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Old 05-27-2012, 02:06 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I just heard an episode of Car Talk where a listener proposed a theory about long-term marriages. He said that he has noticed that people who are married for a long time, 10 + years, tend to keep their cars a long time as well.

Does this theory apply to your marriage? How long have you been married and how old are your cars?

Do you think this means that you do not like change? That you are loyal? That you have a high threshhold for pain? That you gravitate to fixer-uppers?

The theory does apply to my marriage. We keep our cars until we have to push, pull, or drag them to the car grave yard.
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Old 05-27-2012, 02:17 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Not me.

I am married long term, but like to keep fresh vehicles.

I worked too many late nights, on too many ****boxes, that absolutely had to be driven to work the next day.

I promised myself if we ever had the means we would never worry about needing to work on a vehicle unless we wanted too.

We do now and I don't have to lay on my back in the driveway in February anymore.
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Old 05-27-2012, 03:23 PM   #3 (permalink)
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funny, I keep my cars for about 2 years, and my marriage lasted about 2 years. (after 4yrs together prior)

figures.
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The Silverado (he took after deserting me) is still him with these days. It's a 2006. I had to get my own vehicle and found a 1986 Nissan Maxima. My car now is older than my marriage of 24 years. Not quite sure what that means except that the car is still running but the marriage ain't.
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Old 05-27-2012, 04:19 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Hmmm

Wife and I have been married 10 years. We have had our car about 8 of that.

Her Brother leases. Oh and he leases his truck too.
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Hmmm

Wife and I have been married 10 years. We have had our car about 8 of that.

Her Brother leases. Oh and he leases his truck too.
Good point. What does it mean if you lease rather than buy?
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maybe it implies that you when you get something of value you take good care of it. Thus it lasts for a long time and it's good for you.
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Old 05-27-2012, 06:11 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I just heard an episode of Car Talk where a listener proposed a theory about long-term marriages. He said that he has noticed that people who are married for a long time, 10 + years, tend to keep their cars a long time as well.

Does this theory apply to your marriage? How long have you been married and how old are your cars?

Do you think this means that you do not like change? That you are loyal? That you have a high threshhold for pain? That you gravitate to fixer-uppers?

The theory does apply to my marriage. We keep our cars until we have to push, pull, or drag them to the car grave yard.
The theory heavily applies to us... I doubt many on this forum has vehicles as old as ours.... a 91 & 92 Buick, and a 97 Suburban.... We aren't crazy about change, we are both Loyal to the bone... but also very cheap....we are not rich people and we enjoy having $$$ saved in the bank..... a vehicle to us -is only to get us from point A to point B -without wrecking on back country roads......it is not to impress, and frankly, to have payments would disturb me greatly and likely make me very very cranky.

Our lust for being debt free -keeps us from ever buying newer cars.....we've never paid a dime on a car payment since we've been married. We generally pay approx $2,000 for each .... Our Burb was $5,000 though... and get them to last a good 6-7 yrs.

Yep..and keep them till they are ready for the Junk yard. My husband is a fine mechanic so this works very well for us. He would choose to buy newer tools for his collection - and fix something himself -over hiring another to do it for the same cost. So he has gained alot of knowledge along the way in car repairs.

I guess that is the "pain" you speak of.
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I just heard an episode of Car Talk where a listener proposed a theory about long-term marriages. He said that he has noticed that people who are married for a long time, 10 + years, tend to keep their cars a long time as well.
I`ve had this truck for 2 years but had the last truck 10.
I`ll hang onto this truck until it doesn`t drive anymore.

I always keep vehicles until thoroughly "Used".

I think it`s because I buy something to keep it (Car/House)

The best thing about my last truck was the total lack of an auto payment each month.

Been married 12 years.
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Old 05-27-2012, 07:10 PM   #10 (permalink)
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We spent the first part of our marriage putting band-aids on one junker after another( I am a pretty good shade tree mechanic), then as we earned a little more money, I made sure that she had a good car and I drove the junkers.
Finally, we are financially well off enough to have decent vehicles and we seem to keep them for a few years and trade them in. However, we are both very happy with our vehicles now and will likely keep them for a while.
I do still have my truck that we bought in 1997, but it is just the home supplies/dump run truck.
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Old 05-27-2012, 07:35 PM   #11 (permalink)
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We've done it both ways. At first my husband was a need a new car every few years kinda guy (I'm a drive it till it dies girl).

We've been married 20 years and we've haven't had our cars 7 years but we also had 3 kids in 11 years so our needs changed.

Our cars are paid off and will NOW be driven until they die. LOL
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Old 05-27-2012, 10:02 PM   #13 (permalink)
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If it was up to me, we'd still be driving what we started out with.

I leave the car decisions to him (well sort of, we agree on the amount and style, so it's still a joint decision but it's very much lead by him) and he switches things up every few years. Even though his job has required a certain level of vehicle for taking clients out etc... I think he'd still be this way regardless. I used to have my own car but when we moved interstate, I didn't have the need. Living inner city, I use public transport.

So he refreshes every few years and I have no car at all. And that says what?!
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I've owned as many cars as I've had relationships.

My first car (and girlfriend) I got in '94 (a 87 Fiero SE and a 1977 5'8" dark blonde german) girl I had until 1999, Fiero I kept until 2003, when I bought a 94' Plymouth voyager that tragically got destroyed (just like my marriage from the same year) I would have still been driving the van despite it being a piece of junk but ended up quickly shopping for a replacement, my fusion which I've had since January, (and christened it with a woman I also had a round for a few months).

So for me the car analogy is strongly a propros, though I tend to keep cars for a little longer than women.
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My car was bought new in 1996. It's going to be replaced soon since it is worn out.

My wife's van was bought new in 2000.

I bought my truck in 2003 and have no intention of replacing it for at least 5 more years if not longer.
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