Height difference...male input...does it bother you?
This is kind of silly, but just curious...
My H is about 3-4 inches shorter than me. I am almost 6 feet tall so its not hard to find a lot of people who are shorter than me. Obviously the height difference doesn't feel as awkward as it did when we first started dating, we rarely think about it now.
The only time I ever think about it is when we get dressed for formal occasions. I have not worn heels when going anywhere with my husband, ever. I do wear heels to work sometimes or for a night out with girls only (happens rarely) but I have always chosen to wear flats when out with H so it didn't make our height difference even larger. I don't know if he cares - but, we both like to dance and when dancing is the only time I still to this day feel awkward if I am wearing anything that is not completely flat. Otherwise it feels too 8th-grade-danceish with his head in my chest !
This is a girl thing - but, it's hard to find a dressy pair of flats that are formal enough to wear to a classy function!
I am wearing a very nice c0ckail dress tonight and essentially a rhinestone studded pair of flip flops with it. I think it looks a little off balance.
If you are in this same situation, do you make shoe choices by it? Do you care if you are significantly taller than your husband? (With a pair of heels on I am easily 6 inches taller ) Posted via Mobile Device
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(With a pair of heels on I am easily 6 inches taller )
6" heels?! Pics please!
haha... seriously though, I definitely prefer shorter women, I'm only 5'-8.5" (or as I like to say 5'-9" cause that half an inch makes a big difference)... Now if an attractive woman were much taller than me it wouldn't stop me from fantasizing about sex with her, lol, though I would be reluctant to be go out on the town with her, especially if she were wearing 6" heels - I am the kind of guy that wouldn't like people looking at us thinking how short I was. But that's just me, lots of guys would love to be with a taller lady.
haha... seriously though, I definitely prefer shorter women, I'm only 5'-8.5" (or as I like to say 5'-9" cause that half an inch makes a big difference)... Now if an attractive woman were much taller than me it wouldn't stop me from fantasizing about sex with her, lol, though I would be reluctant to be go out on the town with her, especially if she were wearing 6" heels - I am the kind of guy that wouldn't like people looking at us thinking how short I was. But that's just me, lots of guys would love to be with a taller lady.
She's 3 or 4 inches taller without heels, so even with 2” heels she could be 6" taller.
I'm 5'11", and my preference would be for a woman 5'5” or less. I love a woman in heels, and I like her to be a little shorter than me even in her taller heels. Honestly, I don't think I would date someone outside my height preferences.
On the plus side, my GF is the one that's helped form my preferences. . She has a bit of a shoe issue, and I love seeing her in them. And she's a perfect kissing height in her tallest ones.
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My husband is just a bit taller than me and I still wear heels. Those make me 4 inches taller than him and he doesn't care (I ask before I wear them out in public).
Some men don't have a problem with tall women. I wouldn't sweat it. He married you right?
In your situation I'd go for the shoe that matches the dress preferably one with the shortest heel you can find. That's what I would do. I wouldn't wear a flip flop with a fancy dress.
I know this isn't a great example these days but go look at pictures of all the women Tom Cruise has been with. Nicole Kidman is really tall and he is really short. Katie Holmes is taller than he is.
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One of my good friends is 5'11" same as her husband. She's a beautiful girl - like could have been a model beautiful. She's not as bold as me but will wear a 2 inch heel.
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It was funny when H and I first met. We talked to each other online for four years on and off before we actually met in person and began to date. By the time we met IRL, we had quite a lot of chemistry online and on the phone. I knew going into the first date he was going to be shorter than me but it was still a pretty big shock when we actually stood side by side for the first time. He is about 5'6" and I am about 5'10.5". We both never would have chosen each other out of a crowd - that's for sure. He always dated shorter girls and I always dated taller guys. But guess what, it worked for us. I am glad we didn't dismiss each other just based on something like a height difference.
The scariest thing is that he is pretty much the tallest person in his family at 5'6". His parents are both barely 5 feet tall, and when we go to his family reunions once a year almost the entire room is under 5'5". I tower over the entire room like Godzilla. I had to get over that too when we got serious with each other. Doesnt make me feel very feminine to be so ungodly huge next to everyone else!!
I found a decent pair of flats to wear for the night. Didn't want to make H feel insecure - we are going to my 10 year HS reunion tonight and he will be meeting most of these people for the first time tonight. Not that we should care what they think LOL. But he has been analyzing his wardrobe choice for the entire day so that leads me to believe he's feeling a bit of pressure to make a good first impression, (considering he usually spends about five minutes choosing his outfit for any other occasion) so I wouldn't want to add anything that might make him feel self conscious.
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My husband is only about 2 inches taller than me, and because of it, I rarely wear heels. Maybe mules on occasion. I think he actually "looks" shorter than he really is, if that makes sense. Sometimes, though, I'll throw on my 4" hot pink heels and just be an Amazon!! It used to really bother me, but not so much anymore.
My husband often looks MUCH smaller than me because he is, uhm, "petite". He is about 5'6" and 118 pounds! (I'm 5'3 3/4" and about 150 still after baby).
If we are going out I just pick whatever shoes that go with what I'm wearing... Posted via Mobile Device
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Originally Posted by kag123
It was funny when H and I first met. We talked to each other online for four years on and off before we actually met in person and began to date. By the time we met IRL, we had quite a lot of chemistry online and on the phone. I knew going into the first date he was going to be shorter than me but it was still a pretty big shock when we actually stood side by side for the first time. He is about 5'6" and I am about 5'10.5". We both never would have chosen each other out of a crowd - that's for sure. He always dated shorter girls and I always dated taller guys. But guess what, it worked for us. I am glad we didn't dismiss each other just based on something like a height difference.
The scariest thing is that he is pretty much the tallest person in his family at 5'6". His parents are both barely 5 feet tall, and when we go to his family reunions once a year almost the entire room is under 5'5". I tower over the entire room like Godzilla. I had to get over that too when we got serious with each other. Doesnt make me feel very feminine to be so ungodly huge next to everyone else!!
I found a decent pair of flats to wear for the night. Didn't want to make H feel insecure - we are going to my 10 year HS reunion tonight and he will be meeting most of these people for the first time tonight. Not that we should care what they think LOL. But he has been analyzing his wardrobe choice for the entire day so that leads me to believe he's feeling a bit of pressure to make a good first impression, (considering he usually spends about five minutes choosing his outfit for any other occasion) so I wouldn't want to add anything that might make him feel self conscious.
My husband's family too, though he doesn't know his Dad so no idea how tall he is but his Mom & Sis are both under 5 feet...every time we go there I feel like I entered the land of lilliputians.
My very soon to be 12 year old just had his physical and the Doc asked him he wanted to know a pretty good guesstimate of how tall he would be and when my son said yes the Doc said...just under 6 feet...me and my other two were giggling until my oldest blurted out, "You're going to tower over Dad!"
I have an acquaintance that is about 5'5", his wife is around 5'10". I rarely see them together, but one time I was at the house and was looking at their wedding picture, and I had to tease him that it looked like she was posing with the ring bearer. He's one of those guys that looks way younger than than he is, so in the wedding pic he looks 12.
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Tom and Katie...look how that turned out.
If you have a tall majestic woman, do not reign her in. Look up into her eyes, tell her you love the 6" stilettos, then bury your face in there and start motorboating!!!
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Height difference...male input...does it bother you? 
. She has a bit of a shoe issue, and I love seeing her in them. And she's a perfect kissing height in her tallest ones.
He is about 5'6" and 118 pounds! (I'm 5'3 3/4" and about 150 still after baby).
