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Well that's one way to cope with infidelity -- She certainly showed them

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#1 ·
My twin teenaged boys came across the sex videos I recorded with my AP. I'm 100% sure AP's ex wife leaked them. My life has been destroyed.

Alright, this will be a long one. Please bear with me. I'm crying as I'm writing this.

I met my AP, a mid 40s MM while on a business trip and we became really good friends. We both came from almost DB marriages and quickly fell in love. Our affair was strictly physical when it first started, but then we soon realized the connection we had was something you only find once in a lifetime.

We had really great sex with each other. Now because we only met each other on our business trips, we often recorded our intimate sessions for our own pleasure, as a loving memory to relive when we would be apart from each other.

2 years into our affair, we decided that we wanted to be with each other. AP quickly moved his divorce process and his wife of 13 years seemingly accepted the end of their marriage without putting up much of a fight. This was the first red flag, but we ignored it.

I'm in the process of dissolving my marriage to my husband of 20 years. We both have kids. I have two twin boys who are in high school and my AP has a daughter who is 10.

We planned on getting married after my divorce came through. We had already looked at bigger homes for our blended family.

AP had a very amicable divorce, which actually shocked AP himself because he presented her with divorce papers out nowhere. If I was in her place I would have been shocked and devastated.

I'm currently in the process of an emotionally charged divorce as my husband didn't know why our marriage is ending.

Well last night, while we were getting ready to have our last family dinner together, my two twin boys came rushing into the dining room crying bitterly accusing me of being a *****. Turns out, In their high school boys GC, some little punk posted ALL THE SEX VIDEOS I recorded with my AP. My world has come crashing down. My boys tried to physically fight me last night and were restrained by my husband. I immediately called up AP and told them what went on. He said he has no idea how the videos got leaked.

Today morning I went to my AP ex wife's workplace (she is an attorney) to confront her. She acted fake surprised and was NOT AT ALL devastated that her husband left her for me when I told her everything.

As I was leaving, AP's ex wife shot me with an evil, knowing smile and got back to whatever the hell she was doing.

I'm gutted. My babies DID NOT deserve to see that. We live in a small town and scandals like this get around pretty fast. I just got served with a letter from HR asking me to submit my resignation. My AP is going to resign today.

I'm now looking to put my boys out of this school. My husband hasn't taken my calls or talked to me since last night.

I can't believe this happened to me. I'm shaking as I'm writing this. I've always been a lurker on this sub and always loved reading the stories here. Never thought It would come down to this.

I can't live with the shame. How do I get past this? How can I prove that it was my AP's ex who leaked the video? I have no proof. How do I pursue this legally?
Crazy **** but I'm not going to stay it didn't get a chuckle out of me.
 
#2 ·
Karma. Talk about lack of empathy for anyone but herself. She’s Partially right that her teen sons didn’t deserve to see thaT. The true remark would have been that her sons didn’t deserve a mother who would betray the family like that and film it to celebrate it.

I imagine that she received a bunch of sympathy from fellow home wreckers. Makes me think of how dual home wreckers are treated like royalty over on LS OM/OW section.
 
#25 · (Edited by Moderator)
Karma. Talk about lack of empathy for anyone but herself. She’s Partially right that her teen sons didn’t deserve to see thaT. The true remark would have been that her sons didn’t deserve a mother who would betray the family like that and film it to celebrate it.

I imagine that she received a bunch of sympathy from fellow home wreckers. Makes me think of how dual home wreckers are treated like royalty over on LS OM/OW section.
yep the definition of *****. I hope her husband gets full custody and she lives in pain for a while. What an evil *****
 
#5 ·
I don't know...I guess I am not buying this. I am going to have to call BS. I do think a lot of it is believable, but they lost me when she showed up at the job of the OM's wife. I really don't think she would have the guts to do that. So you were banging her husband for years, and without any proof you are just going to waltz into her place of business and make accusations and expose the fact that you were the other woman all along? That's awfully bold and stupid to boot.

The other thing she said that I don't buy is that her twin boys tried to physically attack her. I just can't see most men raising their hands to their own mother no matter how heinous of an act she has committed, and I am supposed to believe that two teenaged boys were trying to physically attack her? Would they be devastated and shocked, of course. But trying to beat up your own mom along with your brother? Thats a bit much. I suppose it could be true, but I really doubt it.
 
#8 ·
Sad situation overall. However, if the betrayed wife shared sex videos with teenage minors, she can - and should - be prosecuted as a sex offender.
 
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#12 ·
If this is true, the reality is that it would almost be impossible to prove on several levels. And almost no LEA has the resources to look in to this. This kind of thing is so hard to work up. Not completely impossible but close to it.

However, if it was true, while I hate that the kids saw it, how fitting that she be outed this way.

Some poor dumb guy wondering why his marriage broke up, and BOOM, this is the reason why.

I am thinking the original post was a troll though...
 
#11 ·
I could be wrong, but I think its a fictional narrative written by someone, a good old fashioned troll post. A lot of people that have been cheated on like stories about the Karma bus for cheaters. Thats understandable. But in my opinion some people like them so much that when something is very off with a story, they never question it. To me this story seems too far fetched in a few areas. In addition to my earlier points. I wouldn't think the OM's wife would flush her career as an attorney down the toilet for sending/posting a video like that. Especially when she was so supposedly so measured and laid back for so long throughout the divorce process. It just doesn't make sense. A lot of it doesn't. These people either don't exist or its a greatly exaggerated version.
 
#13 ·
Yawn. Nicely written story but that's about all.

On a side note anyone dumb enough to send pics or do videos should realize you have zero control over them once they're out.

