Re: Am I avoiding the obvious?
I am sorry to say that I don't believe the counseling will work. My wife comes from a similar family as your husband. I thought I was marrying the sane one until the event occurred. The event being the birth of twins, on top of the other two young children we already had. She totally cracked, went into depression, cut us off from everyone, went off the charts. Three years of counseling, $40,000 later, partially back, but seems bipolar although counselors say borderline. Sleeps with kids, sexless marriage, doesn't matter how much I make, what I do, she is the center of her world. Getting the strength to save yourself is what it will take. I don't believe it will get better with counseling. There is occasional relief with counseling, but she refuses to fight the pattern and invest work in change.