very accurate internal clock. Dinner is at 6:30 pm on the dot and at that time of day Ike will bark for someone to get up and feed the dogs. He will not stop until they get fed because he is a stubborn bulldog in all his "I know it's dinner time!" glory. My job is to out stubborn him and NOT give in. It takes a week or two for him to adjust to time changes.
I was worried with "fall back" how my oldest dog would respond. She is 16yr old and for me since she is really my responsibility, it is like having a baby around the house. She likes to sleep all day and then usually 1-3 times a night I have to get up with her. So far the extra hour hasn't thrown too much of a wrench into things, and surprisingly she made it threw the night until about 4am, which is very rare.
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I don't think I would classify myself as shy, although I know others would think I am just b/c I enjoy being alone or b/c I won't be the one to just strike up a conversation with a stranger. Here is an example where I think some people might interpret it as me being a loner or feeling bad for me. I have no issues going out to eat or going to the movies alone, so I am "that guy" people may see while they are out with friends/family. The funny thing about this, I am perfectly content being "that guy", I am not self conscious wondering what everyone else is thinking about me. So while others may be feeling bad for me or think I must have no one in my life, I am happy doing my own thing.
I am the complete opposite of what you describe. I HATE to eat alone.. if I was to go to a Mcdonalds.. and I was alone. I would never walk in.. I would not be comfortable sitting there alone.. I'd HATE IT... I'd do the drive through and eat in my car 1st... traveling alone.. I'd also HATE it.. loathe it.. I wouldn't go!...... I would be jealous of those who had someone to hang with.. it would probably even cause mental anguish, looking around me..

Now mind you.. this is not an issue for me.. we are a family of 8... I always have a kid or 2 / sometimes a suburban full of teens even or him by my side.. that's what I wanted in life... but again.. one doesn't know out & about.. if someone is more LIKE YOU .. or more LIKE ME.. I would feel lonely & wish I had someone to converse with.. in the shoes you describe..

I know you & Southbound are the same though.. just adding my 2 cents.. I hope it doesn't make me sound bad..
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I know you & Southbound are the same though.. just adding my 2 cents.. I hope it doesn't make me sound bad..
Nah, I don't see anything bad in your post. The point of this thread was really for each person to just open up about their experiences.
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I hate "spring forward" and "fall back". My American Bulldog has a very accurate internal clock. Dinner is at 6:30 pm on the dot and at that time of day Ike will bark for someone to get up and feed the dogs. He will not stop until they get fed because he is a stubborn bulldog in all his "I know it's dinner time!" glory. My job is to out stubborn him and NOT give in. It takes a week or two for him to adjust to time changes.
Good for Ike.

Why can't they just get rid of DST? I recall that it had something to do with farming, originally???

But if farmers go by daylight, then they can get up at sunrise;regardless of what the clock says.

Plus, around here in summer, if you drive out in the county at night; there will be tractors running with huge headlights on.

Anywayzz, I think it is a nuisance and should be abolished.
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I am the complete opposite of what you describe. I HATE to eat alone.. if I was to go to a Mcdonalds.. and I was alone. I would never walk in.. I would not be comfortable sitting there alone.. I'd HATE IT... I'd do the drive through and eat in my car 1st... traveling alone.. I'd also HATE it.. loathe it.. I wouldn't go!...... I would be jealous of those who had someone to hang with.. it would probably even cause mental anguish, looking around me..



If you ever get stuck in that position; just take something to read; or if you have a smartphone, have conversations with your friends and family by texting.
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I was worried with "fall back" how my oldest dog would respond. She is 16yr old and for me since she is really my responsibility, it is like having a baby around the house. She likes to sleep all day and then usually 1-3 times a night I have to get up with her. So far the extra hour hasn't thrown too much of a wrench into things, and surprisingly she made it threw the night until about 4am, which is very rare.
Is she waking up for potty? I'd never suggest a potty patch (the fake indoor grass over a tray product) or pee pads for someone training a pup, but I think they're lifesavers for those who have senior dogs that are getting senile or simply have to pee every 45 minutes between midnight and 5 am. If I don't get between 5-6 hours uninterrupted, I am basically non-functional, though, so cleaning the potty patch or removing pee pads in the morning is worth it to me.

@SimplyAmorous I have never lived alone. I went from home with a big extended family to my exH's parents, to houses of our own with exH and the kids, to living with my now DH with the kids. I can count on one hand how many meals I have had out by myself at a restaurant. I have no idea what to do with myself alone for more time that it takes to run errands or clean the house and do the yard.

Follow the evidence where it leads and question everything.
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Good for Ike.

Why can't they just get rid of DST? I recall that it had something to do with farming, originally???

But if farmers go by daylight, then they can get up at sunrise;regardless of what the clock says.

Plus, around here in summer, if you drive out in the county at night; there will be tractors running with huge headlights on.

