RSVP

Jellybeans · 02-02-2012, 12:12 PM

When it comes to RSVPing, especially now with the digital/technologically-advanced world we live in...

There are three options generally:

Yes. No. And Maybe.

"Maybe" is so annoying. Maybe comes across as if you're nto really sure you're going to commit to going or not.

Recently I read something about the "dreaded maybe"--how it's the most horrible way to respond to an RSVP and it got me thinking, Yeah! It kind of is.

Thoughts?

Almostrecovered · 02-02-2012, 12:27 PM

maybe means they are saying no but are afraid to tell you

Jellybeans · 02-02-2012, 12:28 PM

I totally agree that is what it means. LOL.

Mistys dad · 02-02-2012, 01:30 PM

It means they are waiting for a better offer, but keeping the option open.

Next time phrase the invite as looking for a "firm" RSVP.

Then, maybe equals "no" and that person can sit at home alone if their other offer didn't come through.

sigma1299 · 02-02-2012, 02:27 PM

Maybe is not an answer to an RSVP. The idea that it is just shows how degraded the concept of basic etiquette has become. If you're answer is maybe - don't answer until you know, when the deadline arrives pick one.

heartsbeating · 02-02-2012, 05:12 PM

I feel guilty now.

I was invited to a friend's birthday in a month's time. I selected maybe. I also wrote her that we're waiting to confirm if family are flying in that weekend - but otherwise we'll definitely be there. I chose maybe because I didn't want her to think I'd ignored her invite.

sigma1299 · 02-02-2012, 05:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by heartsbeating

I feel guilty now.

I was invited to a friend's birthday in a month's time. I selected maybe. I also wrote her that we're waiting to confirm if family are flying in that weekend - but otherwise we'll definitely be there. I chose maybe because I didn't want her to think I'd ignored her invite.

Nothing wrong with that as you explained the reason for not being able to give a definite answer and it's a valid reason.

My mother is a stickler for etiquette. I grew up with Mrs. Manners and Emily Post. I can set a table like its nobody's business.

heartsbeating · 02-02-2012, 05:41 PM

Ha! Well, coming from someone raised by Mrs Manners, this has eased my mind about it