That is a ridiculous statement, Andy. Can you even remember the names of every woman you spent hours bedding? I'm sure you cannot. You cannot remember the conversations you had with them either.
Rubix Cube's wife may very well have forgotten the details of the one conversation she had with him...which only lasted for minutes.
Just to clarify for accuracy, there were many conversations.They were in this prayer group together for 10 years, 2 of them being AFTER the known inappropriate conversation and She can't remember any of them with the comment that, many were about scripture or him quoting scripture. I'm with Andy on this. I think there are lies of omission and minimization here. I'm almost certain of it. She recalls what he said to her because she was shocked, but can't remember anything she said about me. The end result being someone else committed the known foul. She has told me in general what she said to other women about me, but I believe that is being minimized as well. Short of using some serious interrogation techniques (my jumper cables are broken and I'm out of sponges, by the way) the only way I'll get this is when she decides I do. It's not helping things the longer it takes, and hopefully she realizes that.
Trying to get information from your wife must be exhausting.You call it browbeating but it’s more like pulling teeth.
Yep, it truly sucks and wastes a huge amount of time when we could be moving on and trying to make things better.
I did come out of that meeting feeling good but don't think for a second that your thought wasn't on my mind the whole time. Even though they didn't verbally gang up on me I knew I was the odd man out, and I'm way out, I've told her this before. I agree with you somewhat about the loyalties but I also know many of the other
people in this group and their character, and I'm reasonably sure (like 99% only because I never say never) they wouldn't let something like this happen in front of them and or try to enable it. Though I may come across on here as being undecided, I'm anything but a weak minded individual. At this point, there is no difference in what is happening and what I offered, but I do have a better idea of my wife's commitment. She already made it clear she enjoyed chatting with this guy, and he being made aware really doesn't change a thing, it may give him the opportunity to not act like a dumbass again if he actually is innocent. My email to him left no doubt what I thought, so he was not unaware. I'm listening to everyone and contemplating what has been advised, but I also have a plan to proceed and adapting as needed.
I've also been reading daily on these forums for over 2 years and remember when you showed up. I followed your story closely and as far as payback it's one of the best
, but that aggressiveness seems to show up in your posts no matter the offense or at what level, NTTIATWWT /not judging, and I take that with the rest and try to come up with what I can live with. So instead of telling me what I'm doing wrong, tell me exactly what you think I should do and what your endgame would look like, and keep in mind I don't have the re$ource$ that you do so having my own private spec ops team kidnap the guy and interrogate him on my private island isn't an option this week.