I thought I was pretty clearly not accepting of it. It's a one-size-fits-all term applied to too many with no regard for their story or the sum of their character.
Actually, you missed my point. It wouldn't anger and upset you as it has, if you did not take it onto yourself as a slur. It was not directed at you, from your own words.
You could easily have discussed why you think the below, though you likely knew it would cause issues with many here at TAM. This is actually a violation of TAM rules. Do not start threads to incite "riots". Riots is my word, not in the rules.
It is no such thing. It is a testament to the fact that forces in marriage and life may cause otherwise decent people to make poor decisions. An act of infidelity does not suddenly turn a switch and create a Frankenstein from someone who was, up until then, an upstanding spouse.
True, which is why I believe it's a character flaw to some extent, just as others have character flaws in one area or another. It may not be an issue of fidelity with others. We are all flawed, though.
It creates an adulterer. How much compassion you are willing to give that adulterer probably depends on the sum of their person, I would hope.
The act is adultery/infidelity/or some other descriptive word. Please don't try to turn this into a religious thing. It crosses boundaries into the secular humanist world, too. Those folks hurt just as much. You are minimizing the pain of them, of which your wife is one.
Justification? No. It's still the wrong choice except for some pretty unusual extenuating circumstances (to which mine did not belong, for clarity).
That's the definition of justification, Cletus.
Simple Definition of justification
: an acceptable reason for doing something : something that justifies an action Justification | Definition of Justification by Merriam-Webster
So near as I can tell, you pretty much missed the entire point of this thread, at least from my perspective.
I think you're correct. You said it was about folks being called a "scumbag", but what you meant was that it was about justification for infidelity.
Which, negates any derogatory terms due to acceptance that someone was correct in choosing infidelity because they were pretty much forced to do it.
Next, you'll be telling me it wasn't fun. They didn't enjoy it at all. It didn't give them a sense of revenge for perceived prior injustices they suffered and did so so much to try to rectify. It didn't give them a false feeling of control.
Meh, it's a bull**** thread. Have fun. I hope others who read it see the truth and don't drink the cool aid. Reference to November 18, 1978 in Jonestown, Guyana. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jonestown