I have never lived alone. I went from home with a big extended family to my exH's parents, to houses of our own with exH and the kids, to living with my now DH with the kids. I can count on one hand how many meals I have had out by myself at a restaurant. I have no idea what to do with myself alone for more time that it takes to run errands or clean the house and do the yard.
I never had the large extended family... I was an only child.. then my mother took off...I went to live with my step mom & Dad,, they did their own thing.....it was lonely in that house... it felt like I lived in my bedroom... I feel this plays a part for me.. I dreamed of that larger family...someday, "please God"...
I sometimes envied my friends who had those large boisterous families... I did feel a part of my best friends growing up... thankfully .... so all I could do was... hopefully someday have my own.... my husband has filled the gap in so much of this..
What is interesting is...he actually sounds A LOT like Ellis & Southbound -which tends to be very opposite of me... his response to eating alone is ...it doesn't bother him on the rare occasions (out of town for work) , he's fine with it... some older people started talking to him & he said he just wanted to get out of there.... then responds by saying.. "you know me.. I hate everyone.. I just love my family"
... so there you go.. I am not quite like that.. I DO enjoy meeting new people.. socializing..
I would hate hate hate being single, living alone... I would find that very sad, lonely... I cringe at the thought...I don't understand those who are content with that.. I think my husband could BE - if I died tomorrow, outside of missing me, he'd be Ok with it.... but I wouldn't be... we are very different.. I can only stand him .. because he at least loves to be with me.. if he was like a cave man , needed to get off alone too often to breath or something...this would bother me. In this way.. he probably doesn't make a lot of sense..
Originally Posted by notmyrealname4 View Post
If you ever get stuck in that position; just take something to read; or if you have a smartphone, have conversations with your friends and family by texting.
I always have something to read in the vehicles.. yes....you are right.. that's all you see any more.. everywhere you go.. people's head's stuck in their phones... not so sure this is such a good thing..I rarely text anyone.. it's more if I need to get a message across, I don't do a lot of chit chat type thing..... I still carry a tracfone (smartphone model).. I have "data" on there but I try to conserve it, it's great when there is free Wi-fi.