Anywayzz, I think it is a nuisance and should be abolished.
UGH! I totally agree with you. There is just no reason for DST anymore and it's an inconvenience of epic proportions. Especially if you have to make a delivery by appointment in a neighboring state that is not only in a different time zone, but may or may not be on DST, as well.

Meanwhile, I get to be b!tched at by a dog for an hour a night until he understands that 6:30 has moved. He's such a well behaved and obedient dog the rest of the time, too, but he tolerates no fooling with kibble time.

Gah! I wish I could just free feed, but 2 of my dogs will eat themselves sick.

Follow the evidence where it leads and question everything.
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Gah! I wish I could just free feed, but 2 of my dogs will eat themselves sick.


Yeah, no free-feeding. I have cats. Free feeding results in some pretty rotund felines.
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Yeah, no free-feeding. I have cats. Free feeding results in some pretty rotund felines.
My friend's roommate used to free feed his cat. That stopped when the cat got so heavy the neighbors below them complained to management that their kids were jumping around at all hours of day and night. When your cat playing is mistaken for toddlers jumping around, it's time to make a change!

Is it sad that a neighbor from around the corner walks his dog by my house every day and I know her name is Maddie and she is 12 years old, but I know nothing about her human?


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@SimplyAmorous I have never lived alone. I went from home with a big extended family to my exH's parents, to houses of our own with exH and the kids, to living with my now DH with the kids. I can count on one hand how many meals I have had out by myself at a restaurant. I have no idea what to do with myself alone for more time that it takes to run errands or clean the house and do the yard.
I never had the large extended family... I was an only child.. then my mother took off...I went to live with my step mom & Dad,, they did their own thing.....it was lonely in that house... it felt like I lived in my bedroom... I feel this plays a part for me.. I dreamed of that larger family...someday, "please God"...

I sometimes envied my friends who had those large boisterous families... I did feel a part of my best friends growing up... thankfully .... so all I could do was... hopefully someday have my own.... my husband has filled the gap in so much of this..

What is interesting is...he actually sounds A LOT like Ellis & Southbound -which tends to be very opposite of me... his response to eating alone is ...it doesn't bother him on the rare occasions (out of town for work) , he's fine with it... some older people started talking to him & he said he just wanted to get out of there.... then responds by saying.. "you know me.. I hate everyone.. I just love my family"... so there you go.. I am not quite like that.. I DO enjoy meeting new people.. socializing..

I would hate hate hate being single, living alone... I would find that very sad, lonely... I cringe at the thought...I don't understand those who are content with that.. I think my husband could BE - if I died tomorrow, outside of missing me, he'd be Ok with it.... but I wouldn't be... we are very different.. I can only stand him .. because he at least loves to be with me.. if he was like a cave man , needed to get off alone too often to breath or something...this would bother me. In this way.. he probably doesn't make a lot of sense..

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If you ever get stuck in that position; just take something to read; or if you have a smartphone, have conversations with your friends and family by texting.
I always have something to read in the vehicles.. yes....you are right.. that's all you see any more.. everywhere you go.. people's head's stuck in their phones... not so sure this is such a good thing..I rarely text anyone.. it's more if I need to get a message across, I don't do a lot of chit chat type thing..... I still carry a tracfone (smartphone model).. I have "data" on there but I try to conserve it, it's great when there is free Wi-fi.
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Is it sad that a neighbor from around the corner walks his dog by my house every day and I know her name is Maddie and she is 12 years old, but I know nothing about her human?


Nah, it's still a connection to that person. They are a fellow dog lover, so you're part of the same "tribe", if you will.

I have to be careful of that kind of stuff too. Like, you bump into someone you haven't seen for a while, and your first question is to ask how their pets are doing.
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Is she waking up for potty? I'd never suggest a potty patch (the fake indoor grass over a tray product) or pee pads for someone training a pup, but I think they're lifesavers for those who have senior dogs that are getting senile or simply have to pee every 45 minutes between midnight and 5 am. If I don't get between 5-6 hours uninterrupted, I am basically non-functional, though, so cleaning the potty patch or removing pee pads in the morning is worth it to me.
Usually it is bathroom and food, so would still have to get up. She is pretty much blind and deaf, and in particular b/c she is mostly blind sunlight doesn't really regulate her sleep patterns (so she ends up sleeping all day and at night is when she is up ready to eat, etc...). My other two dogs like that I have to get up in the middle of the night to take care of her b/c it usually means they each get an extra milkbone as well lol.

This dog is a fighter though. There have already been 2-3 instances where I had pretty much said goodbye to her, thinking we were going to have to put her down, and then the next day it was like nothing happened!
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Bless you @EllisRedding for staying loyal to your old girl dog.
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Bless you @EllisRedding for staying loyal to your old girl dog.
Dogs are my weak spot, one the few times you will ever see me get emotional. Kill every person in every way imaginable in a movie, I don't flinch. Kill the dog, I am a mess lol.
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