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So if all we have to do is ask, why not just let us delete threads again?

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#1 ·
Apparently all someone has to do, when they don't like the replies they get, is ask a mod to delete it.

So, what sense does that make? Why not just let us delete our own threads again?
 
#3 ·
TAM users used to be able to delete their own posts and threads. Now they cannot.

She's asking that members be given their delete permissions back.

It's not true that a person can just ask a mod to delete their posts/threads and the mods will do it. A moderator might do it if there are extenuating circumstances. But otherwise we do not delete posts or threads just because a user asks.
 
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TAM users used to be able to delete their own posts and threads. Now they cannot.

She's asking that members be given their delete permissions back.

It's not true that a person can just ask a mod to delete their posts/threads and the mods will do it. A moderator might do it if there are extenuating circumstances. But otherwise we do not delete posts or threads just because a user asks.
And exactly what's the rationale behind that?
 
#6 ·
Wait... what? This is destroying the very nature of TAM! I didn't even notice until this.

Now I'm troubled, at its core TAM existed for people to seek answers to VERY sensitive and personal topics and one core feature of this site was the ability to delete your own posts and threads to maintain your privacy and remove your shame on very deep personal thoughts and topics. These are people's lives, relationships, and marriages we are talking about. WTF?!

It's seriously becoming very obvious that the administration does not understand the founding ideas of TAM and seems to be just corporate BS at work.
 
#10 ·
I concur. I have been away from the forum for over a year so this was news to me. When I first began posting on TAM, it was under a different handle. I quickly realized that handle would be recognized by my wife and some select family members and friends. I deleted all my posts and came back as Amplexor. I would support a change back to the old format. I think it makes sense.
 
#8 ·
Not being able to delete posts or threads is a big negative. I was gone for a while for health reason, came back and discovered this recently.

I have decided not to start any new threads.

I am posting less, I guess weaning myself away again.

I think the deleting permissions should be restored personality.

It changes the nature of the forum, its more for the business than the support.
 
#9 ·
Guys, nothing that's been going on here is new IMO.

It's been this way for some time, just more pronounced as we've had a fresh influx of trolls, specifically tailored advice requests, and lack of follow-ups from OPs who took a mental dump and then ran.

TAM has always operated on a business model, we just don't see it as such because we're posting in the weeds.
 
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#11 ·
I can see not allowing posters to delete threads and having mods only do so if there is a breach of anonymity, but if posters can have threads or posts deleted because they don't like what they hear we should all have the ability.
 
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Right now a person can edit their posts and remove the content of their posts. You can see this often where they just leave a "." or a few characters.

No poster has had their thread/posts deleted because the poster did not like what replies they got on their thread.
 
#14 ·
I always like it when @farsidejunky breaks it down to the basics... :)

Member support only goes so far and even if every participant purchased a lifetime membership up front as the cost of net services, upgrades, maintenance, and support tech monitoring would require a recurring source of income to keep things flowing.

Supply and demand, meet advertising.

If abuse occurs, I agree that threads should be removed and we have a volunteer staff (mods) who will happily do that.

If abuse doesn't occur, then perhaps a new view is something we should consider if it is spoken in truth, kindness, and necessity so threads do not have to be removed. I have learned many things silently as I observe what people say here in their "drop the mic (keyboard)" moments.

In the end for me, if I have that ability or not makes little difference because if I dislike what is being said or how it is being said, I can simply leave it. :)
 
#22 ·
The sensitive and personal nature of posts is up to the poster's discretion. Additional information helps and is sometimes requested but if you don't want your personal life indexed by Google and free to the Internet then don't post it.

Many posters have successfully de-identified their stories enough to lower the risk of discovery. Posting your life on the Internet without a filter is risky, I'm surprised more people here don't seem to take that into consideration.

This is not SI or advertised (to my knowledge) as a "safe place." It's a resource for advice. While I agree it would be nice to have the ability to delete posts and threads, TAM doesn't owe anyone anything for simply existing.

I came here after my divorce was final, for the purpose of understanding men better so I could eventually date again (or decide if I wanted to bother trying). I decided to stay because I received a lot of insight from others, many of whom are no longer here. After meeting my husband, he posted here for a time before he was banned, accordingly for his silly breach of rules. I'm still here, although I take breaks, and am contemplating stepping away for longer so I can focus more on things going on in the world of Satya.
 
#29 ·
Face the facts folks. TAM is no longer a safe place to post anything sensitive. Do that on other forums. TAM is for fun, games and softball marriage issues. The naive who post the real issues will lose more than they gain from this place.


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#33 ·
In your case, Dear, I will never let it happen.

I kept all of your colorful threads and [from them] made a thinly veiled Canadian Quilt.

It will not keep anyone warm North of the Border. But, for those living in the desert? Oh, yeah! Keeps the skeeters from getting through. Might work during your summer "Month" of mosquito hell.

I have stored your posts on my own cloud. Away from the likes of Chris and @Amplexor. And @MattMatt

@EleGirl knows about them. She made a pact to keep mum.

I am keeping her Mum..........hostage. A price I extracted for her silence. If she tells you that her Mum has passed, it matters not. I go back two thousand +years. I hold cross generational power.

Cross generational terror......I do.

And I did. And I will.

As Willed, Shall.......

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And yes, we shall protect the weak ass Liberals living in the Tundra. I will be coming for you..... When the Loon seeking Missiles are launched from the hamster of North K. Mountain.
 
#34 ·
Oh, dear TAMMERs...

It is all lies, never truths.

Many of my posts have "mysteriously" disappeared. You have seen only the "tame" ones.

The Good Ones are in the sack in the vault, locked away by the man hiding behind Chris's mask.

Hidden by an advanced encryption, coded by Rijndael's evil Doppelganger.

The Red Queen holds these there. I have looked and looked at Chris's face....not a Red Hair "Shews eeself from hind' theez Mask.

But, looking carefully, I may have seen strings.....that move as his hand moves.....dunno. My eyes be failin. My Ayes be failin.....only Nays be comin, or Neighs from me past life Centaur form.
 
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