I am thinking about cheating on my husband. I love him, but not in love. He is foul tempered, doesn't have any desire for me any more due to medication. He doesn't treat me like his lover any more. Is disrespectful and rude to me in public. Once, drunk, sat down and said it wasn't working any more (over the fact he doesn't like my dog). He is not the man I married, and I could live with that if I got just a little bit of physical attention and respect. It is so bad, that the last time we made love, (over in 2 minutes) and no foreplay, I hurt inside because of lack of use. Women my age (63) tend to be dry, if you know what I mean, and lube doesn't help. I hope I'm not too graphic here.
But really guys, I am so turned on by a 70 year old sexting me (says he hasn't had sex in 10 years due to his wife's lack of desire - and she is 350#), I feel alive again. And, no matter how much I asked my husband to get help, he just got more angry with me. I am 5'1, 115, and still have the sex drive I had when I was 35. I have just told myself it's life and marriage, and that's the way it goes. Well, I am close to saying no, there is more to life.
I read a bit on a website for women whose husband's have cheated on them. There are all kinds of words they use for women like me, and I am ashamed that I feel so ready to do this despicable thing to the man I've been married to for 26 years.
Any advice you would give your wife if you knew she felt this way?
Listen, you know, you could cheat, if you want to. Everyone can.
But I want to tell you that it is not the way to go, sugar, it just is not.
Is there no way that you can see divorcing him and living an honest life? None?
Believe me, I understand, I have been with so many woman whose husband does not take care of her needs. Yes, the sex was great because they were desperate, but at some point they all felt horrible.
Is there anyway that I could convince you not to do this, and move on from him, or at least ask for an open relationship?