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~ A woman was sipping on a glass of wine, while sitting on the patio with her husband. She says, "I love you so much, I don't know how I could ever live without you". Her husband asks, "Is that you or the wine talking?"...She replies, "It's me ... talking to the wine.
The OM/OW isn't better than you. They don't respect marriage and won't be what they promised when they have your spouse.
Stop chasing your cheating spouse and giving them info they could later use against you. The OM/OW will just use your anxiety and irrational actions to justify your spouses affair.
Your cheating spouse will not apologize when they're still having an affair. He/she will justify their actions in one way or another as "I deserve this!".
It's never OK to make fun of the OM/OW! This will only be taken as an insult and reflect poorly on your character. You have to remember their relationship however immoral meant something to them too.
If your spouse is cheating or not treating you right, stop defending them and allowing them to continue the abuse. Without you to kick around they only have their own misery to deal with.
Many waywards behave similar to those with borderline/narcissistic personality disorder. Learn from those married to these people and you should have a better insight for the reason they are acting so out of character.
Many waywards behave similar to those with borderline/narcissistic personality disorder. Learn from those married to these people and you should have a better insight for the reason they are acting so out of character.
Perhaps it is the other way around? They are waywards because they are BPD or NPD?
Bahaha! I'd love to see the look on his face if you emailed him that!
If you give me a couple days I could put something together with a lot of subliminal suggestions to get him to do whatever you'd like. An email would be ok but you'll do better talking to him because you'll have to keep rewarding his good behavior and setting those anchors for a while before anything will take. What do you say we start with a sexual act every time he does a few chores and take it from there. In a couple months he should be trained to get an erection while washing dishes
If you give me a couple days I could put something together with a lot of subliminal suggestions to get him to do whatever you'd like. An email would be ok but you'll do better talking to him because you'll have to keep rewarding his good behavior and setting those anchors for a while before anything will take. What do you say we start with a sexual act every time he does a few chores and take it from there. In a couple months he should be trained to get an erection while washing dishes
How very Pavlovian! I think short, sweet instructions on how to remove his head from his ass would be a good starter for him.
Perhaps it is the other way around? They are waywards because they are BPD or NPD?
True, some spouses unknowingly marry those with BPD/NPD and they end up having affairs or multiple affairs when they feel even remotely abandoned. From what I found I see a lot of waywards show a few symptoms but a lot less severe and below the spectrum.
I know I married a BPD wife. She went from wonderful caretaker, to poor helpless child, to clingy needy child, to little hitler, and finally biggest cheating b!tch in the universe. Not going to make that mistake again... I learned to take it slow and look for every red flag.
I was told this by more than a few women since my divorce but I didn't see it at the time. After I stopped beating myself up for her false accusations, I took a good look at myself and realized I'm a freaken catch. I don't like to gloat so I'll just say all the self improvements during the 180 payed off.
Anyone who remains faithful and devoted to their family in spite of constant problems with the wayward, is a good person. What makes them a wonderful person is their honor to treat their unfaithful spouse with common courtesy, and forgiveness to a weaker person for their childish ways.
Somewhere down there on the list should be: "If you have to ask us if you should be insulted or justified in being angry about her actions, then why sweat it? She's obviously too intelligent for you to try to take her on in a long-term standoff."
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Yes I noticed that! 
Matter of fact, read that JUST TODAY on Bandit's thread! 
