MIL in hospital...wife there more than home
I know I'm putting myself at the risk of getting clobbered with comments about being selfish, but here goes.
Setup: I work overnight, then get our daughter ready for school, then sleep. My wife works dawn to afternoon, normally we have some family time, then I go to work...and she does our kid's bedtime routine.
My mother in law, who lives below us, fell walking to the bus to go to work nearly 2 weeks ago. She tore up her leg pretty bad. I didn't know how bad it was when I helped her back to her house and called an ambulance.
Yes, it is serious. My wife's mom has had surgeries and is going to need lots and lots of rehab. But she is alert and "being herself" according to my wife. Meaning, she's being very demanding and ordering my wife around. Her words.
My wife has been at the hospital every spare moment until she MUST be home so I can leave for work. On work days, she goes directly from the office in the afternoon. On off days, she goes from morning until about 5pm. She's telling me she's chasing down nurses, chasing down doctors to give them forms, going out on meal runs, and doing things like connecting electronic devices so her mom has her entertainment. I've been at home, picking up child, making sure homework gets done, washing dishes, folding clothes, and generally doing the housework that otherwise won't get done. Now she's thinking about backing out of an upcoming weekend out of town which revolves around a doctor's appointment for our daughter.
Things have been tense, as I have suggested that she's overdoing it a bit. There are other family members around, like her mom's sisters, but as she puts it, "I'm the daughter." OUR daughter, meanwhile, is acting out because mom isn't home. And I'm stuck with those tantrums and messes too.
I know I have to do my part...I even ensured she had a Valentine's Day gift today. But when I said I hadn't had a shower she said it was my fault for sleeping too late (did I mention I work overnights?)
I'm stressed. I know she is too.
Last edited by StevenA310; 02-14-2018 at 08:51 PM.