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post #136 of 2820 (permalink) Old 06-10-2014, 04:14 PM
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post #138 of 2820 (permalink) Old 06-10-2014, 05:17 PM
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I was banned a year ago. I decided to come back to TAM because I pointed a friend here who learned a lot about his cheating wife. I thought" you know it's a pretty good place to get real advice"
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It is ridiculous that FW was banned. I read every post in that thread and nothing she said was banworthy in any way. Baiting and inciting? Nonsense. All I can think of is that men are intimidated by her and go crying to mods. There is literally no other explanation that makes sense

No wonder people are leaving this place in droves.
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It is ridiculous that FW was banned. I read every post in that thread and nothing she said was banworthy in any way. Baiting and inciting? Nonsense. All I can think of is that men are intimidated by her and go crying to mods. There is literally no other explanation that makes sense

No wonder people are leaving this place in droves.
Oh, there was baiting going on in that thread, Lyris, but FW wasn't the culprit... One only has to read the last two pages there to see what was really going on...

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So, it's okay to hold and post about dismissive and insulting POV as long as you add the phrases:

With all due respect...
This is how I feel...
I'm allowed to have my feelings...

But it is bannable to call a person out for having insulting or dismissive POV or insist they support their insulting POV.

Got it!

This is just how I feel and I do mean this with all due respect.
I don't think you should be dismissive and insulting, and I think you should also use those phrases that help to build good will and neutralize hostilities.

A lot of people on TAM are ruder than I am comfortable with.
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Okay then solid snake try this on..

<<<I feel it's in every woman's best interest to avoid being seen as smart. With all due respect men need us women to be dumber than they are. And since our men work so hard they need to come home to a wife who worships them but never challenges them. As women, we should all strive to exalt our men so they can continue to be honorable. I know it's not a popular opinion. I really get upset when women say things that challenge men to think too much. It's just my opinion and I'm allowed to have one.>>>

You see? I used all the nice phrases. Does that make my statement any more palatable? Am I now free from challenge because I added in the part that it was my opinion?

And when you see this drivel posted many times, particularly in threads that discuss misogyny...

ETA: temper flare when hot topics are discussed. Yes a measure of civility is necessary, but when the above scat is posted over and over in hot topic threads, and then the poster claims she's being attacked because people are mean to her.... Yet can't defend her opinion or answer challenges put to her... Perhaps she ought to get out of the deep in and go back to the kiddie pool until she learns to swim?
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AnonPink,

What you call a scat post is somebody's opinion. I can even guess that I know to whom you refer, Over20. She is polite and follows the rules. I don't think it is right to put her down the way some posters do.

Faithful Wife is a TAM stalwart. It is sad to see her banned. Hope it is not permanent.

I liked Conrad. He did great stuff on TAM. However, I think he underestimated the way others perceived him. To have strong personality and to weigh in hard on people can be perceived as to over the top.

If someone has a position that irritates, the best approach can be to reply with light irony and leave the reader to determine what their position is.

One moderator mentioned that the misogyny threads were so-called ban magnets.
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Longwalk, you surely realize that a post like the one quoted above is not going to go down well with women in a forum such as this, where many have been hurt, cheated on and abused. IMO, it's rather like going into a racial relations forum and extolling the virtues of apartheid or slavery.

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Longwalk, you surely realize that a post like the one quoted above is not going to go down well with women in a forum such as this, where many have been hurt, cheated on and abused. IMO, it's rather like going into a racial relations forum and extolling the virtues of apartheid or slavery.
Longwalk is right.

You like no man has ever been hurt, cheated on, and abused.

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AnonPink,

What you call a scat post is somebody's opinion. I can even guess that I know to whom you refer, Over20. She is polite and follows the rules. I don't think it is right to put her down the way some posters do.

Faithful Wife is a TAM stalwart. It is sad to see her banned. Hope it is not permanent.

I liked Conrad. He did great stuff on TAM. However, I think he underestimated the way others perceived him. To have strong personality and to weigh in hard on people can be perceived as to over the top.

If someone has a position that irritates, the best approach can be to reply with light irony and leave the reader to determine what their position is.

One moderator mentioned that the misogyny threads were so-called ban magnets.


I think you missed the point of my post. Civility doesn't make a posted offensive opinion neutral.

Yes, they are ban magnets. But if you read that thread, particularly the last few pages, you will see strong opinions being hashed out and points being made. But you won't see insulting, harassing, or baiting done by the member who got banned!
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Longwalk is right.

You like no man has ever been hurt, cheated on, and abused.
I suggest you read Long Term Success In Marriage... in which a female member, who clearly has been hurt by a man and is bitter and angry, is being "handled" by the women participating in that thread.

That thread is a glaring example of women calling out other women for broad stroke opinions. Something I rarely see men do to other men, with a few exceptions namely ReformedHubby, Sidney and Anchorwatch.
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Sandfly got permanently banned.
Dang! Oh well, I still have a quote from Sandfly in my signature line, so I guess he lives on at TAM in some small way.

With all due respect, I hope I don't get banned for my signature line, and I honestly feel that way (to borrow from Anon )


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I picture the "Mod Council" meetings to go something like this...

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Okay then solid snake try this on..

<<<I feel it's in every woman's best interest to avoid being seen as smart. With all due respect men need us women to be dumber than they are. And since our men work so hard they need to come home to a wife who worships them but never challenges them. As women, we should all strive to exalt our men so they can continue to be honorable. I know it's not a popular opinion. I really get upset when women say things that challenge men to think too much. It's just my opinion and I'm allowed to have one.>>>


Feels like I just read something from the 1800s.

Now I want to call my mother and thank her that she did not instill this type of mentality in my head.
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