thank you for your input. Our prenup basically said the wealth that we have before our mariage should be owned to ourself, not as a property of our mariage. Both my husband and I agreed on this prenup before marriage because some of my parents finance were under my name, and I did not feel it is right to claim what belongs to my parents as ours.
thank you for your reply. Yes in the end I went and signed the papers underpressure, because my husband said he already put the downpayment to the house and if the purchase does not go through he will loose a significant amount of money. To be honest, I signed the papers with resentment. We had a huge fight about it the night before, but in the end I signed it. I literally knew about the house purcahse less than a week before the deadline of signing the papers.
He did not say why he kept it a secret but I suspect because I would be against the purchase, because it is beyond his means. You see, in order for him to get this place not only did he borrowed a significant amount of money from the bank but also his friends. The reason why he wanted to get the house is, renovate it, and to rent it out and get some rent money out of it.
thank you for your reply. Yes, basically the bank told him, they need me, the wife, to sign the paper acknowledging the purchase of the house, the house will be 100% under his name and his ownership though. I literally know all about this 1 week before the signing deadline. He only told me about this purchase because there was no other way to do this without my involvement. As mentioned, this hurt my feelings a lot.
thank you for responding. I did some investigation because I was worried about his determination to purchase the property, the house price and the location is not the best deal, there are plenty of other better opportunity. The only reason why he is persistant is because his friend promised to find him a tenant right away.
Yes, you are correct, I am the fiscally conservative one in the family, I would have not been to quick to agree on a property before doing some investigation and checking the health of our finance. I would not have made a split second decision for something this big. So most likely I would be the one who would slow down the process. The rest of our marriage is not that great, before this purchase, my husband has made some other big decisions single handedly (renovating the house without proper planning nor my agreement, that resulted me being ill, because of the heavy dust, for an extended period of time and indirectly caused me to lose my job because not performing 150% at my work). We do have a problem of him making decisions without consulting me and this results me resenting him. Am I over reacting also on this matter?
Ladies, any advise what should be my next step? Do you think is this marriage still recoverable as I think he would do this again in the future.