LongWalk, you make several good points.
The thing is, TAM is a site about marriage and relationships in general. At Surviving Infidelity, infidelity is the focus, so it makes sense to have all parties represented (BTW, I've never been there, but I've heard it mentioned here often, so members do know about it and can seek that forum out if they choose). Love Shack is just trashy, in my view (sorry, only been there once, didn't like it).
There are no rules that waywards cannot post here. It IS tricky though because nobody is going to support an affair, after all this is a forum supporting marriage. And emotions run high in CWI so post at your own risk there. The one and only time I have been banned was for "inciting members" and the ban lasted 90 days. Pretty harsh. So play by the rules and avoid that sub-forum, I say.
Zane, you bring up an excellent points out your thread triggering so many people that's our got banned. But I think if you had been posting in a section for waywards only, those other waywards would have been holding your feet to the fire, not cheering you on.
Secondarily, you were not in the mindset at the time to even accept counsel. You were simply seeking an outlet to voice your thoughts and at the time there was no safe place here at TAM for you to do that.
I don't think BS's are the best people to counsel those having an affair. Or those seeking to R from their affairs, unless they have done significant healing and CWI is like the ER on a Saturday night!
Yes, this place is about supporting marriages and no one is suggesting that having a separate section for waywards only would morph into a section on how to cheat and get away with it.
There have been several waywards who've posted and been chased away by the viscious bitterness of some of the betrayeds. It's like tossing a meaty bone into a pack of wild dogs. But if TAM had a wayward only section, those who haven't ventured far down the path to healing can stay out. Those who have taken a few steps to heal might be well served to read a bit.
CWI is supposed to be about COPING, which includes healing, growing and even moving on. But it is largely a place where people go and get stuck and very few come out. At least from what I've seen. So having a separate section might even help those who are stuck because the gentle pressure to do healing work would be a natural by product of interacting with waywards who would like to safely help heal.