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post #16 of 22 (permalink) Old 07-11-2018, 10:00 AM
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Re: Any advice you would give your wife

Well, if you were my wife and I knew you were going to cheat on me I'd just divorce you. If my wife lovingly shared with me all the ways she felt unfulfilled in the marriage and that she missed our physical bonding and how hurt she felt by my actions I'd think I'd be more apt to feel motivation to change and correct my mistakes.

As someone who is not your husband my advice is to stay faithful to your husband and confront him with how you feel and tell him bluntly what you need.....or divorce him. Then you'd be free to sleep with whoever you want. Don't lie and sneak around like scum and have affairs.

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Doesn't your wife realise that we can have and enjoy sex with our spouse just because we love them and care about them no matter how we 'feel?'
@Diana7 you are missing the point. Dont tell 007 's husband has no desire because of his medication. Mrs Nail has no desire because of her health. Neither of us is justified in cheating regardless of our genders. These problems are common enough and plenty of people work them out. I'm trying to point out to Don't Tell 007 that her infatuation with her older flirting partner has blinded her to the truth of her situation. The problems in her home relationship are not unusual. No matter how many trivial things she can find to list the truth is she is interested outside of the marriage and she just wants an excuse to do it.

In fact the situation for Mrs Nail is much worse than Don't tell's. If she had Don't Tell's drive she would be even more frustrated. I really think that until you are low drive you just don't understand that you can just forget to have sex.
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Re: Any advice you would give your wife

I'm going to go out on a limb here....


She is ALREADY CHEATING! She is sexting another man behind her husbands back. It's a EA at least. But cheating nonetheless. Ofcourse, the husband wants to divorce and is angry...HE KNOWS she is checked out.

I am also going to throw my hat into the ring that she is a history revisionist and cake eater as well.....The BH is 70? He knows he's screwed and stuck...Hardly a great time to go looking for a "new" wife that will not cheat. He knows that he is supposed to be in his golden years, but he got tarnished brass instead.

Want to take a guess that she has cheated before and earlier in their marriage? Just remember, cheaters lie, and lie alot.
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I am thinking about cheating on my husband. I love him, but not in love. He is foul tempered, doesn't have any desire for me any more due to medication. He doesn't treat me like his lover any more. Is disrespectful and rude to me in public. Once, drunk, sat down and said it wasn't working any more (over the fact he doesn't like my dog). He is not the man I married, and I could live with that if I got just a little bit of physical attention and respect. It is so bad, that the last time we made love, (over in 2 minutes) and no foreplay, I hurt inside because of lack of use. Women my age (63) tend to be dry, if you know what I mean, and lube doesn't help. I hope I'm not too graphic here.

But really guys, I am so turned on by a 70 year old sexting me (says he hasn't had sex in 10 years due to his wife's lack of desire - and she is 350#), I feel alive again. And, no matter how much I asked my husband to get help, he just got more angry with me. I am 5'1, 115, and still have the sex drive I had when I was 35. I have just told myself it's life and marriage, and that's the way it goes. Well, I am close to saying no, there is more to life.

I read a bit on a website for women whose husband's have cheated on them. There are all kinds of words they use for women like me, and I am ashamed that I feel so ready to do this despicable thing to the man I've been married to for 26 years.


Any advice you would give your wife if you knew she felt this way?
Yes, I'd ask her to divorce me. But if I were you, I wouldn't do anything with another man until after the divorce is final. You will avoid a world of complications if you don't.
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I am thinking about cheating on my husband. I love him, but not in love. He is foul tempered, doesn't have any desire for me any more due to medication. He doesn't treat me like his lover any more. Is disrespectful and rude to me in public. Once, drunk, sat down and said it wasn't working any more (over the fact he doesn't like my dog). He is not the man I married, and I could live with that if I got just a little bit of physical attention and respect. It is so bad, that the last time we made love, (over in 2 minutes) and no foreplay, I hurt inside because of lack of use. Women my age (63) tend to be dry, if you know what I mean, and lube doesn't help. I hope I'm not too graphic here.

But really guys, I am so turned on by a 70 year old sexting me (says he hasn't had sex in 10 years due to his wife's lack of desire - and she is 350#), I feel alive again. And, no matter how much I asked my husband to get help, he just got more angry with me. I am 5'1, 115, and still have the sex drive I had when I was 35. I have just told myself it's life and marriage, and that's the way it goes. Well, I am close to saying no, there is more to life.

I read a bit on a website for women whose husband's have cheated on them. There are all kinds of words they use for women like me, and I am ashamed that I feel so ready to do this despicable thing to the man I've been married to for 26 years.

Any advice you would give your wife if you knew she felt this way?
Listen, you know, you could cheat, if you want to. Everyone can.

But I want to tell you that it is not the way to go, sugar, it just is not.

Is there no way that you can see divorcing him and living an honest life? None?

Believe me, I understand, I have been with so many woman whose husband does not take care of her needs. Yes, the sex was great because they were desperate, but at some point they all felt horrible.

Is there anyway that I could convince you not to do this, and move on from him, or at least ask for an open relationship?
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My advice would be:

When you move into your new apartment, make sure you get renter's insurance.
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Re: Any advice you would give your wife

Tell your husband you have been sexting a 70 year old married man and thinking of actually sleeping with him...
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