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post #106 of 222 (permalink) Old 05-07-2017, 11:07 PM Thread Starter
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Ah, over on SI the ban hammer dropped again. Turntheothercheek, seriously one of the most epic women i have EVER heard about and her story on "skittle ti ts" Priceless.... SI FLIPPEN BANNED HER.

omg... They say she ran afoul too many rules. I think their rules are bogus that they would perma ban HER over. She has so much advice and ....Im just so pissed off.

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So I am a former Banned member of SI, and i am a member of LS.
What is SI?

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I believe in the author's guild code of writing: the first time you use an acronym you spell it out, e.g. "Talk About Marriage (TAM)" and from then on, acronyms are assumed to be interprable.

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Ah, over on SI the ban hammer dropped again. Turntheothercheek, seriously one of the most epic women i have EVER heard about and her story on "skittle ti ts" Priceless.... SI FLIPPEN BANNED HER.

omg... They say she ran afoul too many rules. I think their rules are bogus that they would perma ban HER over. She has so much advice and ....Im just so pissed off.
They banned her because she isn't a codependent. It's just TOO difficult for the moderators to know someone like that exist. That place is the saddest site on the internet.
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What is SI?

What is LS?

I believe in the author's guild code of writing: the first time you use an acronym you spell it out, e.g. "Talk About Marriage (TAM)" and from then on, acronyms are assumed to be interprable.
Both websites are spelled out in their entirety on the first page of this thread - LS in the FIRST post and SI just a few posts later. They are LoveShack and SurvivingInfidelity.
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I'll agree with you there. Saw a post on SI from a pitiful woman crying that her loser husband "won't come home." They've been separated a year while her cheating husband shacked up with his OW but apparently 'moved out' of his concubine's a few weeks ago. This woman, whose been letting this pig sleep over her place a few nights a week, is actually wanting to drag this piece of dog**** back into her house for good and 'reconcile' with him. He's dragging his feet (hoping his OW will take him back, no doubt) and she's actually wondering how she can get this slime bucket to come back home and how she'd go about it.

Pitiful.

They should re-name that site "SurvivingTheLossOfMyPride.com"
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Ah, over on SI the ban hammer dropped again. Turntheothercheek, seriously one of the most epic women i have EVER heard about and her story on "skittle ti ts" Priceless.... SI FLIPPEN BANNED HER.

omg... They say she ran afoul too many rules. I think their rules are bogus that they would perma ban HER over. She has so much advice and ....Im just so pissed off.
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They banned her because she isn't a codependent. It's just TOO difficult for the moderators to know someone like that exist. That place is the saddest site on the internet.
@threelittlestars SI has an itchy trigger finger when it comes to banning it seems...its hard to know what will set a moderator off but I think the tone comes from the founders - a WW(now deceased) and her husband...i wonder if SI has cheaters as moderators when then moderate BSs - that would be unfortunate..

@sokillme it does seem to be a sad place doesnt it? It is awful to see so many BSs in so much pain. What makes my blood boil is when the WSs whine about how tough their life is, like a month or two from dday and they want to know when its over or debating when they can put the f in front of WW or WH...self-centered bullsh!t...

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I've lurked on the other forums for a long time and I always come back to TAM. I knew you guys would be brutally honest and you lived up to that expectation. I would prefer to hear something harsh that is constructive than to hear pleasant garbage that has no value. Otherwise, how can a person grow? Sometimes it is better to hear something you don't like in order to grow. On the other forums, I would have been soothed for sure, which is why I never posted. I was reluctant to post here and remain so after my initial encounter. I'm still having a tough time. But if I had to choose which is the most helpful for anyone, I would choose TAM. And I still do. It's not always pretty, but neither are these situations people are dealing with. And sometimes it takes some tough love to wake people up. I couldn't resist throwing my two cents in. This site is definitely superior.
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I've lurked on the other forums for a long time and I always come back to TAM. I knew you guys would be brutally honest and you lived up to that expectation. I would prefer to hear something harsh that is constructive than to hear pleasant garbage that has no value. Otherwise, how can a person grow? Sometimes it is better to hear something you don't like in order to grow. On the other forums, I would have been soothed for sure, which is why I never posted. I was reluctant to post here and remain so after my initial encounter. I'm still having a tough time. But if I had to choose which is the most helpful for anyone, I would choose TAM. And I still do. It's not always pretty, but neither are these situations people are dealing with. And sometimes it takes some tough love to wake people up. I couldn't resist throwing my two cents in. This site is definitely superior.
Agree 100% - I remember reading advice from a Bs on another forum where the OP had found out their Ws was a serial cheater with multiple APs - the BSs first sentence stated how the number of APs wasn't a concern - WTF???

