Re: The impact of infidelity on the children
I'm a child raised seing my fathers affair until he started "the moving out process" whe i was 17. He cheated on my mom their entire marriage and she couldnt go looking for him (he used to travel to visit my grandma and his girlfriends were all from that city) because she had to work and raise me, bro and sis, because my fathers money went entirely for partying.
Ive started reading foruns like this one, SI or LS or even the people from the MSM (non related) when i was 19 and before and it helped me to forgive my father and understand he had a underdeveloped personality (now he had to do a lot of growing up in those years after tjeir divorce, so its easier) and by me forgiving him and treating him respectfully and talking normaly my brothers are closer to forgiving him too. I mostly dont remember anything related to it nowdays, but ometimes i trigger and come back to these foruns read everything i can until i get saturated (once a years or once every 2 years just reading, not answering).
Im really thankfull for all your stories because it helped me so much to be understanding and loving toward human problems. But I know if it wasnt for the books, foruns and a kind of catartic help throught those i would be pretty unstable, especially because my mom almost went insane, so i had to understand why and how she became like that (now im 30 and my mom simply rocks, she is way mentally better than all cheated wifes ive met, but she triggers too and she doesnt even knows what a trigger is, but i know and i understand that she is being harsh not because she isnt a good or loving mother, but because she isnt completely healed).