AFEH

Being a bit weird helps.

pidge70

Doesn't that depend on an individual's perception of weird?
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Browncoat

Easiest answer is for you to take this test (or one like it):

Personality test based on Jung and Briggs Myers typology

pidge70

Well, apparently I am an ESFJ.....now I need to figure out what that means.....lol

Mavash.

I'm weird and proud of it.

Browncoat

Well to answer the question you first asked, the "E" in ESFJ stands for extrovert. More details you can look here: Portrait of an ESFJ

ESFJ stands for: Extraverted Sensing Feeling Judging

pidge70

I kinda feel it may be a bad thing.
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Mavash.

It's never a bad thing to be who you truly are. For decades I hated being an introvert. Spent so much energy trying to be extroverted because my parents didn't like me as is. They wanted me to be the bubbly cheerleader type and that is so NOT me.

Now I'm finally okay with who I am and if you don't like it then that's your problem not mine. I like who I am....finally.

Browncoat

I didn't read the whole thing but what I did read sounded pretty great!

Sounds more than alright in my book. Even if that doesn't apply to you, just be comfortable with who you are... you're the only you you are going to get.

Could I have packed anymore "you"'s into that last part there?

AFEH

Best way to be

pidge70

It does actually apply to me but, reading some of it definitely sounded like me due to my being a BPD'er.

ESFJs who have not had the advantage of developing their own values by weighing them against a good external value system may develop very questionable values. In such cases, the ESFJ most often genuinely believes in the integrity of their skewed value system. They have no internal understanding of values to set them straight. In weighing their values against our society, they find plenty of support for whatever moral transgression they wish to justify. This type of ESFJ is a dangerous person indeed. Extraverted Feeling drives them to control and manipulate, and their lack of Intuition prevents them from seeing the big picture. They're usually quite popular and good with people, and good at manipulating them. Unlike their ENFJ cousin, they don't have Intuition to help them understand the real consequences of their actions. They are driven to manipulate other to achieve their own ends, yet they believe that they are following a solid moral code of conduct.

Mavash.

Look I'm broken no doubt about it. PTSD, depression heck even the BPD description fits me. Does it affect my core personality? Maybe....maybe not. I may never know actually who I really am under all these layers of abuse.

But none of it matters because I like who I am TODAY right now broken and all. I'm adoringly neurotic and that's okay. As long as I don't take any of this out on others I'm golden.

Browncoat

Everyone has flaws. I know I have more than enough to get me down if I focus on them and on them alone.

You have to consider yourself as a whole though. Also consider that you have others in your life to help you keep you grounded.

I know that's one of the things I love about my wife. When my flaws manifest she's there to help me get back on track and make things right with others around me. She helps me get my head back on straight.

Mavash.

All personality types have downsides.

I'm INTJ which means I'm unfeeling, cold, logical, judgemental (just to name a few), etc. Does that mean I'm stuck this way? No I can learn. I'm not near as judgemental as I used to be and I am working on showing feelings and being more vulnerable.

Use the weaknesses as a place for personal growth. I will never be the cheerleader that cries at movies but I can learn to show emotion to my kids and husband. I can learn to accept others instead of judging. All it takes is awareness and a willingness to change.

southbound

ACTIVITY LEVEL?

I'm curious as to what other introverts activity level is. In other words, do you always have to be somewhere or have an activity going on in your spare time, or can you enjoy just relaxing and being somewhat of a homebody?

It seems like people where I live always have to be somewhere; the lake is a big deal here. Personally, I can just hang out at home a lot and enjoy myself. Not that there are any great activities going on, but it's just enjoyable and relaxing.