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I've lurked on the other forums for a long time and I always come back to TAM. I knew you guys would be brutally honest and you lived up to that expectation. I would prefer to hear something harsh that is constructive than to hear pleasant garbage that has no value. Otherwise, how can a person grow? Sometimes it is better to hear something you don't like in order to grow. On the other forums, I would have been soothed for sure, which is why I never posted. I was reluctant to post here and remain so after my initial encounter. I'm still having a tough time. But if I had to choose which is the most helpful for anyone, I would choose TAM. And I still do. It's not always pretty, but neither are these situations people are dealing with. And sometimes it takes some tough love to wake people up. I couldn't resist throwing my two cents in. This site is definitely superior.
Just explain to me the logic of having only WS post to other WS. I get it a first so they don't get chased away. But how can people who are admittedly skewed, or they wouldn't taking the time to post going to help other people whose perspective is also off.

Also there my opinion is roping off people who are in R to only others who are in R creates a very bad dynamic. Almost everyone has a vested interest in keeping you in the group. There are plenty of times when it is no longer healthy to R, and that should be said. Admittedly some do but lots of others don't and just grieve. Sometimes divorce is an escape and should be seen a such.

The dynamic doesn't lead to healthy outcomes for most.
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Just explain to me the logic of having only WS post to other WS. I get it a first so they don't get chased away. But how can people who are admittedly skewed, or they wouldn't taking the time to post going to help other people whose perspective is also off.

Also there my opinion is roping off people who are in R to only others who are in R creates a very bad dynamic. Almost everyone has a vested interest in keeping you in the group. There are plenty of times when it is no longer healthy to R, and that should be said. Admittedly some do but lots of others don't and just grieve. Sometimes divorce is an escape and should be seen a such.

The dynamic doesn't lead to healthy outcomes for most.
I think they favor stricter posting guidelines and individual forum rules to create their desired environment. Remember who the founders of the site are. It flows from that I believe.

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I agree with the previous criticisms of SI. One thing I do find useful is if you read the wayward section or the madhatter thread it does give you a glimpse into the mind of thw wayward. It is not pretty but it is illuminating. I have to be honest even the "remorseful" waywards at SI don't strike me as getting it as much as just getting together to make eachother feel better. A few years back there was a wayward there who slept with his sister in law and another who slept wiht her brother in law , these folks doesn't need a safespace but to be shunned. You have to be a real POS to sleep with an inlaw.
Dat sowns like muh relutivs here 'n 10-A-C. If one'ofem is Martin, tell him he o's me a pak 'a ciguretts.


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Dat sowns like muh relutivs here 'n 10-A-C. If one'ofem is Martin, tell him he o's me a pak 'a ciguretts.
If I remember correctly the WH who slept with his sister in law (The spouse of his wife's brother) self identified as an attorney and to be honest he showed no regard for his BIL. But the story gets worse the parents of the brother and sister who were betrayed insisted they all spend holidays together. This POS would post and was not aggressively challenged - TAM would have challenged his worthless a$$. Why the betrayed brother and sister would R with two POS is beyond me.

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None of those sites is as bad as MB. It's run by an egocentric, power-crazy Nazi evangelist who absolutely REFUSES any other website to even be discussed - instant banishment - let alone another way of fixing things. Not only do they ban, but they have a background 'crew' who gets together to decide whom to target that month, and they literally chase people from thread to thread to catch them in bannable offenses, and if the person doesn't say the wrong thing, they GOAD that person into doing it. BTDT. I'm part of a proud alumni of banned 'offenders.'

And btw, the SECOND best site available, after TAM, is the site created BY that alumni group, MA.
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I'm another MB banned member. You described it very well. I was even lied to by the owner of the site, right before I was banned. He said he wanted my opinion about something, and said he'd keep it confidential, but quickly forwarded to the "crew".

That site helped convince me that I am an atheist.

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I was told that if I apologized to Queen Nazi, they would 'allow' me to come back.

I told her minion to stuff it.
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Just explain to me the logic of having only WS post to other WS. I get it a first so they don't get chased away. But how can people who are admittedly skewed, or they wouldn't taking the time to post going to help other people whose perspective is also off.
The concept is that only 'remorseful' and 'recovered' WS's are supposed to post there and support each other. LOL..they make it sound like these people had a terrible disease they had to battle their way back from, but I think most are (or were) just selfish butt-munches.
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