CWI

Unsure in Seattle · 08-17-2012, 10:09 AM

I propose that CWI be split into two sections; one for betrayed spouses and the support thereof and one for the support of wandering spouses and the support thereof with strict moderation of each to ensure that the posts end up at the proper places. My feeling is that there has been too much trolling in that regard (wayward spouses expecting justifaction or "help" in a place where they aren't going to get it) of late.

Amplexor · 08-17-2012, 10:13 AM

Thanks, there is an ongoing thread in the mod section discussing that exact concept. We have not hashed it out yet.

Almostrecovered · 08-17-2012, 10:15 AM

can I have access to this mod section?

Unsure in Seattle · 08-17-2012, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Amplexor

Thanks, there is an ongoing thread in the mod section discussing that exact concept. We have not hashed it out yet.

Yeah; I realize it's perhaps not as easy as I laid out. It sort of went bad at the relationship forum I used to be a member of before I came here. My hope is that with better moderation and a better caliber of user here, that the same problems wouldn't take hold.

costa200 · 08-18-2012, 09:51 AM

I think dividing it would create a sub-forum of targets. It would be a place where everyone would be expecting to go and dish out punishment on cheaters. I can only see the trolling on that section increase dramatically and it will be a mod's nightmare. Unless there was a way to severely limit access to that particular sub-forum it would just the a pain to run.

larry.gray · 08-19-2012, 12:48 AM

And then you expect BS to stay away? Refuse to let them in? I guess one option would be to ban certain posters from only that forum.

The fact is that well behaved BS are invaluable to a WS.

Coffee Amore · 08-21-2012, 06:33 PM

A popular infidelity forum has the option for the WS to post a big red stop sign on the thread title. This tells the other posters that only other WS or BS who are healed can post on the thread.

Shaggy · 08-21-2012, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Coffee Amore

A popular infidelity forum has the option for the WS to post a big red stop sign on the thread title. This tells the other posters that only other WS or BS who are healed can post on the thread.

I always interpret the stop sign to say "I am happy cheater, please don't waste my time telling me I'm in the wrong, because I know I'm not...I'm in love."

Hope1964 · 08-22-2012, 02:14 PM

This would be fine as long as we don't start getting WS's on there asking for advice of how to keep cheating. There should be a disclaimer that the only WS's we want to hear from are those who want to reconcile and stop cheating.

And a disclaimer in the BS section that any BS's who don't believe anyone should reconcile keep it to themselves too.

AR you don't want to have access to the mod section. You'd see what they really think about you then

Almostrecovered · 08-22-2012, 02:16 PM

I demand complete transparency even if it means hearing the harsh truth

Amplexor · 08-22-2012, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Hope1964

This would be fine as long as we don't start getting WS's on there asking for advice of how to keep cheating.

We've had those here before. They don't survive for very long.

Hope1964 · 08-22-2012, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Amplexor

We've had those here before. They don't survive for very long.

True, but they take some of us with them sometimes.

If there was a disclaimer we could just report them and not have to beat them up.

Gaia · 08-25-2012, 04:33 PM

I think its just fine as it is. After all bs's are NOT the only ones who are coping with infidelity, the ws is as well and as we have seen as of late... so are the ap's who seem to want to better themselves. I believe the bs's need to realize this and some need to drop the sense of entitlement. That's just my opinion though... since I do think that seeing it from all sides is very beneficial.
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the guy · 08-25-2012, 04:48 PM

I think that it sould stay as is. I have seen a few waywards turn a corner by hearing from the betrayed.

I haven't been here that long but there is a good thing go on here so why change it.

Plus who am going to beat up if you take all the cheaters and but them in there own subforum. LOL

larry.gray · 08-26-2012, 12:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Amplexor

We've had those here before. They don't survive for very long.

Yes, but that is because CWI is loaded with BS who won't let it. If the forum doesn't allow many of the BS in, they just might last longer.