It's like my husband being in a room with a bunch of football fans... what'd he have to say...he could care less about the Steelers, the Browns, any of them.
I can feel this. I also don't care about sports at all, but I realize that most men do. Being an introvert in addition to not caring for sports leaves little to talk about with most guys, and especially the deep talks about sports. I heard some older man on tv talking about steps he took to relieve the pain of the cubs not winning all these years. I couldn't believe it. He was talking about it as though it were a disease. I can't relate; I never felt pain over a sporting event.
Here is an example where I think some people might interpret it as me being a loner or feeling bad for me. I have no issues going out to eat or going to the movies alone, so I am "that guy" people may see while they are out with friends/family. The funny thing about this, I am perfectly content being "that guy", I am not self conscious wondering what everyone else is thinking about me. So while others may be feeling bad for me or think I must have no one in my life, I am happy doing my own thing.
I feel the same way. I actually enjoy having an evening on the town alone. It's never bothered me to eat alone or see a movie alone. I'm sure there are people who wouldn't do it alone because they prefer company, but I'm sure many wouldn't do it because they worry what others would think about them. I suppose while I'm watching a movie alone and thoroughly enjoying myself, somebody else is looking and feeling sorry for me.
I don't understand that, but I guess they can't understand me either.
I did have a professor once who said it didn't bother him to do things alone. He said if we feel awkward being alone with ourself, how can we expect others to be comfortable around us. I'm sure that doesn't clear things up for everyone, but I certainly understood what he was saying.
I don't need to be with someone to validate me. What is so weird about me that i need someone else around to make me appear normal to others? Nothing, therefore, I'm fine with doing things alone.