Re: Did you marry young?
When we got married I was 26 and my wife was 22. We sure thought we were ready. But looking back the past 9 years since we got married, we both had a lot of growing up to do. Not to point fingers, but my wife was really not in a good place at that time. She was kind of directionless, didn't have any kind of career or goals in mind, she would just kind of bounce from one low paying job to another. A small reason why we got married when we did was just so that she could stop living in poverty. I was only 26, but I at least had my career somewhat underway making decent money, owned a house, was able to co-sign so she could buy a vehicle, etc. Looking back now, I realize that wasn't probably the right decision, and I'd probably be horrified if my son or daughter were in the same situation someday. I really think we would've benefitted from just dating for another year before getting engaged. It's hard when your girlfriend is struggling to pay rent and has her electric shut off, has a piece of crap vehicle than needs more work than it's even worth. At one point she fell and broke her leg (at work), and had to be on crutches for a month. She got fired because she couldn't ever come to work, and I ended up having to pay her rent because she was living paycheck to paycheck. Eventually, I said "**** it, just move in with me." Then we got engaged, got married, etc.
Eventually, my wife decided she was ready to go to college and become and English teacher (an early attempt at college before we met ended after 1 semester because of financial difficulties, and after that she just started working jobs and eventually met me). Going to college was the best thing for her, it gave her the confidence and sense of purpose she was lacking in her life, and she only got better from there. I can honestly say now that I'm very happy to be with her, and we've built a great life and have a great family, but the road to this point was not easy.
My advice to anybody would be to not get married until you're 28, or maybe even 30. Get your **** together first. Become the person you want to be BEFORE you get married. Have as many experiences as you can while you're young and unattached. Find out who you are, what you like, what YOUR goals are, and go for it.
Last edited by podiumboy; 08-19-2017 at 10:23 AM.