one_strange_otter

New member posted in general relationship discussion this morning. Thread was "need advice" I think. It's gone now. Anyone else get a chance to read it? I don't think I was out of line but apparently the guy took his ball and went home. No posts show up under the member Blindwater anymore.

lamaga

No, you were quite kind. He didn't want to hear anything other than, "wow, you're really cool, your wife must be lucky."

one_strange_otter

Ok, whew. glad someone saw that too.

one_strange_otter

I wonder if that's a record of some kind? 3 posts and he's out?

lamaga

And I wrote a really thoughtful response in which I was much kinder than I really felt like being. No good deed goes unpunished!

Boy, I feel for Mrs. Blindwater.

In_The_Wind

Sometimes the Truth hurts

anchorwatch

He was disturbed about something posted. I went over the post, I saw nothing to get that excited about. I thought he went over the line about it and the mods deleted it.

one_strange_otter

yeah, she sounded pretty emotionally fragile. But then again, he was a salesman with a history of always being right. Best way to always be right is just never leave evidence of being wrong.

anchorwatch

You can be a little tough , but so can I.
I didn't see any of that here.

one_strange_otter

Wonder if any of the mods could comment on that. I'd be interested to know if he left or was disciplined....

anchorwatch

True, your post can be quite hysterical.
Yet was it historical?

Amplexor

The OP felt attacked and deleted it on his own. I found the posts to be fairly level handed but could understand his concern.

He is welcome to repost if he feels the need.

The mods have noticed a trend of a "pack mentality" on the forum lately. This was discussed just this morning. There appears to be quite a bit of presumption and judgment being passed down. I am not accusing anyone in this thread, but another mod shut down a thread recently for that reason. I expect you may see some closer monitoring.

We welcome and thank all of you for your participation on TAM and value your willingness to help others in need. Even if sometimes it requires some tough talk. Just something to think about.

Thanks.

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anchorwatch

K, thank you Amplexor.

MrsOldNews

I think I could have been nicer to him but the truth can be harsh sometimes. The first topic I ever started in this forum had me in tears due to an extremely harsh response I got from an innocent question I posted. I got over it, and learned from it just like blind will....hopefully.

Halien

If it helps, I'd say that your response to the post was balanced and helpful, in my opinion. You offered changes that should be considered on both sides, while giving your opinion on the OP's stance.

As Amp suggested, there have been a few threads recently where the responses seemed to quickly reframe the OP's original question, and we discussed the trend. I think its easy to forget how hard it can be for some new members to break the ice and post their first thread. Some might still be very sensitive, but I hope that the new poster will come back and participate.