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post #1 of 23 (permalink) Old 02-27-2017, 02:50 PM Thread Starter
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How many of the threads here and elsewhere are frauds.

So after the "Reconciling with fiancée" thread was a fraud it got me thinking. I thought this might be the case I even mention that in the beginning, but I still thought posting would be good for someone else in a similar situation.

I see the other thread it was linked to was also a fraud. How much time does someone waste to do this though.

Anyway there are about 3 right not on SI that I am sure are frauds you can just tell by the kind of topics they are and how the OP respond to stuff, they seem to know they are pushing buttons. So my question to you is how many do you think are actually frauds?

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Re: How many of the threads here and elsewhere are frauds.

Once that post got into incredible detail about the graphic mind movies, I had some doubts. Not enough to report it, unfortunately.

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If you think that a poster is a troll, report their post/thread using the report button. Mods do not read every thread/post on TAM. So we rely on posters to help out.

I agree that the thread might have been helpful to someone reading it. Sometimes troll threads bring up good topics and I suppose we can just take them as that.

It is just amazing that someone would have the time on their hands to have multiple accounts on multiple forums to weave stores. I guess they just don't get enough drama and attention in their real life.
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If you think that a poster is a troll, report their post/thread using the report button. Mods do not read every thread/post on TAM. So we rely on posters to help out.

I agree that the thread might have been helpful to someone reading it. Sometimes troll threads bring up good topics and I suppose we can just take them as that.

It is just amazing that someone would have the time on their hands to have multiple accounts on multiple forums to weave stores. I guess they just don't get enough drama and attention in their real life.
I am glad it was a troll. The subject matter was so awful. I am always weary of questioning. Anyway I don't know if it even matters people reading can get something from it. There was a lot of information about rape survival and thoughts about promiscuity while very young that could be very helpful for people going through a 10th of what was posted in that thread that is good to have out in the inter-webs.

I have to say I am surprised that you guys don't read the 25 or so threads that are in the active topics link. That one was up there most of the time.
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To add to what ele said, there are many times we suspect a troll. However, we don't ban people unless we have good evidence that they are.....people can have some pretty extraordinary drama in their lives and we want everyone who genuinely needs help to get it.
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Re: How many of the threads here and elsewhere are frauds.

I've noticed a number of new threads where the poster does not come back to respond when they have been asked questions to further clarify their situation so that proper advice is given.
I have started threads here twice and each time I was in sort of crisis mode and desperately needed feedback/advice so I would certainly take the time to address questions and feedback as much as possible recognizing that nobody had to bother to read or help.
So I am a bit skeptical of threads where the OP never comes back and yet it is possible some such posters may not be ready to hear any advice when they originally thought they were.

Now the thread being referred to was difficult to believe but at least for me it was because it seemed so awfully painful. And yet who knows how many people are going through similar and even worse situations and desperate for guidance.

All in all I find that I and hopefully others can learn from reading such threads. I know one thing I am learning is to be more open minded and to see how one situation or problem can be interpreted in various different ways and ultimately the person going through it has to choose the path that they perceive to be the best for themselves.

In sum, it is almost inevitable to find fake theads as this is an anonymous forum and some people may have nothing better to do with their time.
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I've noticed a number of new threads where the poster does not come back to respond when they have been asked questions to further clarify their situation so that proper advice is given.
I have started threads here twice and each time I was in sort of crisis mode and desperately needed feedback/advice so I would certainly take the time to address questions and feedback as much as possible recognizing that nobody had to bother to read or help.
So I am a bit skeptical of threads where the OP never comes back and yet it is possible some such posters may not be ready to hear any advice when they originally thought they were.
Yep, I'm usually skeptical of the ones that just post once and don't answer any questions.

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So my question to you is how many do you think are actually frauds?
Quite a few. It does seem to go in waves, too. At times it seems as if 25% of new members are trolls. Right now seems to be a bit of a lull, but I would still put new members' posts as frauds or trolls as perhaps 5%.

Some are outright frauds where the person is just seeking to get things riled up. Some are I think frauds but may have some motive of research.

The ones that strike me as trolls right off the bat I just stay away from. Some I am unsure and watch just to see the train wreck.
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I've noticed a number of new threads where the poster does not come back to respond when they have been asked questions to further clarify their situation so that proper advice is given.

I have started threads here twice and each time I was in sort of crisis mode and desperately needed feedback/advice so I would certainly take the time to address questions and feedback as much as possible recognizing that nobody had to bother to read or help.

So I am a bit skeptical of threads where the OP never comes back and yet it is possible some such posters may not be ready to hear any advice when they originally thought they were.
drive-by-posters

TAM gets a lot of those. A lot of people do not understand that they need to be active in their thread to get input. Or they are freaked out about talking openly about their problem as run off. Hopefully the few replies they get help them.
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Quite a few. It does seem to go in waves, too. At times it seems as if 25% of new members are trolls. Right now seems to be a bit of a lull, but I would still put new members' posts as frauds or trolls as perhaps 5%.

Some are outright frauds where the person is just seeking to get things riled up. Some are I think frauds but may have some motive of research.

The ones that strike me as trolls right off the bat I just stay away from. Some I am unsure and watch just to see the train wreck.
We also have a number of trolls that keep creating new accounts and making up stories. Or there are the few who make new accounts, change a few facts in their story, and try to disguise who they are.

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I've noticed a newish trend in threads where the op is pretending to be ESL. 🙄

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The ones I think are trolls are the ones that it's obvious the subject matter is there to push peoples buttons.

There is one on SI/W right now where it's so obvious. She cheated on her husband because the guy was large. At one point she says, no it was only because he was large. People are still trying to help.

There is another one where the guy just posts about once every 3 days and basically his wife is a monster. Yet he just wines about it. Hundreds of posts telling him to expose her, to leave her. Nope just one or to paragraphs of , she told me she loves him. It's just brutal. No one is that passive.
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I've noticed a newish trend in threads where the op is pretending to be ESL. 🙄
I am technically ELL (English Language Learner). Now I fully understand that some people when under stress or in a rush or for any other reason including English not being their first (native) language may write a post with numerous grammatical and spelling errors but truly I find such posts terribly frustrating.

I try to be as careful as possible when I post something precisely because of the fact that English is not my first language and so when I see long posts where there is a lot of "text speak" and/or extreme lack of proper punctuation I honestly do not bother to respond.

With all the above stated I do realize that everyone is welcome to participate in this forum and I try to be careful not to assume that poor spelling or grammar immediately signifies that the poster is fraudulent.
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I am technically ELL (English Language Learner). Now I fully understand that some people when under stress or in a rush or for any other reason including English not being their first (native) language may write a post with numerous grammatical and spelling errors but truly I find such posts terribly frustrating.

I try to be as careful as possible when I post something precisely because of the fact that English is not my first language and so when I see long posts where there is a lot of "text speak" and/or extreme lack of proper punctuation I honestly do not bother to respond.

With all the above stated I do realize that everyone is welcome to participate in this forum and I try to be careful not to assume that poor spelling or grammar immediately signifies that the poster is fraudulent.
Hello, my comment on ESL was over a certain poster who intentionally made grammatical errors to support their facade (at least in my strong opinion).

I have deep respect and admiration for ESL contributors and would never mock or criticize any grammar mistakes they might make. It's been my personal experience many ESL are better technically skilled at grammar than native English speakers...especially those who've had to endure toefl.

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