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Live in nanny?

Anyone have any experience with a live in nanny? Where I live, they seem so common and I don't really get what they do and why they are worth it.

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What exactly don't you get?

They live in the house to help raise the children, especially with two working parents. If my W worked full time, this is something we would have looked at (typically called an au pair)
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Unless you have children, I would steer clear
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I've had friends who opted for a live-in nanny. They took care of the kids and did some housework. It saved having to haul the kids to daycare and cut way down on colds and such. Plus, having just one person be responsible for the child versus workers at a day-care put the parents' minds to ease. Keep in mind, that in my area a lot of the nannies were illegals so they didn't cost as much as a regular nanny. Not saying that was right but that was the way it was.
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I look at as a luxury only the rich can afford. If most people can get by without one why would you need it.

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They live in the house to help raise the children, especially with two working parents. If my W worked full time, this is something we would have looked at (typically called an au pair)


I know(ish) someone who is a stay at home mom with 3 kids and she has 2 live in nannies. I guess I just don't get it. I said they are only allowed to work 40hrs a week, so why have them live with you.
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I look at as a luxury only the rich can afford. If most people can get by without one why would you need it.
Depending on the service you use, an au pair cost can be on par with the cost of daycare.
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I've had friends who opted for a live-in nanny. They took care of the kids and did some housework. It saved having to haul the kids to daycare and cut way down on colds and such. Plus, having just one person be responsible for the child versus workers at a day-care put the parents' minds to ease. Keep in mind, that in my area a lot of the nannies were illegals so they didn't cost as much as a regular nanny. Not saying that was right but that was the way it was.


Everyone here seems to have one and they seem to be illegals as well.
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I know(ish) someone who is a stay at home mom with 3 kids and she has 2 live in nannies. I guess I just don't get it. I said they are only allowed to work 40hrs a week, so why have them live with you.
Well, that is a different situation lol. I can't see a need to have 1, let alone 2 live in nannies if you are a SAHM (unless you possibly have some sort of disability), but who am I to tell people how to spend their money.
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I look at as a luxury only the rich can afford. If most people can get by without one why would you need it.


So you don't have to do the annoying dumb mundane things that aren't important like cleaning, laundry. So then you can maximize your time and do what's more important. I guess IM thinking of a live in housekeeper not a nanny hahaha.

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What exactly don't you get?

They live in the house to help raise the children, especially with two working parents. If my W worked full time, this is something we would have looked at (typically called an au pair)
If I had wanted kids, and had the space (in our house), I would have gone the au pair route as well. I wouldn't want to put my kids in day care, but I also wouldn't want to quit working.

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I have seen exchange students work as au pair. If I'm not mistaken there are programs available for just that.

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I think the idea of being able to just leave to go somewhere, whether it be grocery shopping, a run, or a date night with the hubs without having to arrange child care and the headache that comes with it.
I don't have kids yet, I want a couple, but the thought of not being able to leave freely when I want or as easily as I want is what bothers me most. It is what it is though.
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If I had wanted kids, and had the space (in our house), I would have gone the au pair route as well. I wouldn't want to put my kids in day care, but I also wouldn't want to quit working.
After we had our first when my W was still working full time we were considering an au pair. We were both typically out of the house for work by 6am, didn't get home until 7pm or later. Factor in as well that the average cost per year for an infant at daycare is in excess of $15k...
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Where I am from and how I was raised... no one had one. That was not only a luxury but there would be negative connotations associated with a mother not raising her own child ... whether it be using day care full time or what. Now I'm living in an area where they are common, but even stay at home moms have them and I'm adjusting to the idea of "hired help", whether it is a nanny or housekeeper.
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