I like this you tube video of the Introvert
trying to explain to the Extrovert
why he is the way he is. Introvert vs. Extrovert Conversation - YouTube
My inborn temperment is a combination of an Extrovert (Choleric) & an Introvert (Melancholy)..... both are of the "intense" variety......meaning I like to get down to business, screw small talk and yeah, the deep is what I enjoy and if work needs done.... lets get on it....Or I will be temped to crack the whip...I'd likely make a nasty boss.
Where as the Sanguine (primarily the extroverted Partiers who enjoy goofing off on the job-- but always very friendly) ...and the Phlegmatics (your laid back dry humored type) are of the softer (less intense) type...small talk is their domain......
I am a homebuddy....so is my introverted Husband so this is a blessing... but I LOVE
a good happening party with good friends.....we throw them ourselves many times .... so long as I enjoy the type of people around me.... I fit in very well, can be very boisterous, laughing all night long, not caring when anyone goes home...
But like Browncoat, I enjoy meaningfull conversation. Much humor can still be found in the meaningful... that is my experience. Surface talk generally bores me. I have less to say when I am around jokers than I do when I am around the serious. And I have a hard time faking that to fit in...so I just be who I am, if they want to think I am weird... that is fine.
Wouldn't be the 1st time, and it won't be the last.
If there is too much drinking where people don't know what they are doing, any sort of wreckless behavior, That type of party is going to suck for me & I will be looking for the exit very fast, the bar scene holds zero interest.
Often Introverts will marry Extroverts, and for the most part, this works very well....if they care to understand each other, as the weaknesses of one can be the Strengths of the other.. this is how it is in our marraige anyway. I have always been very friendly to anyone I LIKE... even strangers, and I have always had a thing for the introverted guys.
It is claimed statistically Introverts have a higher intelligence in comparison... they also often do the work behind the scenes but get less glory for it, kinda like the "Wind beneath the Extroverts wings".