Why do you see the above as an attack?
I'm sorry I offended you. I was trying to help as I have read your other threads.
If I was perfect I would have known what to write to make you feel better. I find your antagonism towards me really odd. But I don't know the full story. Have a happy new year and I hope things improve for you.
I'm sorry Katie, but I fully agree with peacem on this. I too have read your many threads. This is not about a small town of obese uneducated people. This is about your self-esteem. Please don't get defensive - just think about it.
If you truly believe these people are worthless, uneducated, and not to be respected, then why on earth do you care one bit about what they say? That is true whether they are your family, friends, ex-classmates, etc.
I am certainly not perfect and like you, I am a healthcare professional from a VERY small town in the Midwest where most people are not educated and do not have much life experience beyond what they have experienced in the town. At times it has bothered me when my family would make comments about how I lived my life, when I decided to have children (first one at 30 years old, last/fourth one when I was in my mid-forties and she died). But I came to realize after years that this really was on ME. These people probably are envious in a way, and they may be going out of their way to make you feel like you are doing something unacceptable simply because it's not a choice that they have (and by your reaction, it seems it is working). And/or, they may just be ignorant to another way of living life.
Take the loving parts of your family, leave the rest. Unless they hate you and are purposefully cruel, the reasons for this do not have to do with you. Recognize that. The reasons have to do with them.
Enjoy the things that are GOOD about that small town. I went back to my small town for Christmas too, and I have never had a better time in my life.
Katie, if you don't like your life (and it's clear that you don't), then change it. It's within your power to do so. What anyone else thinks is of NO consequence, and should not bother you for even one second. The fact that it bothers you enough to post a thread about it means to me that you feel "less than" to these people, and you have given them the power to make you feel that way. Come on Katie. No one can "shame" you about ANYTHING unless you let them.
Whatever you decide to do with your life - stay with your husband, divorce, etc - make sure it is the decision that is right for YOU. If you continue this resentment towards him (whatever the reason is), you will never be happy and you will never heal from this. If you can't learn to respect YOU enough such that you don't give a f^ck what other people think of your personal decisions, then you will never be content. Be true to YOU. You owe NO ONE any explanations, except your husband if you choose to divorce him. Please find yourself Katie - I hope you do. I'm not being critical, as it took me a long time too.
But life is short and time is going by.