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post #1 of 25 (permalink) Old 12-15-2013, 12:34 AM Thread Starter
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Why can't we mix it up in our private boxes?

I can fully understand not getting into a verbal war of words or insults down here in the forums because it makes the site look bad, but WHY can't we be fully allowed to take up an issue with someone who deserves it privately in their inboxes? It's out of the way so no one else can see how messy it gets, and if that person gets too offended or threatened then simply block those messages from coming in any further, and also place that person on your ignore list on the forums as well.

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There is no reason to become insulting or offensive on the forum. If they are on this side of the line, grow a thicker skin. If they are on the other side, report them.
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I guess if you want to fight with someone that badly you can always exchange email addresses
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There is no reason to become insulting or offensive on the forum. If they are on this side of the line, grow a thicker skin. If they are on the other side, report them.
Just like in real life sometimes people get way out of line and need to be dealt with harshly because that's all they respond to, so on here when someone is trolling heavily or trying to ruin a thread then we should be able to privately tell them what we think about them & their comments. Because a lot of times when you report a member nothing ever happens so they just continue on.
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Just like in real life sometimes people get way out of line and need to be dealt with harshly because that's all they respond to, so on here when someone is trolling heavily or trying to ruin a thread then we should be able to privately tell them what we think about them & their comments. Because a lot of times when you report a member nothing ever happens so they just continue on.
What makes you think they care though? Why ramp yourself up like that over an anonymous internet idiot?

I'm personally glad you can report PMs.It keeps people from being able to harass others with their moronic belligerent asshattery.
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What makes you think they care though? Why ramp yourself up like that over an anonymous internet idiot?

I'm personally glad you can report PMs.It keeps people from being able to harass others with their moronic belligerent asshattery.
I just realized this as of yesterday after putting three more pains in the butt onto my ignore list, that they are now unable to message me from that point on which is a good thing too.
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Just like in real life sometimes people get way out of line and need to be dealt with harshly because that's all they respond to , so on here when someone is trolling heavily or trying to ruin a thread
If they are way out of line, report them.

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then we should be able to privately tell them what we think about them & their comments.
If you're respectful then you can. Using insults or profanity isn't allowed.

At the same time, consider that sending them a PM of that nature also may be giving them the satisfaction they are seeking. Perhaps you don't understand the goal of a troll?

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Because a lot of times when you report a member nothing ever happens so they just continue on.
That would not be my experience. Perhaps you're mixing it up with the other person and not making it clear who's a "good guy" and a "bad guy"?

Also realize that strongly held opinions argued without insults aren't against the rules.

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If they are way out of line, report them.



If you're respectful then you can. Using insults or profanity isn't allowed.

At the same time, consider that sending them a PM of that nature also may be giving them the satisfaction they are seeking. Perhaps you don't understand the goal of a troll?



That would not be my experience. Perhaps you're mixing it up with the other person and not making it clear who's a "good guy" and a "bad guy"?

Also realize that strongly held opinions argued without insults isn't against the rules.
I guess I have to keep on telling myself this is the internet; because normally in real life at 6'3 and 240 lbs with a bad temper, if I tell someone who's mouthing off or being too over bearing to be quiet and go away - they usually do.
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That just invites all sorts of insults that would be against the forum rules

Seriously though: It sounds like you're a bully in real life based on your description. Does that make you proud? Do you feel good about yourself knowing that? You're used to getting your way based on your physical ability to intimidate. When you have only your brain to use, you don't do as well.
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All add further, you remind me a whole lot of Cee Paul. He posted basically the same thing: He never learned to deal with it in real life because he's a big guy and people wouldn't say things IRL that they said to him here.

Don't follow his route - he got the well deserved perma-ban.

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I guess I have to keep on telling myself this is the internet; because normally in real life at 6'3 and 240 lbs with a bad temper, if I tell someone who's mouthing off or being too over bearing to be quiet and go away - they usually do.
You just need to run into more peeps like me.

I am 5'10" and 180 lbs.

I guarantee you would have to use your mind to win an argument with me face to face.

Larry is right, start developing your brain. Cheers!
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All add further, you remind me a whole lot of Cee Paul. He posted basically the same thing: He never learned to deal with it in real life because he's a big guy and people wouldn't say things IRL that they said to him here.

Don't follow his route - he got the well deserved perma-ban.
I'm guessing that Wing Man is very well aware of Cee Paul's perma-ban!
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Well I guess he couldn't stop himself from "mixing it up."
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Can't wait to see who he pops up as next!

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Can't wait to see who he pops up as next!
The fixation on broadcasting the ignore list was the 'tell' for me.
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