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post #46 of 67 (permalink) Old 05-03-2017, 01:59 PM
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I don't think having a different perceived persona in different situations is necessarily faking it though. I think most of us have different faces we show in different contexts. People will act like the consummate professional at work, and then turn into a completely different person at home. Neither one is necessarily fake, just different aspects of the whole that come to the surface depending on context.

I don't know how I tend to be perceived online because my head is a bag of cats most of the time, and I feel more free to let those cats out on an anonymous forum. Some days I'm the guy offering rational advice, and some days I should probably unplug my keyboard.
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Honestly, I perceive you as a muppet


My thoughts exactly. Although I think more in terms of the old guys in the balcony rather than Fozzy Bear


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My thoughts exactly. Although I think more in terms of the old guys in the balcony rather than Fozzy Bear


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Re: Online persona v IRL "you", does it differ?

Not just for me,but I sometimes feel that age doesn't always translate well on here. For example,there is a member here that is eighteen,but the quality of their posts seems wise beyond their years. Similarly,I've had PM's from others who were a bit surprised at my age.

There are some members that I'm close to off the forum and I don't feel they find me any different.

I'm also a little more confrontational in real life than here when it comes to something I feel strongly about. Here,I just find it's better to avoid the threads that can cause this,as I've seen threads go on and on in a confrontational style with no real resolutions. Confrontation without resolution doesn't work for me in real life.

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I'm much better looking online than IRL

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Re: Online persona v IRL "you", does it differ?

IRL:

I'm more judgemental (TAM is truly helping me with this)
my mouth is more salty
i'm funnier
I'm more of a dirty bird
I'm far more private.

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Yes, yes it does. Just kidding, you are certainly not perceived as annoying.

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I don't think having a different perceived persona in different situations is necessarily faking it though. I think most of us have different faces we show in different contexts. People will act like the consummate professional at work, and then turn into a completely different person at home. Neither one is necessarily fake, just different aspects of the whole that come to the surface depending on context.

I don't know how I tend to be perceived online because my head is a bag of cats most of the time, and I feel more free to let those cats out on an anonymous forum. Some days I'm the guy offering rational advice, and some days I should probably unplug my keyboard.
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I’m a lot more shy in real life than I am online. I’m more likely to speak out when I can type something, read it and think it through before hitting ‘post’. I have social anxiety, as well as other anxiety issues, so speaking in person is sometimes hard for me. I think too much before I speak so a lot of times I miss my opportunity to say something because I’ve spent too much time wondering if what I say will be taken the right or wrong way.

But, I’m also funnier in person than I am online. Once I get to know you and get over my social anxiety with you and start to feel a little more comfortable and let loose, my sense of humor is ridiculous. The terms used to describe me most are ‘hilarious, caring and loving’. I don’t think that’s the impression I really give online.

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I believe I come off the way I really am..some of those who do not care for me...might actually think I am pretty nice if they met me in real life though, even if we don't share similar views...(of course Nice is a bad word these days)

I try to get along with everyone, to show some courtesy & respect... For those who know me in real life ...if they found my posts here.. they would easily be able to say... "OMG that sounds so ______".... I am more of an open book type...well, with a disclaimer - If I am comfortable around someone...if not... I try to stay out of their way, and would be more introverted for sure.

The things I talk about and share would not be surprising to anyone who knew me personally. I do rein in my mouth many times here ... #1 reason...it's not becoming to come off like a B -how does that help anyone.. nor would I want to get banned... Some people think I am really "sweet"... as my husband would say.. he wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of my wrath....I can easily rip a family member or a close friend a new A-hole if I feel it's necessary..

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I'm more or less the same IRL and on TAM, the only difference is, I may have less patience on TAM. IRL I try to be more sensitive to those around me, buy hey I am a work in progress.
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This may be a surprising one.. I don't talk about my husband all that much in real life when I get together with friends or meet new people.. co workers etc.... this happens here a lot as we on the forum are sharing about our marriages, experiences... I've also never been one to go on & on about my kids.. I know people don't want to hear all that... I only share like the highlights .. good or bad, like anyone else would.

Generally when I meet people.. I tend to allow them to open up a conversation, what they are interested in... and go with the flow.... unless I sense they are shy.. then I may try to engage them in opening up some.
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I'm more or less the same IRL and on TAM, the only difference is, I may have less patience on TAM. IRL I try to be more sensitive to those around me, buy hey I am a work in progress.
I think I am the opposite of this.. I have MORE patience in writing than anywhere else.. not that I don't have to "Hold the keyboard" at times.. I think I have less patience when driving.. just hate it when I get in back of a slow driver on a country road...
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I believe I come off the way I really am..some of those who do not care for me...might actually think I am pretty nice if they met me in real life though, even if we don't share similar views...(of course Nice is a bad word these days).
You are clearly the meanest person on TAM ...
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Re: Online persona v IRL "you", does it differ?

You are a very nice person, SA.

Yes, you get mad sometimes. But after you vent, you are willing to listen to views other than your own. That is what leads to growth, both for you and the person lucky enough to be conversing with you.

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
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