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post #16 of 25 (permalink) Old 03-23-2013, 09:35 AM
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Re: Suggestion to send a warning pm before banning

So I can't brag about the amazing sex in my life O.o

What if I have a problem with it...

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post #17 of 25 (permalink) Old 03-23-2013, 09:43 AM
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Alternatively some other boards have the deleted post entry remain, but the content is replaced with "deleted for following rules.."
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The problem is, people are a lot more likely to break the rules if they know (or think) they'll get a warning. If they know they will probably get banned for breaking the rules, they will be a lot more careful not to break them.

You guys may not realize it, but one of the main reasons TAM is such a great place to post, is the fact that we are strict when it comes to being respectful to others here (rule #1).

There are a lot of other boards on the web where people constantly spew their anger towards each other through personal attacks and name calling, and if you've ever been to one, you'll know how ugly they can be.

When people start that stuff here, if they are brand new, we permaban them for the first offense. If they have been around a while we kind of have an unwritten "3 strikes you're out" policy. We keep notes on all warned and banned users so mods can easily look at their history.

So I'm not going to apologize for banning without warning, or even act like we'll consider softening up. Sometimes we do give warnings, but it's usually for things that are borderline against the rules, or grey areas.

You see, banning without warning may seem cruel in some ways, but it is actually the secret to maintaining such a healthy, supportive community.

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I went ahead and look at your post. It was a violation of sex section rules because it was not a problem you were seeking help for. Also, you posted it a third time after it was deleted twice, so I can see why the mod got frustrated. I probably would have banned you too (short term of course - it's just a little time off).
Ok, but actually I only posted it twice. It was deleted the first time and I posted it again wondering why. Then I was banned and it said the reason was for reposting a deleted thread.
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I did the ban. Most members clue in when it's deleted once. It's not my job to explain the rules, they are plainly posted especially in SIM. The thread was clearly in violation of the SIM rules. Sometimes I send a warning if its a new user, otherwise I assume members are familiar with the rules.
Well, I remember posting one thread awhile ago in the sex forum and it was deleted. I didn't know why because it had like 15 pages on it, but then it was gone. I didn't repost that.

I posted the next topic on footjobs once and it was deleted. I was simply asking if others enjoy it more than sex. I've seen lots of posts like that on other topics in the sex forum. When it was deleted I was confused, so reposted it only to get banned. I guess that topic is totally off limits.
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I'd volunteer to be a mod if I thought it would help the site.I think I might be too strict though
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I'd volunteer to be a mod if I thought it would help the site.I think I might be too strict though
the Scarlet hammer.....I'm scared already!
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I did the ban. Most members clue in when it's deleted once. It's not my job to explain the rules, they are plainly posted especially in SIM. The thread was clearly in violation of the SIM rules. Sometimes I send a warning if its a new user, otherwise I assume members are familiar with the rules.
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