Re: Revisited: Making A Man Wait For Sex
Although I have never had any expectation of having sex early and still don't, most of the women I have had sex with asked me out and offered me sex within hours of meeting or more usually the first, second and less often sometimes the third date. No pressure from me, lies or impatience at all, in fact sometimes I would be asked why I didn't have sex with them earlier.
One of the thing that stands out the most to me, is that with almost all of the people I have had sex with and some people I haven't had sex with. There's a lust/love at first sight thing going on, you know the old cliché, of where our eyes first met bam!
That said I've dated women who I haven't had sex with. Which is all pretty simple if we don't click, and I don't get the coincident all pervasive buzz/thickness in the air of overwhelming mutual sexual attraction I move on. There's little point wasting time trying to establish a sexual relationship absent having that mutual and overwhelming sexual desire. So for me it isn't about time at all, it's always about whether one has that all pervasive sexual connection or not.
When it comes to investing in a long term sexual relationships, some men and women simply prefer to test sexual compatibility first, lest they invest themselves emotionally in a sexual relationship with a sexual partner that is either rubbish in bed or sexually incompatible.
Some men and some women variously (because it depends in part upon who you're with) bond sexually first and the rest follows, while some men and women variously bond emotionally first and the rest follows. Neither is right or wrong, better or worse, they are just different and can both lead to equally positive or not so positive outcomes.