I see call a lawyer, call a lawyer all the time. Once that cats out of the bag a 1000 lawyers can't put it back in.

But there are laws against this!!!! Yeah try and prove it. Plus if someone's half way smart you can't trace it as well.
 
#14 · (Edited)
If this is true, which ehhhhhh, however if true, this is one of the most well played acts of vengeance. One can assume that as an attorney, BW safeguarded her income, possibly with a prenup, but I venture to guess as an attorney, BW was a smart enough cookie to cover her ass. She would also know enough that public exposure would work to the betrayed husband's advantage in several ways. I have found that infidelity has worked to the betrayed's advantage with custody percentages. Some states and provinces mandate 50/50 custody, however, if you are in a jurisdiction where it counts, then...go for it.

So, by exposure, she gives her ex a gigantic kick to the nads and screws his AP. First it exposes the rationale for the divorce to the BH, giving him time to amend his divorce. It provides evidence for custody, and courts are apt to overlook the WW's unemployed status when calculating CS, as it was her fault that she is jobless. (This, I have seen) Let alone the atom bomb that this put into the relationships the cheaters had with their children. When the judge asks, "Who do you want to live with, Jenny?" You kinda know what the answer will be. And finally, the love vultures wanted to be together. It will be so easy as two unemployed idiots, in a small town, with a scandal all around them. Yeah, it will last as long as a fart in a windstorm.

Well played madam, if true, once again, but well played.
 
#17 ·
Karma does happen, though. Sometimes you have to wait for it, or it surprises you. I'll tell you a story I know is true, because I was involved.

My buddy's wife came over one day while my wife was out, and she hit on me, and claimed my buddy wouldn't have sex with her. Which was surprising, because my buddy had told me a week or two before that she claimed she was asexual, and he was having to get used to the idea of never having sex again. Anyway, as I was saying no, my wife walked in, and we threw her out. My wife was quite upset of course because they had been friends. I call my buddy up and tell him, and he gets mad at me, and accuses me of making the whole thing up.

A few months later, I see him drive up to his house in the middle of a saturday in his camper, which was weird, because I knew they were away for the weekend. I say hi, and ask if everything's ok. He says no... that they were camping with her family, he went to tuck in his kid, and his wife's cell phone binged while he was kissing his kid goodnight - they had been playing with her phone or something. So he reads her texts... and discovers that the next guy she hit up was his "best friend," and they had been boning for weeks. So he immediately confronted his wife with it - in front of her own parents, told her he was 100% done, they packed up and drove all night home. And here they were.

He packed up some stuff, and moved out that day. He had a lawyer drawing up a separation agreement the next morning. He offered something fair, and let her out of the marriage quick - because he wanted to strike while she was having the affair. She thought his best friend was going to leave his wife and marry her - and he knew that wasn't going to happen. So he let her out while the affair was still hot and active. He didn't even ask her to stop, he encouraged it. So she signed whatever he wanted. He called a realtor and had the house listed.

That all happened within the first 7 days. That next weekend he goes to the bar, walks up to a random hot young girl, and says "want a free trip to hawaii? I'm going through a divorce and want a travel companion, want to come? No sex or anything required, but I'm leaving tomorrow." She says yes, and off they go. because he knew what was going to happen - after screwing his wife a few more times, his ex best friend was going to dump her and go running back to his own wife... which he did. And while he was in hawaii with this girl - who of course ended up sleeping with him the whole time - all the **** hits the fan back home. She's calling and texting him, which he's ignoring. She's calling his lawyer, which tells her to GTFO because she signed the separation agreement. By the time he gets back not only is there an offer on the house, which he accepts, but his soon-to-be-ex is not eating, not sleeping, calling everyone looking for sympathy, and doesn't know what she's going to do or where she's going to go. The kids hate her by this point.

She has the gall to come walking up to our yard one day, crying, because my wife is outside. She complains "he won't even try to work this out, you know, for the kids!" My wife says "I guess you shouldn't have ****ed his best friend, then" and walks away.

He ended up buying a big ranch with horses. Started a new company and made a fortune. Lives with an amazing girl, apparently. The kids love it when he has custody, and hate having to go to their mom's tiny condo. He looks younger, happier, and free.

We ran into her a while ago - she's aged poorly, depressed, poor, and is dating losers and married guys... because that's all she can get, and she doesn't want to be alone. She "regrets" what happened, but I'm sure all she regrets is getting caught.
 
#18 ·
I can't live with the shame. How do I get past this? How can I prove that it was my AP's ex who leaked the video? I have no proof. How do I pursue this legally?
Funny. Not how do I unscar my children and family who seen me deepthroating the AP and taking it anally with a ball gag in my mouth, not to mention exposing my husband to ungodly STDs but how do I save some face and get some money out of this?
 
#37 ·
The truth is their Karma is the fact that if anyone knew who they really were no one would have any serious interest in them, and deep down they know that. Their karma is living with themselves.
 
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#42 ·
Every once in a while we'll do a GNO at a club type place, but not because any of my friends want to be picked up or anything like that, but because we like to dance but most of our Husbands/So aren’t into it anymore. Most of them don't like the music or the drink prices so it's better to leave them behind

I think it comes down to the intent of the of the person going out. A GNO, in and of itself, doesn't lead to cheating. It's the motive or the intentions behind the person going out. That could apply to just about any situation a person finds themselves in, if somebody wants to cheat they most alike will. Be it grocery shopping, the mall, going to work, volunteering, or GNO.

I personally know more people who have cheated with a coworker than a random stranger they meet at a club or bar.
 
#46 ·
It's not the bachelor or bachelorette parties that are the problems it's the *******s going to them who should never get married in the first place.
 
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