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post #1 of 25 (permalink) Old 03-21-2013, 10:53 PM Thread Starter
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Suggestion to send a warning pm before banning

I posted a thread about a week and a half ago and it was deleted, I'm assuming by a moderator. I wasn't sure why it was deleted, so I reposted it and was banned for a week.

My suggestion is, if a member does something against the policies, before a ban is instituted, a warning should be sent in a private message before it occurs.

In my case, had a moderator warned me in a pm why my thread was deleted, I wouldn't have reposted it. In fact, I still don't know why it was deleted.

If a warning is sent, this will educate the site's members on the policies and avoid unnecessarily banning a member which could foster bad feelings in them.

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post #2 of 25 (permalink) Old 03-21-2013, 10:57 PM
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From a newbie's view that would make sense to me.

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Re: Suggestion to send a warning pm before banning

I know we are pretty strict here, and I know we don't always explain ourselves well enough. I have been guilty of it in the past myself. Part of the problem is that the community is very large, and we have only a few volunteer mods who help keep it up.

So I'm sorry for the lack of explanation. The best thing you can do is spend some time reading the forum rules to make sure you don't get in trouble. At registration, they are presented and they are stickied at the top of the General section and the sex section has specific rules stickied as well.

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I went ahead and look at your post. It was a violation of sex section rules because it was not a problem you were seeking help for. Also, you posted it a third time after it was deleted twice, so I can see why the mod got frustrated. I probably would have banned you too (short term of course - it's just a little time off).

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But if someone doesn't know why it's deleted, it could seem like a glitch or something. I understand being a small group of mods, but just saying "please read the rules" would sometimes help as an explanation. And reduce the workload.

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they really should move the ban button away from the shift key.


it's gotten me a few times on accident.

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But if someone doesn't know why it's deleted, it could seem like a glitch or something. I understand being a small group of mods, but just saying "please read the rules" would sometimes help as an explanation. And reduce the workload.

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Understood. I think we usually do, but the sex section is particularly challenging because we get so much stuff that is inappropriate.

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they really should move the ban button away from the shift key.


it's gotten me a few times on accident.

I've heard this place compared to China a few times!

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I did the ban. Most members clue in when it's deleted once. It's not my job to explain the rules, they are plainly posted especially in SIM. The thread was clearly in violation of the SIM rules. Sometimes I send a warning if its a new user, otherwise I assume members are familiar with the rules.


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You should consider adding a few more moderators ;-)
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I did the ban. Most members clue in when it's deleted once. It's not my job to explain the rules, they are plainly posted especially in SIM. The thread was clearly in violation of the SIM rules. Sometimes I send a warning if its a new user, otherwise I assume members are familiar with the rules.
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I think this is a good idea... But it is also why there are rules posted on this site... To help you determine what behavior is and isn't acceptable...
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Re: Suggestion to send a warning pm before banning

A PM would be nice...give people a warning before bringing down the ban hammer. I could see this being used for most infractions.

However, I could see how some people would take the PM as a personal dig and go nuts..
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