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now if just knew how the game still worked, outside of marriage, tips, pointers ? and while I am on the topic, think it is OK to date a girl 20 yrs my junior, I am loking for a future wife who can still have children, and obviously, thats going to require a younger woman then myself, given my going over the hill recently.

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Date yes. Have kids with? No. You'll be 65 when they are graduating high school.
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Date yes. Have kids with? No. You'll be 65 when they are graduating high school.
I would be pushing 60 and I am in great shape with centarians all over my family, previously wifes constant illness precluded children mostly, so I want to have a few more. I have one
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Why do you want more kids?
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Why do you want more kids?
Biological imperative, I love kids, I truly do, I regret not having more of them.
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The last thing you should be thinking about is having children with your first date in 20 years. I would tell you to just go out and have fun, be yourself and have no expectations. Apparently it is too late for that.

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The last thing you should be thinking about is having children with your first date in 20 years. I would tell you to just go out and have fun, be yourself and have no expectations. Apparently it is too late for that.
no, that's just allot of rambling thrown together, not sure what I get from this date, maybe just a good talk, god knows just having a intelligible adult conversation with a adult woman, would be highly appreciated.
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no, that's just allot of rambling thrown together, not sure what I get from this date, maybe just a good talk, god knows just having a intelligible adult conversation with a adult woman, would be highly appreciated.
In that case you will probably still be disappointed. As clueless as you implied you are about dating in your OP (by your own description) I would imagine that a woman 20 years younger than yourself probably won't have much in common with you.

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I'm 35 with two young kids. I wanted a girl who didn't want kids and had life experience. Found one that's 1 month younger than me with two kids too, doesn't want any, divorced 7 years ago, knows what a miserable marriage is like, and how real life works. Giving her a ring tomorrow night.

I couldn't imagine seriously dating someone 5+ years younger than me. If it's for fun, go for it. But not marriage material.
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Just a word of caution. I had a friend who had the same idea and married a much younger girl to have kids. She had twins. He never got a chance to retire. The other problem is that when you are an old man, she will still be young. My sister divorced her husband because of an 11 year age difference. I know that at 65 I am not even close to the man I was at 55. A young women would kill me. Plus it is nice to have a wife who experienced l life as you did so that you do not have to fill her in on all the events she missed before she was born. Unless you are very rich, the odds are high that she will leave you when you are old and a drag on her life. I have seen this happen a few times but it is your life to do as you wish.


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Dating takes practice. No one picks up an instrument after 20 years and says what kind should I get, I want to play Carnegie hall. How about you get some practice at dating first and date all types of women, like you should so you can figure out what you really need from experience. Right now you have no idea. Baby steps.
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I'm 35 with two young kids. I wanted a girl who didn't want kids and had life experience. Found one that's 1 month younger than me with two kids too, doesn't want any, divorced 7 years ago, knows what a miserable marriage is like, and how real life works. Giving her a ring tomorrow night.

I couldn't imagine seriously dating someone 5+ years younger than me. If it's for fun, go for it. But not marriage material.
Weren't you dating someone like 10 years younger than you? I guess that was last year some time, or did I mix something up?
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now if just knew how the game still worked, outside of marriage, tips, pointers ? and while I am on the topic, think it is OK to date a girl 20 yrs my junior, I am loking for a future wife who can still have children, and obviously, thats going to require a younger woman then myself, given my going over the hill recently.
Not quite sure how old you are but I'm guessing you are in your 40's and you are probably interested in dating someone in their 20's rather than 30's especially if you are wanting more children.

Personally, I would never have a relationship with someone who is 20 yrs older than myself for several reasons.

- What would we have in common? You have 20 yrs more life experience.

- After the initial lust and infatuation stages wear off after 2 or 3 years, once again what would you have in common with each other?

- You would have way more baggage such as kids, divorce, previous relationships, financial considerations etc than any 20 something year old could handle or would want to handle before it all becomes too hard and too boring.

- When you are 60 she will only be 40 and will not want to look after kids as well as an aging partner with perhaps medical issues.

- She will eventually leave you for someone closer to her own age.

I'm 50 and if I was dating now I wouldn't go out with a 60 year old. For me 10 yrs age difference is still too much.

When I was 26 or 27 I met a man who was around 45 yrs old. He was attractive, charming, educated had money, a good job, well travelled and very interesting to talk to and I thoroughly enjoyed his company. He took me to some lovely restaurants. Made me feel safe and secure in his company and didn't put any pressure on me to sleep with him. We never had sex or even kissed and he always greeted me with a hello or goodbye kiss on my cheek. He was much nicer to be with rather than men my own age who were basically d*cks. As much as I enjoyed his company I couldn't get past the age difference if the relationship was to become serious.

BTW I had 2 kids in my mid 30's and number 3 at 40 all natural pregnancies. Yes, it can be difficult for some women to conceive in their 30's but that can also be the case in their 20's and after 40 you may need some help. I have known women in their mid 40's who have naturally conceived their first baby at the age.
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The last thing you should be thinking about is having children with your first date in 20 years. I would tell you to just go out and have fun, be yourself and have no expectations. Apparently it is too late for that.

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I'm 35 with two young kids. I wanted a girl who didn't want kids and had life experience. Found one that's 1 month younger than me with two kids too, doesn't want any, divorced 7 years ago, knows what a miserable marriage is like, and how real life works. Giving her a ring tomorrow night.

I couldn't imagine seriously dating someone 5+ years younger than me. If it's for fun, go for it. But not marriage material.


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