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post #121 of 168 (permalink) Old 11-07-2016, 10:52 AM
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Dogs are my weak spot, one the few times you will ever see me get emotional. Kill every person in every way imaginable in a movie, I don't flinch. Kill the dog, I am a mess lol.


There's a meme out there somewhere about that . . but that's another thread. . . as you know so well.

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There's a meme out there somewhere about that . . but that's another thread. . . as you know so well.
Hmmm .. I will have to search around for this so called "thread" you refer to!
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Usually it is bathroom and food, so would still have to get up. She is pretty much blind and deaf, and in particular b/c she is mostly blind sunlight doesn't really regulate her sleep patterns (so she ends up sleeping all day and at night is when she is up ready to eat, etc...). My other two dogs like that I have to get up in the middle of the night to take care of her b/c it usually means they each get an extra milkbone as well lol.

This dog is a fighter though. There have already been 2-3 instances where I had pretty much said goodbye to her, thinking we were going to have to put her down, and then the next day it was like nothing happened!
I wonder if you could get the dogs on a better schedule if you kept them awake throughout the day with only little naps. It works with babies on a whack schedule, lol.

My previous dog was a Toy Poodle, Patches, I bought as a birthday present to myself when I turned 19. He lived 16 years. He was also blind, iirc for the last 4-6 years. Highly suspect he was deaf or close to it. Arthritic. Lost most of his teeth. Oh, I remember the challenges of taking care of a senior dog. Thankfully, he passed naturally before things got too bad for him and we never had to make the choice.

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Dogs are my weak spot, one the few times you will ever see me get emotional. Kill every person in every way imaginable in a movie, I don't flinch. Kill the dog, I am a mess lol.
Me, too.

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I wonder if you could get the dogs on a better schedule if you kept them awake throughout the day with only little naps. It works with babies on a whack schedule, lol.

My previous dog was a Toy Poodle, Patches, I bought as a birthday present to myself when I turned 19. He lived 16 years. He was also blind, iirc for the last 4-6 years. Highly suspect he was deaf or close to it. Arthritic. Lost most of his teeth. Oh, I remember the challenges of taking care of a senior dog. Thankfully, he passed naturally before things got too bad for him and we never had to make the choice.



Me, too.
My first dog was a toy poodle (I think she passed away around 13yrs old). My old lady now is a Shih-tzu that I spontaneously bought at a flea market after I graduated college lol. My other two currently are 4 yr old Havaneses.

Really not much I can do with her schedule. I am not home during the day during the week. I won't push this on my W, she isn't a huge dog person, and this was my dog before we got married. As much as it stinks having to get up 1-3 times a night, I signed up for this so I gladly accept the responsibility as long as she is comfortable and not suffering (the dog, not my W )

Funny enough though, on the weekend I tried waking my dog up in the middle of the day, took her outside to go pee. She just stood there like a statue with a big WTF look on her face, tongue sticking out the side of her mouth. Waited a few minutes, still statue, so took her back in to get back to her nap. The moment I finally settled in to bed at night, sure enough that is when the barking started!
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It's like my husband being in a room with a bunch of football fans... what'd he have to say...he could care less about the Steelers, the Browns, any of them.
I can feel this. I also don't care about sports at all, but I realize that most men do. Being an introvert in addition to not caring for sports leaves little to talk about with most guys, and especially the deep talks about sports. I heard some older man on tv talking about steps he took to relieve the pain of the cubs not winning all these years. I couldn't believe it. He was talking about it as though it were a disease. I can't relate; I never felt pain over a sporting event.


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Here is an example where I think some people might interpret it as me being a loner or feeling bad for me. I have no issues going out to eat or going to the movies alone, so I am "that guy" people may see while they are out with friends/family. The funny thing about this, I am perfectly content being "that guy", I am not self conscious wondering what everyone else is thinking about me. So while others may be feeling bad for me or think I must have no one in my life, I am happy doing my own thing.
I feel the same way. I actually enjoy having an evening on the town alone. It's never bothered me to eat alone or see a movie alone. I'm sure there are people who wouldn't do it alone because they prefer company, but I'm sure many wouldn't do it because they worry what others would think about them. I suppose while I'm watching a movie alone and thoroughly enjoying myself, somebody else is looking and feeling sorry for me. I don't understand that, but I guess they can't understand me either.

I did have a professor once who said it didn't bother him to do things alone. He said if we feel awkward being alone with ourself, how can we expect others to be comfortable around us. I'm sure that doesn't clear things up for everyone, but I certainly understood what he was saying.

I don't need to be with someone to validate me. What is so weird about me that i need someone else around to make me appear normal to others? Nothing, therefore, I'm fine with doing things alone.

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I did have a professor once who said it didn't bother him to do things alone. He said if we feel awkward being alone with ourself, how can we expect others to be comfortable around us. I'm sure that doesn't clear things up for everyone, but I certainly understood what he was saying.

I don't need to be with someone to validate me. What is so weird about me that i need someone else around to make me appear normal to others? Nothing, therefore, I'm fine with doing things alone.
I don't know that for many of us ...it has to be about being awkward with ourselves.. Who is awkward with themselves ?... that's a new one....

I still enjoy time alone .. like on the computer, when I sleep, driving down the road blasting my radio (I think that is when I DO prefer being alone! -as he doesn't care for my volume!).... or laying on a hammock getting lost in a book on a beautiful summer day.... there are times to just be lazy....

...I've watched many movies alone lying on the couch... it's peaceful.. I get lost in them..

I've even jumped to another movie when out with the family.. I wanted to see the romantic one while he stayed with the kids.. I would have loved him next to me... but it was more important for Dad to be next to them....so I told him to stay there..

