Still dont under stand but English isnt my first language. Any ways my friend liked you and thought you nice. I dont mind your responses as you read what is written. I wish more were like you.
Mom. Don't mind me, I know I can be a PITA. Pain In The A$$.
Anyway, I do struggle with the knowledge that everyones situation is at least a little different from the next person. So on the one hand everyone is different. But we do see some patterns that keep recurring.
So we have to balance these things. I think we get there collectively. Meaning I am a believer in diversity. An aggregate message does get put to the posters. We don't always agree but that is actually a strength. The posters get a variety of views. Some of my favorite people have been folks who debate with me and make me rethink things. I like that. I can't grow otherwise. Bright Eyes, I am missing you.
Yes many of us hammer home the same things time and again. But you know what ... that is a good thing.
I never try to tell anyone how to "snoop" for example. Not my area at all. We have real experts at it here. They come by it the hard way. I have never had to snoop on my wife. There is a collective experience here.
So in all sincerity I think we as a group tend to tag team things. We play good cop, bad cop and crazy cop with them. They get to choose.
I get the premise of your thread. And yes you are correct. We should be aware that one size does not fit all. Good point.
For the most part I think regulars on this forum are fundamentally good folks who mean well. Everyone brings something special to the table. I have learned a lot here and have been able to use it in my marriage and for that I am sincerely eternally grateful.