This is an interesting topic. I've always wondered if introverts find extroverts annoying, or fascinating?
Depends.
If an extrovert is doing something I think is illogical or plain dumb and trying to convince others w/o logic to do things their way... that's annoying.
If an extrovert is able to unite people when it seemed impossible... wow just fascinating.
I'll give an example, my BIL is a super charismatic extrovert. I went to a Raiders vs Chargers game in San Diego once and my two BILs (the other BIL is an introvert) and I were sitting in the upper most tier of the stadium. Now if you don't know anything about this game... it's the closest thing at the time LA Raider fans had to a home game for them. So there was just a sea of Raider fans in the top tier of the stadium where we were. So much so that it felt like we might as well have been in Oakland (btw I'm a Raider fan and my two BILs were decked out in Chargers clothing).
So the Raider fans around us were harassing my BILs, and they were BIG dudes. So we just sat there and took it. The more drunk they got the more aggressive they became. At one point I had to go to the bathroom.
When I left the Raider fans were still harassing/heckling my BILs... but when I got back (and man I wish I could have seen how this happened), my extrovert BIL had his arms around a group of these raider fans. He was wearing a Raiders cap and they were all drinking and being buddy-buddy. All in the time it took me to go to the bathroom nearby and back. I was floored!
my boss is incredibly introverted but leads an organisation of 6000 staff and extremely high clinical risk with a turnover of over £350m with incredible skill. He hates the politics and the networking, realises he has to do it but doesn't enjoy it. We had an extrovert leading the organisation before that - she was a disaster because she floated around meeting and greeting and never had her eye on the ball
these 'great leaders' often exhibit real psychopathic behaviours
I'm having a hard time articulating exactly what I think on this, but I think my main point is that "leadership" isn't a personality trait, its just a behavior - being able to bring the right skill set into the right situation at the right time (and I think extrovertedness has nothing to do with it at all) yet sytematically we seem to treat leadership as though it is a virtue somehow more accesible to those who stand out more. By doing so we undervalue the significance of the vision and all those "followers" who stand behind it.
Kind of why I avoid Mom groups. I don't understand being endlessly fascinated by talk about strollers and potty training and homeschooling...if I mentioned sex they'd have a heart attack!
I love my children more than life itself, but the fact that they poop does not impress me.
I am on the same page as you in this Lady Frog......I never cared to listen to a bunch of baby/toddler talk at my Mops group....(Mothers of Preschoolers)..... just couldn't get too enthusiastic about that stuff, it is so common place....until we start talking about something JUICY... I was generally the Leader of the pack in this, changing the course...if someone threw a question to me...or it was my turn to speak.
Had a party at my house with these conservative Moms.... and well.... we ended up talking about our husbands & SEX into the night under my Gazebo, no baby talk that night .....alot of going on!! I've had a reputation ever since.
Does sitting in the corner giving me the stink eye while me and another regional sing Phil Collins -Against All Odds ( company Christmas party) make pidge an introvert? LOL
This is an interesting topic. I've always wondered if introverts find extroverts annoying, or fascinating?
'Cause my husband really does look at me and shake his head a lot, but then he says that my personality is one of the things he loves most about me. So I can never figure it out.
I don't particulary find them either. I'm fine with being around extroverts. The annoying part comes when they go into "fix-it" mode and try to drag us into all the social action because they know we will enjoy it so much more. Yeah, right.
I don't particulary find them either. I'm fine with being around extroverts. The annoying part comes when they go into "fix-it" mode and try to drag us into all the social action because they know we will enjoy it so much more. Yeah, right.
Never been that way myself....too busy having my own fun.
Does sitting in the corner giving me the stink eye while me and another regional sing Phil Collins -Against All Odds ( company Christmas party) make pidge an introvert? LOL
Ummmm - No. But it may make you a little questionable
I would have thought I was an extrovert but I don't think I really had true understanding of what it meant. I'm interested in reading all the comments ...I'll be the student in a course who strikes up conversations and jokes with others immediately. I noticed last week on crowded public transport how instead of remaining quiet for the journey, I made jovial banter with others squashed around me. But I really do enjoy my alone time. Yes, introversion is not about shyness.
When I was with my friend (he's gay for the record just to avoid any confusion) recently, we wrapped up the end of the week working together. He looked exhausted and was in a quiet mood. I asked how he was doing. He said he was ready to have a break, it had been so busy. Then he said a few nice things to me - he said how much he appreciated me being there and helping with the work load, that he couldn't have done it without me, mentally moreso than anything. He said I was the perfect person to have at the end of his busy season because I'm an introvert and he finds my energy to be calming and that allowed him to feel less stressed and ease out of his frantic state of mind. He said that he finds me to be reflective and thoughtful, and that allowed him to think things over and be in a calmer place.
We affectionately term me his 'mistress'. His 'wife' (he's not married, it's just an affectionate term, he's a gay man) has known him much longer than I have and they have been through more together. They have a closer relationship than him and I. I've never met her but he tells me she gets jealous if he refers to me. She's an extrovert. I'm the introvert.
I didn't realize that's how he felt being around me. Including being introverted. Interestingly to me is, that's exactly what I feel from being around him.
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going on!! I've had a reputation ever since.
