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post #1 of 222 (permalink) Old 04-05-2017, 01:29 PM Thread Starter
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So I am a former Banned member of SI, and i am a member of LS.

The moderation at SI is very quick to ban and am one of those QUICKLY banned members.

I have noticed the moderation here is fairly lax. They seem to prefer virtual spankings for the most part, preferable to banning. There is also very little of Moderator editing of posts on this forum. Sometimes inflammatory posts are deleted, it seems but not post modification. I like this.

So I rarely if EVER post at Loveshack, LS...but today i felt i needed to. There was a woman over there, A BS and she was practically holding her husbands hand through his affair, bending over backwards nice'ing him back thinking he would wake up at some point. I felt compelled to post... when i did i noticed it did not post right away and moderation was needed before approval. So i wait about an hour and find when it was posted there was heavy editing. I was not mean or harsh in those parts that were deleted! I was actually a little harsh in another part that was allowed to post. Anyway, Im not mad, but i am confused....to heavily edit peoples advice and opinions I feel is a disservice to the OP.

what do you all think? do any of you post at LS?

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If you have asked me any other time than now I would have said something completely different. I was attacked in a different thread here and I was merely trying to defend myself and my posts were deleted.

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So I am a former Banned member of SI, and i am a member of LS.

The moderation at SI is very quick to ban and am one of those QUICKLY banned members.

I have noticed the moderation here is fairly lax. They seem to prefer virtual spankings for the most part, preferable to banning. There is also very little of Moderator editing of posts on this forum. Sometimes inflammatory posts are deleted, it seems but not post modification. I like this.

So I rarely if EVER post at Loveshack, LS...but today i felt i needed to. There was a woman over there, A BS and she was practically holding her husbands hand through his affair, bending over backwards nice'ing him back thinking he would wake up at some point. I felt compelled to post... when i did i noticed it did not post right away and moderation was needed before approval. So i wait about an hour and find when it was posted there was heavy editing. I was not mean or harsh in those parts that were deleted! I was actually a little harsh in another part that was allowed to post. Anyway, Im not mad, but i am confused....to heavily edit peoples advice and opinions I feel is a disservice to the OP.

what do you all think? do any of you post at LS?
I do. But the only thing that's ever happened are my threads rolled into one thread, which is very confusing!
I don't post there often because I feel like I'm getting lectured and some ppl never quit!
I was also banned on SI but I think I deserved it for one post I made, but not the others they warned me about.
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what is SI?

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If you have asked me any other time than now I would have said something completely different. I was attacked in a different thread here and I was merely trying to defend myself and my posts were deleted.

Oh man, lame bro!

I had that happen here, but i thought it was just for a thread jack, etc.
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Nope. I've read threads over there, at each, but found this site to be way better. Some very intelligent posters here, some banned some not, but TAM gave me the best advice. I guess I've stayed because of some of the friendships I have here from those that helped me so much.

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I've been on SI for years. I've gotten warned for getting out of line on the ws forum but not banned.

I think I'd prefer getting my post deleted versus edited. Ugh.

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Oh man, lame bro!

I had that happen here, but i thought it was just for a thread jack, etc.
Good to know that other people have had posts deleted here to.

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So I am a former Banned member of SI, and i am a member of LS.

The moderation at SI is very quick to ban and am one of those QUICKLY banned members.

I have noticed the moderation here is fairly lax. They seem to prefer virtual spankings for the most part, preferable to banning. There is also very little of Moderator editing of posts on this forum. Sometimes inflammatory posts are deleted, it seems but not post modification. I like this.

So I rarely if EVER post at Loveshack, LS...but today i felt i needed to. There was a woman over there, A BS and she was practically holding her husbands hand through his affair, bending over backwards nice'ing him back thinking he would wake up at some point. I felt compelled to post... when i did i noticed it did not post right away and moderation was needed before approval. So i wait about an hour and find when it was posted there was heavy editing. I was not mean or harsh in those parts that were deleted! I was actually a little harsh in another part that was allowed to post. Anyway, Im not mad, but i am confused....to heavily edit peoples advice and opinions I feel is a disservice to the OP.

what do you all think? do any of you post at LS?

