Welcome to TAM.
Sadly, you've caught this guy up to no good numerous
times over the years.
A year ago when you caught him, he put on this big dog and pony show of cancelling accounts, supposedly smashing his 2nd phone, changing his job, putting GPS apps on his phone, and mostly just lying through his teeth over and over and over until you actually believed him. And because you didn't want to leave him, you once again took a huge bite of the **** sandwich he's been serving you for years. I get the impression you've dealt with suspicious behavior from over the years but it's only been in the last year or so you've had actual hard evidence to back it up. Trust me when I tell you, those other times in the past, the odds are 99.999999% that you were right in your suspicions, you just lacked the smoking gun evidence is all.
And now you're right back to square one - you've caught him yet again
and you're getting the same bull**** you got last time - that he's a good guy, he's never gotten physical with anyone, you're imagining most of it, his therapist said it's because he needs attention (you're PAYING for some hack to tell you that? I could have told you that for free), and he's telling you all the other lies he always tells you to get out of the doghouse.
Wash. Rinse. Repeat.
Sadly, you're attached to a lying serial cheater who will always cheat on you
. And serial cheaters have no clue what remorse is; the big crocodile tears they cry are simply part of the dog and pony show they put on for you each time they're caught. If he were REALLY remorseful, he wouldn't
be a serial cheater, so that answers the question about remorse.
What is my next step?
Well, you have a choice. You can continue dining on the never-ending **** sandwich this cheater is constantly serving up to you, and you can continue self-deluding, thinking this lying serial cheater is worth investing one
more second of your time. Or, if you're wise, you'll call your lawyer today and start the process of ridding yourself of this toxic waste from your life once and for all.
I'd personally choose the latter.