DvlsAdvc8

I think Karaoke is intentionally making oneself look ridiculous. Most people cannot sing. lol

There's a club here I got to from time to time and you see some people dancing who really shouldn't be, and they're exaggerating the fact they can't dance... its ridiculous, hilarious and they look like they're having an amazing time.

Being able to really throw yourself out there is an enviable trait.

DvlsAdvc8

Not me... I've gone to bars a couple times alone, but I always feel out of place. I think its just my thinking about what other people are thinking of me... "who goes to a bar alone?"

That said, if you're single, the easiest woman to approach is the one who is sitting alone... and if you're also there alone, its less intimidating to her than meeting several people and its a point to start a conversation.

Typically, the only thing I do alone is going to the coffee shop and reading.

DvlsAdvc8

I usually point to two things, comfort in social situations and willingness to be closer to the center of attention.

Social situations tend to wear out and intimidate introverts, while extroverts feed off of them.

As an aside, I remember reading somewhere that in relationships its generally better for the male to be more extroverted than the female. I don't know how much weight I give it... this forum appears to have a lot of females who are more extroverted than their husbands. I'll see if I can find it again.

DvlsAdvc8

Depends on what you want. I'm an introvert that constantly fights against being introverted. I get cabin fever if I stay home too much, so I seek people who want to be out... and try to feed on their social confidence.

In small groups of people I'm familiar with I'm much more extroverted and dominant in conversation, but around strangers or less familiar people... I'm quiet. I'll wait to figure out the social order before engaging.

Mavash.

I could have written your post almost word for word. I'm bubbly and cheerful but I'm still introverted. I have ptsd which makes me fearful and overwhelmed. Therapy has helped me overcome much of that but I'm still introverted.

For years I debated the chicken-or-the-egg scenario but after 3 years of therapy over 13 years I'm still introverted. If I were truly extroverted I'm fairly certain it would have come out by now.

Browncoat

Perhaps, though I'd say that my wife being the extrovert in many ways works for the better. She's the one that normally interacts with others at my children's school and activities, neighborhood functions, etc... Few people have met my wife and come away with anything short of positive feelings towards her, she's just a sweet lady.

Myself, I work from home primarily so my outings are short in nature: church, gym, saying hello to the neighbors as I walk my dog or with my children, etc... That suits me fine, as it tends to be longer engagements that wear me out.

heartsbeating

oh! To me that's 'intentionally having fun' rather than 'intentionally making oneself look ridiculous' lol. I get your point though.

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sure thing sugar - and I'm not loud and boisterous all the time in any way

but I will talk to anybody - I love having random conversations with complete strangers - and I like to be around lots of people, even if I'm on my own

if I got too annoying you could always gag me or something

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