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post #1 of 51 (permalink) Old 01-05-2013, 11:28 AM Thread Starter
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Requesting TAM to add a new Topic - Older Folks

How would one go about requesting TAM add another category to discussion topics?

Specifically, I'd like to see a category for older folks.

While many aspects may be universal in marriages, infidelities and such, older folks are generally playing with a slightly different deck of cards than most younger people: empty nest (no kids to consider in whether to D or R), menopause/mid life crises, division of assets (retirement accounts, jointly owned property, etc) to name a few.

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I would support and participate in this.
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What constitutes older folks?
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Re: Requesting TAM to add a new Topic - Older Folks

As long as you realize that the way TAM works, anyone can post anywhere, so your new section would not be 'restricted' to 'older folks' only.

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.

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As long as you realize that the way TAM works, anyone can post anywhere, so your new section would not be 'restricted' to 'older folks' only.
Yep - I understand, Hope.

"What constitutes older folks?"


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As Hope stated - it would be open to all ages, and each TAM member could decide on their own if the topics being discussed were relevant to their particular situation, and whether or not to participate.

I'd think it would be of interest to TAM members from mid-forties and up.

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I think this could be a good idea, too.

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Thanks for the suggestion!

Chris and the moderators will discuss the idea next week, and get back with you.

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I really like this idea. I hope it happens.
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Thanks for chiming in, Coffee.

I know it can't happen overnight, but I think the concerns about marriage for older folks doesn't always coincide w/ younger people.
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What exactly is meant by "older"??? Is it just in years or relationship age. I'm just about mid 30's and have been together for 20 years. We have been together longer than not being together.

And does it really matter that someone in their 40's-ten years my senior, being in their relationship 20 years??? Would we still have the same way of thinking about marriage longevity???


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What exactly is meant by "older"??? Is it just in years or relationship age. I'm just about mid 30's and have been together for 20 years. We have been together longer than not being together.

And does it really matter that someone in their 40's-ten years my senior, being in their relationship 20 years??? Would we still have the same way of thinking about marriage longevity???
Panda, read the OP mentioning some of the things older couples deal with that younger couples do not.
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Yep - I understand, Hope.

"What constitutes older folks?"


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As Hope stated - it would be open to all ages, and each TAM member could decide on their own if the topics being discussed were relevant to their particular situation, and whether or not to participate.

I'd think it would be of interest to TAM members from mid-forties and up.



Mid 40's and up, im in!
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Well sorry for asking what exactly was meant by old couples problems. I'm not a young couple. Honestly my first snap judgement was, isn't there some senior citizens forum some where, buuuut that's a wrong assumption to make, so I just thought I would ask.

And though I'm not heading toward menopause, but I'm a lot closer than I was at 21. I may not be an empty nester yet, but I do have a (at this point, 2 months) 17 year old. So am I going to deal with a adult child, my life will change some what.

What I don't have to think about retirement?, life changes, so thanks for telling me you don't need my input after 20 years.
I think you're being hard on the OP. He wasn't being rude. You're reading more into his first post than what he said. He said he thinks "older" means age 40 and above.
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Re: Requesting TAM to add a new Topic - Older Folks

Panda: sorry if I sounded curt. I didn't mean to imply that yours or anyone else's input would not be welcome.

Each TAM member could decide whether any of the discussions in an "Older Couples" applied to them, or maybe how their parents had handled problems.
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Sorry i flew off the handle. Sometimes my temper gets the better of me.

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