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So I am a former Banned member of SI, and i am a member of LS.

The moderation at SI is very quick to ban and am one of those QUICKLY banned members.

I have noticed the moderation here is fairly lax. They seem to prefer virtual spankings for the most part, preferable to banning. There is also very little of Moderator editing of posts on this forum. Sometimes inflammatory posts are deleted, it seems but not post modification. I like this.

So I rarely if EVER post at Loveshack, LS...but today i felt i needed to. There was a woman over there, A BS and she was practically holding her husbands hand through his affair, bending over backwards nice'ing him back thinking he would wake up at some point. I felt compelled to post... when i did i noticed it did not post right away and moderation was needed before approval. So i wait about an hour and find when it was posted there was heavy editing. I was not mean or harsh in those parts that were deleted! I was actually a little harsh in another part that was allowed to post. Anyway, Im not mad, but i am confused....to heavily edit peoples advice and opinions I feel is a disservice to the OP.

what do you all think? do any of you post at LS?
The names of the forums describe them completely. (cause or correlation I wonder)

SI is a place for broken codependent people. It is really and truly set up for people to survive infidelity and that is about all most of them do. Being band from there just means you are not codependent and recognize the suffering that comes from the mindset. It's kind of a badge of honor to be banned from there. Most of us on here have.

Love shack is just that, a shack and all that brings to mind. What happens in a love shack? What kind of people live in a shack? There you go.

People here talk about marriage. Some of them are like me, not real nice. Some of them are blunt. Some of them are hopeful but the point of this site is to discuss or talk not shape the dialogue.
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So I am a former Banned member of SI, and i am a member of LS.

The moderation at SI is very quick to ban and am one of those QUICKLY banned members.

I have noticed the moderation here is fairly lax. They seem to prefer virtual spankings for the most part, preferable to banning. There is also very little of Moderator editing of posts on this forum. Sometimes inflammatory posts are deleted, it seems but not post modification. I like this.

So I rarely if EVER post at Loveshack, LS...but today i felt i needed to. There was a woman over there, A BS and she was practically holding her husbands hand through his affair, bending over backwards nice'ing him back thinking he would wake up at some point. I felt compelled to post... when i did i noticed it did not post right away and moderation was needed before approval. So i wait about an hour and find when it was posted there was heavy editing. I was not mean or harsh in those parts that were deleted! I was actually a little harsh in another part that was allowed to post. Anyway, Im not mad, but i am confused....to heavily edit peoples advice and opinions I feel is a disservice to the OP.

what do you all think? do any of you post at LS?
I think I would prefer to have a post just deleted outright than heavily edited. It changes the context of what your trying to convey and it makes it too easy to have moderators run an agenda rather than being impartial which is part of a moderator job.

I used to glance at both of those sites but haven't in a long time.

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Good to know that other people have had posts deleted here to.
I've had quiet a few posts deleted. I must be honest, I was very guilty of T/J, but hope I never get banned.
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I post on yet another forum. They tend to have more young singles posting questions. I came here when my problems couldn't be answered there. I needed people with experience in divorce. In fact I've often thought this forum should be called Talk About Divorce. Anyway in my other forum I achieved an unadvertised status called immediate post, which means that like here whatever I write goes straight to the public and isn't checked first. I'm sure the moderators are shuddering at the thought of pre reading every post. I worked as a moderator on a home improvement board for a while. I've edited , banned and warned. As such I appreciate what has been built here.
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Love shack is just that, a shack and all that brings to mind. What happens in a love shack? What kind of people live in a shack? There you go.
Love Shack?

I got me a car, it's as big as a whale
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