It's not about what others would THINK ...or people like me - who appreciates "companionship" needs all this validation...I find that a little offending even (but that's Ok.. that's how you see it ... so yeah... speak it)... it's all about > enjoying a "shared" experience...this is far more preferable ...I mean that every single time (except maybe when I am driving down the road blasting the radio)....

I just happen to think every experience is better shared.. or most on a grand scale.. if you really DIG and enjoy who you are with anyway...
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Sometimes I'm impatient with small talk but roll with it nonetheless... other times I feel it's fine, maybe even welcome the exchange for what it is and accept the smiles that go along with it. My husband is more accepting of small talk and will initiate it but then quickly turns it into a solid conversation. It amazes me how he does this. We can go to the same cafe and he will learn about how their business operates, what's important to the customers and community, how they retain their staff and make it a good place to be, what their dog's names are etc. It's actually something I love about him. In those scenarios, I'll walk out having exchanged about the weather and wishing each other a good day.

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I don't know that for many of us ...it has to be about being awkward with ourselves.. Who is awkward with themselves ?... that's a new one....
What he meant was that some people are so uncomfortable being out alone that it creates an awkward existence for them. If one is not comfortable being alone with theirself, how can they expect others to be comfortable around them?


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It's not about what others would THINK ...or people like me - who appreciates "companionship" needs all this validation...I find that a little offending even (but that's Ok.. that's how you see it ... so yeah... speak it)...
I didn't have you in mind here at all. It's clear from how you describe yourself that you are not this way; however, I have known people in my life who are.

I've known people who would make every effort possible to not go anywhere alone. I once had a college class with a girl, and someone had died that we knew in the town where we had class. Instead of just stopping by after class and paying her respects like I did, she drove 50 miles back to her hometown to to get her friend to go in the funeral home with her. That's the type of things I don't understand. For people like that, I think they do need the presence of another person in public to validate that they are "normal," even though they might not describe it in those words, but that is basically what it boils down to. For whatever reason, they just can't feel comfortable being alone in public.

For me, I realize there are times in life when it is just handier to do things alone, like in that situation, and it never crosses my mind to move the stars and moon just to have someone with me.

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When I was going through something..I wanted to hear from other women .. did you go through this too?? so that let the cat out of the bag.. there was no going back...I am quiet on FB...very few posts.. .but in person.. on a forum like this, why not.. that's WHO we really are.. but true.. in real life... we should be cautious who we Open up with, what all we share - some may use it against us ...best reserved for close friends...those we've built lasting relationships with ..
My view on this has changed. I'm more comfortable opening up to those who know me, where tone and body language is part of the communication and where there is trust. My need for feeling guarded has lessened... friendships and connections can blossom and become symbiotic. I'm less likely to hold back in person than I am here. I'm not on FB. And yet I also value reading and posting here.

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I've known people who would make every effort possible to not go anywhere alone. I once had a college class with a girl, and someone had died that we knew in the town where we had class. Instead of just stopping by after class and paying her respects like I did, she drove 50 miles back to her hometown to to get her friend to go in the funeral home with her. That's the type of things I don't understand. For people like that, I think they do need the presence of another person in public to validate that they are "normal," even though they might not describe it in those words, but that is basically what it boils down to. For whatever reason, they just can't feel comfortable being alone in public.
Common sense wise.. that is a crazy story.. I would skip the dang funeral before I would drive 50 miles (Or was it 100 counting both ways!) to take someone with me.. No.. I would make an appearance, yes... that's the right thing to do...convenient / time wise / gas wise...all of it...

I would't even drive 1/4 of that to grab a companion to walk in with me ...I guess I've never thought about it or met anyone this extreme...glad you don't think I am like that.. I do hate funerals though ...I always feel I say the wrong thing.. I do hang on husband's coat tails when I go..

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What he meant was that some people are so uncomfortable being out alone that it creates an awkward existence for them. If one is not comfortable being alone with theirself, how can they expect others to be comfortable around them?
Agreed as well. We are not talking about people who simply want companionship, but instead people who don't want to be alone in public b/c it makes them feel uncomfortable. They don't want to be that "guy/girl", the one that others look at and judge as a loser or feel sorry for.
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Here is a good introvert example. After I work out in the morning I head straight to work. We have a locker room in our office building so I shower there. Normally I just head straight to my locker, hit the showers, whip my willie around like lasso, style up the curlies, get dressed, and outta there. I am not looking to have a conversation, I just keep my head down and do my thing (not avoiding anyone but not going out of my way to make eye contact either). This morning, there was another guy in the locker room, he said good morning to me when I walked in and have a nice day when he left. It doesn't bother me, I responded back kindly, but I would have been just as happy if no words were exchanged (and it does seem a little odd to me that this person wanted to wish me a good day seeing as I have never seen him before lol).
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Agreed as well. We are not talking about people who simply want companionship, but instead people who don't want to be alone in public b/c it makes them feel uncomfortable. They don't want to be that "guy/girl", the one that others look at and judge as a loser or feel sorry for.
Now, I wouldn't go to a party or wedding by myself. But I do go to restaurants or to the movies by myself. That doesn't bother my at all. In fact, I like doing that.

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I had an introvert experience today.

We are required to clock some work hours outside of regular hours, and we can pick when. So, I went in this morning at 6:30 and stayed several hours, and apparently, i was the only one there. The halls were dark and empty, and i never heard a sound. I absolutely loved it. I put on some coffee, had the news in the background, and got a lot of work done, and i loved being there alone.

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I love the days I am at work on a holiday and it is dead quiet. Same goes the mornings I go into work at 4:30am until the next person shows up around 7am.
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