There are many reasons to have kids while you are young, whether you like it or not.
I had the same discussion with my sister (29) over the holidays and stated I wish I had put my effort into getting married/having kids when I was in my early 20's, instead of putting it off. If I want to have grandkids, I'm screwed because no man in my immediate family survived to 60, and that puts great-grandkids completely out--what a terrible lack of planning on my part. Children require a ton of energy, and I am not as energetic as I was at 19, and I'll be even less so at 50. When I could once operate on 2-3 hours of sleep consistently, now I need 8-10. Odds of physical defects goes up as you age--male or female. Fertility drops as you age--especially in women.
The longer you wait, the harder it is to have kids. The more likely there will be problems. The less energy you'll have to keep up with them. Do you want to be in your 60's when your kids finally move out of your house?
If you would prefer to wait, that is an issue of preference, but don't pretend that it is somehow smarter to do so.
I agree. Times have changed though. There is nothing wrong with having kids early. Some women have their sh*t together when their in their 20s, some women don't. Some women have career goals that don't take a long time to achieve making having kids young more achievable. Some women have career goals that time longer and therefore have kids later. Some people want to travel, date around, experience life more before they have kids.
My husbands cousin is 26, a nurse, has a child, one in the oven, and a newly built house. She was married when she was 21. I have no problem with this, she achieved her goal of becoming a nurse and found mr right early.
But it was my husbands other cousin who had her first baby in high school, has 4 and she's 33, obese, struggles with money, has no career, job hops. Herself and her husband look like their 50, you can see their struggle on their face and she's the biggest culprit baby shaming me.
I live in NYC. I see older women having kids all the time. They look young, their active, there is more of a balance imo. They h e their own life they are their own person and they also have kids and a family. In my small town it seems women rush to get married, have kids, then they are all fat, miserable, and struggling. (This is obviously just my small area I'm from), but the point is it's Day and night coming from NYC and going back to that small town. I want to kill myself when I'm there it's depressing