Ever said yes, then realised you should have said no?
I was going out with a woman who had lost a baby a year or so before
After we had dated a couple of times she invited me to her flat.
We made love and afterwards she asked me if I wanted to see some photographs of her baby?
I, of course, said yes.
But after I said yes, and she went to get the photographs, I suddenly had a feeling of dread. Some time before I had heard on a radio news programme that some hospitals were having photographs of babies that had just died in hospital taken to give to the grieving parents. I thought: "Oh, God! I hope she isn't going to show me one of those photographs!"
And yes, she did. It was horrendous. The poor little soul had obviously suffered greatly in her short life and the body showed signs of some vigorous, but futile, attempts to resuscitate her.
Her mother looked in to my eyes, smiled, and said: "Well? What do you think?"
It was an obviously dead baby. I lied to her. I had to I said: "she looks really very peaceful, doesn't she?"
She nodded and looked comforted.
One of the worse moments of my life.
Later on a mutual friend (who had set us up on a date in the first place) said: "Has xxxx shown you the photos of her baby, yet?" When I said she had, my friend said: "Oh, sorry! Should have warned you about that!"
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Lmao... ugh I hate the fact thaat I just KNOW when gate gets home... I'm gonna say yes even though I should say no. After drinking I can never seem to say no... grrrr Posted via Mobile Device
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I had two employees who were dating. MrsHB and I were dating then also. Since the female employee and I were both amateur photography buffs, we were always talking photography, and sharing pics that we liked. One evening, she and her boyfriend said they wanted us to come to his place for dinner.... We accepted, and on the evening in question, we fell into our favorite topic.... photography. Noticing a thick stack of 8x10's on the coffee table, I asked her if they were some of hers, she said they were, so I picked them up.... The first couple were innocuous.... The rest were nudes, in various unusual and revealing poses....
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I have a photo of my still born twins. They are in a envelope with papers that the hospital gave me. I keep them because, while it may seem odd, it's all I have.
But, I'm pi$$ about the photo. I saw the babies, they were two beautiful girls. But the photo looks awful, nothing like the babies I saw.
The photos, their foot prints, etc are very private to me. I have never shown them to anyone. I suppose when I die by kids will wonder what the hey I kept them for.
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Originally Posted by humanbecoming
I had two employees who were dating. MrsHB and I were dating then also. Since the female employee and I were both amateur photography buffs, we were always talking photography, and sharing pics that we liked. One evening, she and her boyfriend said they wanted us to come to his place for dinner.... We accepted, and on the evening in question, we fell into our favorite topic.... photography. Noticing a thick stack of 8x10's on the coffee table, I asked her if they were some of hers, she said they were, so I picked them up.... The first couple were innocuous.... The rest were nudes, in various unusual and revealing poses....
Awkward.....
One of my uncles (my dad's brother) was single most of his life. He had this hot Canadian woman he dated for something like 20 years and finally married late in life. They used to spend a lot of time at nudie beaches.
Well he brought some family 'moving camera' films over to my maternal grandmother's one night to show his travels. There must have been 50 relatives, aged 1 and up to 95, in the room viewing. I guess he forgot that the nude beach videos were in the box. My maternal grandmother and aunts almost fainted. The rest, especially we kids were laughing our heads off.
There are mix opinions in the family about whether or not the films were 'accidently' included in the box. My dad and his brothers used to love to shock my mom's mom and her sisters. It was something the brothers had been doing to the sisters (my mom's sisters ) since they were all in high school together.
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Originally Posted by humanbecoming
I had two employees who were dating. MrsHB and I were dating then also. Since the female employee and I were both amateur photography buffs, we were always talking photography, and sharing pics that we liked. One evening, she and her boyfriend said they wanted us to come to his place for dinner.... We accepted, and on the evening in question, we fell into our favorite topic.... photography. Noticing a thick stack of 8x10's on the coffee table, I asked her if they were some of hers, she said they were, so I picked them up.... The first couple were innocuous.... The rest were nudes, in various unusual and revealing poses....
Awkward.....
Nah, mate! You should have said: "Oh. Are these available in postcard size?"
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Originally Posted by EleGirl
I have a photo of my still born twins. They are in a envelope with papers that the hospital gave me. I keep them because, while it may seem odd, it's all I have.
But, I'm pi$$ about the photo. I saw the babies, they were two beautiful girls. But the photo looks awful, nothing like the babies I saw.
The photos, their foot prints, etc are very private to me. I have never shown them to anyone. I suppose when I die by kids will wonder what the hey I kept them for.
No. They'll know why. They'll know it is because you are a beautiful, loving person. See, they'll know that you'd have done that for them, if they'd have been your stillborn babies. Christ. I am now officially crying my eyes out.
I have a photo of my still born twins. They are in a envelope with papers that the hospital gave me. I keep them because, while it may seem odd, it's all I have.
But, I'm pi$$ about the photo. I saw the babies, they were two beautiful girls. But the photo looks awful, nothing like the babies I saw.
The photos, their foot prints, etc are very private to me. I have never shown them to anyone. I suppose when I die by kids will wonder what the hey I kept them for.
Same - I have her photo, her hat, hospital bracelet, death certificate, health card and footprints. Private - kept in a box for mother's day and October 25. I would never show it to anyone. Posted via Mobile Device
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Same - I have her photo, her hat, hospital bracelet, death certificate, health card and footprints. Private - kept in a box for mother's day and October 25. I would never show it to anyone. Posted via Mobile Device
Yea, my envelop has the same things in it. While some might think all of this is odd, it does help the greiving parents.
Yea, my envelop has the same things in it. While some might think all of this is odd, it does help the greiving parents.
And yes the photos are awful, but all I have. I will get her footprints tattooed on me some day, but only after I figure out a tribute to my living children as well. Posted via Mobile Device
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Ever said yes, then realised you should have said no? 
I said: "she looks really very peaceful, doesn't she?"
