shy_guy

Even as slow as I am to pick up on hints, I can see that there is NOBODY on earth that wants something to be noticed as much as an expectant mother wants people to notice that she is pregnant. You know, I LOVE the way an expectant mother's face lights up when you notice this and can make it a point to make pleasant conversation about it. She is happy, and I want to share the joy just a bit with her ... couple that with the fact that I just like to brighten up the day for people I'm around and I absolutely do NOT want to miss it if a lady is pregnant and wanting it to be noticed (which is pretty much every pregnant lady I've ever been around).

Now the problem is ... this is one we guys absolutely cannot afford to make a mistake on. If she's preganant, we MUST notice, but if we ask a lady if she's pregnant, and she's not ... oh my gosh!!! ... there's NO recovery from that mistake!!!

That_Girl ... just remembering your pictures, you probably would have thrown me off big time with your tumor ... you just would have had to tell me ... either that, or it didn't look in person like the pictures you posted. If it did, then I'd likely be in your doghouse right now ...

What I do, for my own safety, is watch for the lady to frame her tummy - usually with one arm on top of her belly and one below to accentuate the motherly figure that is developing. I've never seen anyone but a pregnant woman do that, and it is common enough I think it must either be instinctive, or it is taught in the secret pregnant school that guys don't know about. Some of the more bold mothers may actually caress their babies. Those signals usually let me know that it is safe to ask her when she is due. Either that, or I watch for her to mouth the words "I'm pregnant" to one of the other ladies (THAT'S CHEATING!!! We don't get communication that clear!! ... you just expect us to KNOW!!! or else you're expecting us to eavesdrop on your silent girl-talk).

As much as I want to brighten your day if you're around me, and as much as I want to share in their joy when a lady is expectant, she's gonna have to give me some STRONG signals for me to know for sure ... we just can't afford to make a mistake ... it's a cruel trick of nature - more cruel to the guys than to the ladies ...

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Gaia

Yep... this is it for sure!! lol...

YinPrincess

True story.

Two days after giving birth to my daughter, my husband and I were putting baby in the car when two Jehovah's witnesses came about. One lady, a young one, admired the baby first, then turned to me... Noticed my still-round belly and asked...

"When are you due?"


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Dollystanford

I once got up to give what I thought was a pregnant lady my seat on the train....you can guess the rest!!!

she still took the seat, I was too embarrassed to argue

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I'm not pregnant, and you still brighten my day!

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lamaga

Hee! Don't sweat it, shyguy, I'm female and I never ask unless I'm REALLY REALLY SURE, as in, I know them.

shy_guy

Awwww shux ...

Thank you, SW.

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that_girl

Oh people used to ask me all the time when i was due. I'd just say I was getting the tumor removed soon, but thanks for bringing it up. They shut up really quick.

It's rude to comment at all, unless you KNOW the woman is pregnant.

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shy_guy

And here is the problem ... it would be so easy if pregnant women didn't want SO BADLY for it to be noticed as early as possible ...

You can't blame them for that - it's a wonderful time in their lives. it just puts the rest of us on the spot.

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that_girl

Eh. I won't say it to any woman, and I'm a woman.

Strangers commenting on my body, imo, is rude. When I was pregnant, I didn't enjoy it and when I was sick, I didn't enjoy it.

Especially the "OMG YOU'RE SO BIG!" comments from strangers when I was pregnant. Wtf?

But that's just me. I was just raised to not say anything until you know for sure. If it's a stranger, just let it go.

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Lon

Did they look at you thinking you were a psycho for considering an unborn child a tumor and having a very very late term abortion?

And Shy Guy, thanks for the hint about the arm thing. I've never noticed that... but if I do I will make sure to continue keeping my mouth shut.

that_girl

lollll I don't care what they thought about me. I was buying groceries and they invaded my life. lol.

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Lon

My ex hated when people commented on her body and absolutely DESPISED it when strangers would ask to touch her belly (I can't believe how many people think that is appropriate - it IS NOT the same thing as asking to pet a dog, lol).

She did appreciate compliment from those she already told about her pregnancy though.

lovesherman

I'm with that_girl, I did not like strangers commenting on my pregnancy, and especially did not appreciate people who wanted to touch my belly. Pregnancy is a very social condition, but some women do not appreciate feeling like public property during that time. Best not to say anything until you are certain that they are preggers.