Re: And the stupid dating game continues
I'll also state that a very standard practice for me, was NOT to get caught up in weeks of texting or emailing, or phone calls. The point of the exercise is to have the date. Plan on a 40 minute date for coffee, or lunch, ice cream dates were a favorite of mine. If you have a problem with ice cream short of lactose intolerance, you just made my decision for me.
I wrote about my experience with a woman years ago, we exchanged some emails, than texting, than phone calls. We literally spoke for about 3 weeks before we met. She had my photos. She even brought up and started discussing sex.
We planned back to back dates, a Friday, after I literally had flown in from business travel, and then a day date on Saturday. Long story short, when we met Friday, and it became apparent in very short order that she liked the photos better than the actual merchandise.
We had established a rapport before actually even meeting ... which in my opinion is a bad idea, because as in my case it can set up a false narrative.
3 points of contact and ask for the date. And my advice to you is, that if you are corresponding with a guy who HASN'T asked for a date after no more than 5 points of contact, email or whatver; (mine was 3), he's probably not worth your time. I'll tell you on dating sites who doesn't mind the 'long game' at all? Married dudes.
It's worth recognizing that women want to be safe, and again, most men are going to acknowledge that. But my simple rule for being on a dating site, was to get to the date. All the phone calls and texts in the world, don't have the same weight as that first 30 seconds when you look in someone eyes, or regard their smile (or lack of one) when you are actually engaging for the first time.
I know it's easy to roll your eyes at the D-bags like that guy, but there is also something to be said for 'failing fast', the faster you can weed through chaff, the sooner you will eventually get to the wheat.
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