: Your husband seems great to have shown you that and not respond. With my experience tho - I recommend ALL couples to read "not just friends" to help prevent infidelity. If *YOU* think it can't happen to you - then it will most likely happen (You or your husband). Back in my single days, I've gotten Homeruns on a first date or even as fast as 5 minutes. Your friend "cathy" is an enemy of your relationship.
: During false-R, WW still in the fog (only 2 months into trying to fix our relationship) - she is still weak but should have talked to her REAL friends or family... but instead, rather shocking - this "friend" who I'll call "Hoe"... who was supportive of US getting back together, tells my WW something different. Like "years ago, Tador had sex with another woman, he doesn't care about you. He is a control freak and is abusing you". She told my WW things that DID NOT HAPPEN, could NOT have happened about me. Get this, Hoe told my WW I was saying about her (my wife) " F**K that b!tch!". I've NEVER EVER called my wife a B!tch in anger to her face... ever. Not even during her affair arguments. I have a few times outside alone to burn off the energy and anxiety. Two days later, my wife sees the POSOM... after all, I am this HORRIBLE person who is moody and controlling - not letting her talk to the OM or whatever nonsense.
Since then, I showed my wife the FB text logs between myself and Hoe... where Hoe is like "you make a great couple!" 3 weeks before. To telling my wife "I always thought Tador was abusing you. I never liked him and glad you finally saw that!". Yep, she's crazy. I looked at Hoe's entire text history to my wife. Hoe is has moved out-of state, is bi-sexual and always wanted to have sex with my wife - sent her sex fantasies. Hoe wanted my wife to move in with her. Hoe is also banging around 20 yr old boys. Hoe even forwarded a message that a friend of hers who has seen my WW's facebook profile - that he wants to date and bang her. **This is just before I found out the BS FB messenges and how I busted both of them!**.
Hoe has written a 15page diary entry about the horrible things I did to my wife years ago. I only meet Hoe once, and spent a total of an hour talking to her over the course of 12 hours. Hoe gave me & wife a hug goodbye and left on good spirits. Hence, her drama is BS.
When wife sees both mine and her own messages months later, she sees the bigger picture. Wife defriends and blocks Hoe.
Hoe is crazy. There are people like that.
There are people who use such tactics (usually a better job) to BREAK up a couple to get one of them... some of them spending many months to a year or so to make complete their plan. Sickos.