You’re right I don’t need internet strangers approval to be happy. Just find it crazy at what people here are saying. Just thought a group like this would be somewhat supportive
I think that overall, the group has been quite supportive. Most of us have honed in on two key ideas:
1. She has been brutally honest with you about her past. If she was trying to deceive, or even minimize, she wouldn't have told you what she has told you, especially knowing the judgment it could lead to. Many of us see bravery and integrity here.
2. That her behavior toward you and respect for your relationship has been rock solid for two years now. Contrary to one opinion expressed on this thread, people are not generally able to "keep it together" for a duration of that length if there's something is still amiss.
Some may still say there's still risk attached here, but there's risk in every relationship. The red flags appear to be in the past and the recent history, which is long enough to establish a solid pattern, is free of those red flags.
Don't let a few naysayers commandeer your impression of this site as a whole. There've been plenty of posters, both male and female, who are seeing things like you do.
Personally, while acknowledging the risk, I would still add that a woman who has been through all this and come out the other side with her wits intact and her integrity solid, is likely to be a most exceptional woman indeed. Recognizing that can carry great reward.