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post #1 of 46 (permalink) Old 11-22-2019, 05:35 AM Thread Starter
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My twin teenaged boys came across the sex videos I recorded with my AP. I'm 100% sure AP's ex wife leaked them. My life has been destroyed.

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Alright, this will be a long one. Please bear with me. I'm crying as I'm writing this.

I met my AP, a mid 40s MM while on a business trip and we became really good friends. We both came from almost DB marriages and quickly fell in love. Our affair was strictly physical when it first started, but then we soon realized the connection we had was something you only find once in a lifetime.

We had really great sex with each other. Now because we only met each other on our business trips, we often recorded our intimate sessions for our own pleasure, as a loving memory to relive when we would be apart from each other.

2 years into our affair, we decided that we wanted to be with each other. AP quickly moved his divorce process and his wife of 13 years seemingly accepted the end of their marriage without putting up much of a fight. This was the first red flag, but we ignored it.

I'm in the process of dissolving my marriage to my husband of 20 years. We both have kids. I have two twin boys who are in high school and my AP has a daughter who is 10.

We planned on getting married after my divorce came through. We had already looked at bigger homes for our blended family.

AP had a very amicable divorce, which actually shocked AP himself because he presented her with divorce papers out nowhere. If I was in her place I would have been shocked and devastated.

I'm currently in the process of an emotionally charged divorce as my husband didn't know why our marriage is ending.

Well last night, while we were getting ready to have our last family dinner together, my two twin boys came rushing into the dining room crying bitterly accusing me of being a *****. Turns out, In their high school boys GC, some little punk posted ALL THE SEX VIDEOS I recorded with my AP. My world has come crashing down. My boys tried to physically fight me last night and were restrained by my husband. I immediately called up AP and told them what went on. He said he has no idea how the videos got leaked.

Today morning I went to my AP ex wife's workplace (she is an attorney) to confront her. She acted fake surprised and was NOT AT ALL devastated that her husband left her for me when I told her everything.

As I was leaving, AP's ex wife shot me with an evil, knowing smile and got back to whatever the hell she was doing.

I'm gutted. My babies DID NOT deserve to see that. We live in a small town and scandals like this get around pretty fast. I just got served with a letter from HR asking me to submit my resignation. My AP is going to resign today.

I'm now looking to put my boys out of this school. My husband hasn't taken my calls or talked to me since last night.

I can't believe this happened to me. I'm shaking as I'm writing this. I've always been a lurker on this sub and always loved reading the stories here. Never thought It would come down to this.

I can't live with the shame. How do I get past this? How can I prove that it was my AP's ex who leaked the video? I have no proof. How do I pursue this legally?
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Karma. Talk about lack of empathy for anyone but herself. She’s Partially right that her teen sons didn’t deserve to see thaT. The true remark would have been that her sons didn’t deserve a mother who would betray the family like that and film it to celebrate it.

I imagine that she received a bunch of sympathy from fellow home wreckers. Makes me think of how dual home wreckers are treated like royalty over on LS OM/OW section.
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Re: Well that's one way to cope with infidelity -- She certainly showed them

“Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned”
William Congreve 1697.

When someone says it’s not the money it’s the principle,it’s always the money.
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Wow. Pls be reminded, it's not all about you.

When you blindsided your H, you lost me there.

Karma is a *****.

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I don't know...I guess I am not buying this. I am going to have to call BS. I do think a lot of it is believable, but they lost me when she showed up at the job of the OM's wife. I really don't think she would have the guts to do that. So you were banging her husband for years, and without any proof you are just going to waltz into her place of business and make accusations and expose the fact that you were the other woman all along? That's awfully bold and stupid to boot.

The other thing she said that I don't buy is that her twin boys tried to physically attack her. I just can't see most men raising their hands to their own mother no matter how heinous of an act she has committed, and I am supposed to believe that two teenaged boys were trying to physically attack her? Would they be devastated and shocked, of course. But trying to beat up your own mom along with your brother? Thats a bit much. I suppose it could be true, but I really doubt it.
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Re: Well that's one way to cope with infidelity -- She certainly showed them

It took a whole six hours for the first link request.

Reddit is going to the dogs.

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Someone has to write click bait .... job done.

Bruce .... you should really go find yourself one of those “Men going their own way” groups. You would fit the mold perfectly.
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Re: Well that's one way to cope with infidelity -- She certainly showed them

Sad situation overall. However, if the betrayed wife shared sex videos with teenage minors, she can - and should - be prosecuted as a sex offender.

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If this is true, state bar should be contacted.
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Not buying this story at all.

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Not buying this story at all.
I could be wrong, but I think its a fictional narrative written by someone, a good old fashioned troll post. A lot of people that have been cheated on like stories about the Karma bus for cheaters. Thats understandable. But in my opinion some people like them so much that when something is very off with a story, they never question it. To me this story seems too far fetched in a few areas. In addition to my earlier points. I wouldn't think the OM's wife would flush her career as an attorney down the toilet for sending/posting a video like that. Especially when she was so supposedly so measured and laid back for so long throughout the divorce process. It just doesn't make sense. A lot of it doesn't. These people either don't exist or its a greatly exaggerated version.
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If this is true, state bar should be contacted.
If this is true, the reality is that it would almost be impossible to prove on several levels. And almost no LEA has the resources to look in to this. This kind of thing is so hard to work up. Not completely impossible but close to it.

However, if it was true, while I hate that the kids saw it, how fitting that she be outed this way.

Some poor dumb guy wondering why his marriage broke up, and BOOM, this is the reason why.

I am thinking the original post was a troll though...
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Re: Well that's one way to cope with infidelity -- She certainly showed them

Yawn. Nicely written story but that's about all.

On a side note anyone dumb enough to send pics or do videos should realize you have zero control over them once they're out.

I see call a lawyer, call a lawyer all the time. Once that cats out of the bag a 1000 lawyers can't put it back in.

But there are laws against this!!!! Yeah try and prove it. Plus if someone's half way smart you can't trace it as well.
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If this is true, which ehhhhhh, however if true, this is one of the most well played acts of vengeance. One can assume that as an attorney, BW safeguarded her income, possibly with a prenup, but I venture to guess as an attorney, BW was a smart enough cookie to cover her ass. She would also know enough that public exposure would work to the betrayed husband's advantage in several ways. I have found that infidelity has worked to the betrayed's advantage with custody percentages. Some states and provinces mandate 50/50 custody, however, if you are in a jurisdiction where it counts, then...go for it.

So, by exposure, she gives her ex a gigantic kick to the nads and screws his AP. First it exposes the rationale for the divorce to the BH, giving him time to amend his divorce. It provides evidence for custody, and courts are apt to overlook the WW's unemployed status when calculating CS, as it was her fault that she is jobless. (This, I have seen) Let alone the atom bomb that this put into the relationships the cheaters had with their children. When the judge asks, "Who do you want to live with, Jenny?" You kinda know what the answer will be. And finally, the love vultures wanted to be together. It will be so easy as two unemployed idiots, in a small town, with a scandal all around them. Yeah, it will last as long as a fart in a windstorm.

Well played madam, if true, once again, but well played.

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When the judge asks, "Who do you want to live with, Jenny?" You kinda know what the answer will be.
My parents always attributed their long marriage to me.
Neither of them wanted custody.

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