Re: Married but separated, now there's another woman. Feeling broken...
Sorry to jump in late on this one, I have been off TAM for a few months. I don't want to say all people are the same but your spouse might be my STBXH twin! I feel your husband might have narcissist personality disorder, he can be charming and loving, but selfish at the same time. He worries the most about what others think of him and worst of all he will NEVER have the ability to feel empathy.
Have you ever discussed a possibility of a personality disorder with your MC without him present? I would suggest you get a professional opinion, if you are dealing with a personality disorder then you really need to educate yourself.
I have been living on my own for over 12 months and my STBXH still does the same things your spouse does, try to plan family trips and events, ask me to go out, and basically keeping in arms reach in case somehow I lose my mind and want to come back, all while still in contact will the initial OW. He met two more while we were separated but reconciling and he is still in contact with them as well. He sees nothing wrong with it and because of his NPD he never will.