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Hey, that is a really good idea.

I still wonder why he cares though....
maybe throw some lingerie in there too.....cuz I bet he isn't seeing it get used.

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Hey, that is a really good idea.

I still wonder why he cares though....
I could maybe put up with a W that didn’t love me for a kid, but I damn sure ain’t putting up with one that openly tries to humiliate me with her A.

I’d it is what it seems, cut her and fly boy off at the knees.
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"Now as some of you know I remain in my marriage due to my child."

So why do you care what she does?
Many spouses stay in a marriage until their children get older. It does not mean that they are OK with an open marriage.

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I would take the 'love pouch' with the company logo on it, pack it with clothes and bathroom items......and tell her not to come back. maybe even throw in a scenic charter helicopter flight for two (using her credit card of course).
Put the fire and pitchforks away. Reading only this thread, all we know is that 2 years ago she took company logo gifts from the other man ("OM"), and that the OM offered to fly her around (which the wife told the husband about to see if he would object). This is not nearly enough to assume an affair. This is enough to assume that the OM is pursuing the OP's wife, and she enjoys the attention.

I agree with those saying to put an end to it now, but not with those that already have the OM man banging the wife like a drum.

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They say trust me.
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Put the fire and pitchforks away. Reading only this thread, all we know is that 2 years ago she took company logo gifts from the other man ("OM"), and that the OM offered to fly her around (which the wife told the husband about to see if he would object). This is not nearly enough to assume an affair. This is enough to assume that the OM is pursuing the OP's wife, and she enjoys the attention.

I agree with those saying to put an end to it now, but not with those that already have the OM man banging the wife like a drum.
I think this is recent. But either way, we both know that she is completely out of line.
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VAR in living room and any other public place.

She's already had him.

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Put the fire and pitchforks away. Reading only this thread, all we know is that 2 years ago she took company logo gifts from the other man ("OM"), and that the OM offered to fly her around (which the wife told the husband about to see if he would object). This is not nearly enough to assume an affair. This is enough to assume that the OM is pursuing the OP's wife, and she enjoys the attention.

I agree with those saying to put an end to it now, but not with those that already have the OM man banging the wife like a drum.
Why does she accept gifts and want to go fly around with another man she describes as cute?

She is shopping. She may have already bought the new car.
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Now if she said "That big cute guy said I could go for a ride with him in the helicopter sometime" and you know he's 5'8" and 150 lbs, that would shownuff be a red flag.

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**********I did not say anything other than "that's cool" **********

That's a bit telling in how you maybe ended up in your current position.

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Hi all. I am a married man. Now as some of you know I remain in my marriage due to my child. I know, not a good reason, nevertheless that is why I am still in it I tell myself. A couple of years ago a guy where my wife works gave her a small gift. It was related to his work and consisted of a duffel bag with logo, baseball cap and a t-shirt. She likes flying and this gift had logos of the company he worked for printed on it. He is a aircraft crew member. I did not think to much of it, although if a man gives a woman a gift there is almost always something behind it IMO.


Obviously she has been speaking with this guy when he comes to the hospital every now and then with the helicopter.

Yesterday, she said to me "that big cute guy said I could go for a ride with him in the helicopter sometime." Now I don't believe she intended to use the word "cute" as soon as she said it the look on her face turned to shock. I did not say anything other than "that's cool" as I also was as shocked about her choice of words. I even said to myself she can't have said cute maybe she said "huge." Nope, my daughter looked at her mom and said "who is cute." So I know what I heard.

Obviously this is a HUGE red flag. Well I think it is. I spoke to a buddy of mine this morning and he said keep mouth shut and eyes and ears open. Which is what I am doing. Any other suggestions?
Another potential Red Flag that would be a similar, "sound-alike" word would be adjective, "nude".

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Hi all I am a married man. Now as some of you know I remain in my marriage due to my child. I know, not a good reason, nevertheless that is why I am still in it I tell myself.
You don't love your wife and don't really want to be married to her.

Have you been truthful to her about why you are still in the marriage?

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Is your wife a nurse?

Sad to say that the medical profession is rampant with cheating.
How do you know this?
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Well, if your marriage is just for show, why does it even matter to you?
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"Now as some of you know I remain in my marriage due to my child."

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Hey, that is a really good idea.

I still wonder why he cares though....
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Hey, that is a really good idea.

I still wonder why he cares though....
Why should he care you all ask? Well considering if she gets pregnant somehow and they are still married depending on where they live he could legally be presumed to be the father.

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You don't love your wife and don't really want to be married to her.

Have you been truthful to her about why you are still in the marriage?
This is the part that's confusing me. If you don't love your wife and you are together just for the kids, why are you upset about her being attracted to another man?
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